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I want to rehome my cat

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Remmy123 · 25/02/2020 21:53

Hi, I would like to rehome my 4 year old male tabby .. what is the kindest way of doing this?

I would like to avoid a shelter, I do t have any friends or family who can take him.

Any advice?

Thanks

OP posts:
MeetingForCoffee · 26/02/2020 10:13

Please contact Blue Cross that should be

purpleme12 · 26/02/2020 10:14

Well I just hope she learns from this.
I know other people who have got pets then rehome for different reasons then end up getting another one and in some cases the same thing happening again

SwishSwishSheesh · 26/02/2020 10:15

OP if it's any consolation I understand what you're going through. Sometimes the pet's personality just isn't right. It's just like getting into a relationship with a wrong person. It's not like you're just dropping it off in the middle of the woods, is it?

purpleme12 · 26/02/2020 10:19

The pet's personality isn't right- wow

whyisitsoflammingdifficult · 26/02/2020 10:25

Cats even if they are bonded to their human slaves are fickle things, and many treat their homes as hotels!

I had to rehome my beloved cat a few years ago (it broke my heart). I went to visit him and he wouldn’t come anywhere near me! He could have been sulking I guess, but honestly he was fine and was well loved in his new home, even though he was naughty and drove my friend mad by him bringing her presents such as birds and rabbits...

@Remmy123 the kindest thing would be to take him to your local cat shelter where he can be rehomed to a suitable slave.

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Remmy123 · 26/02/2020 10:31

Thanks for helpful comments, I may have a home from someone on mumsnet who messaged me and recently lost their tabby cat (also no children living at home) - so this could be perfect.

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SiliconHeaven · 26/02/2020 10:55

it is perfect :)

EachandEveryone · 26/02/2020 10:57

How do you know that?

SaskiaRembrandt · 26/02/2020 12:06

Thanks for helpful comments, I may have a home from someone on mumsnet who messaged me and recently lost their tabby cat (also no children living at home) - so this could be perfect.

How do you know they are genuine? Do you have any way of checking that they are who they say they are?

DustOffYourHighestHopes · 26/02/2020 12:09

Remmy, I don’t know why you are getting a flaming. I understand your position and hope your cat finds a good home soon.

Wolfiefan · 26/02/2020 12:10

Don’t rehome to a complete stranger. You have no idea who this person is.
Contact a rescue.
FFS. The least you owe this animal you’re dumping is to ensure it’s not ending up as dog fight bait. Angry

Winterlife · 26/02/2020 12:20

Don’t take the criticism to heart, OP. Some of the posters comparing you to Cruella de Vil have no issue with dumping a spouse or cutting ties with family members. In fact, think of it as a divorce.

It sounds like you’re handling this responsibly.

Gingerkittykat · 26/02/2020 12:45

I don't understand why you kept the cat for 4 years if you realised it was a mistake early on.

Also you are wrong about cats not giving a shit about their owhners, they are also extremely attached to their territory and I know of several cats who make their way home after being rehomed.

That said it is best for the cat to be somewhere it is wanted and like others have said rescue is the best option.

purpleme12 · 26/02/2020 12:53

Yes this thread some of the posters really show a lot of people's school attitude to pets

purpleme12 · 26/02/2020 12:53

Awful, not school

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Remmy123 · 26/02/2020 13:14

The lady in question has just emailed me lots of information about herself (she sounds amazing) , probably more than cats rescue would ask. I certainly was asked nothing when I rescued my rabbits.

I am not a heartless women, I am doing checks I am not completely stupid hence writing this thread!!

OP posts:
Wolfiefan · 26/02/2020 13:21

You are completely stupid if you think a stranger emailing you is you doing checks like a proper rescue would.
Angry

FlowerArranger · 26/02/2020 13:32

@Remmy123 It must be really upsetting to read some of these responses. I have volunteered at two shelters for several years and have witnessed the spurious and often cruel ways in which many people get rid of their pets when they are no longer cute or convenient.

I can see that you that you are doing the best you can. In an ideal world everyone who adopts a pet will be in it for the entirety of its lifespan, but life often puts all kinds of spanners in the way. I don't see why you wouldn't be able to check out interested parties for their suitability to adopt.

Sagradafamiliar · 26/02/2020 13:35

You've done nothing wrong, OP. Well done on not rising to the nastiness and troll hunting here. Animals being rehomed is part of life, at least you have your cat's best interests at heart enough to ask and want to do the right thing Flowers

Original poster
Remmy123 · 26/02/2020 13:45

Thanks to the lovely ladies here x

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0v9c99f9g9d939d9f9g9h8h · 26/02/2020 13:50

my cat also scratches my two year old and is a general nuisance

If your cat is assaulting and harassing your toddler, you either keep them apart or re-home the cat. That is unacceptable. There's nothing virtuous about allowing your toddler to be bullied. Chances are you're rearing a child who will, understandably, kick the cat when you're not looking. No one wins.

EachandEveryone · 26/02/2020 13:51

What are the chances of some random on here living near you and wanting a cat exactly like yours? Nil.

0v9c99f9g9d939d9f9g9h8h · 26/02/2020 13:52

cats don't scratch unless they're threatened

hahahahahaha

Strongmummy · 26/02/2020 13:55

This thread is such bull 🤣🤣 . Op get a hobby

SiliconHeaven · 26/02/2020 14:03

What are the chances of some random on here living near you and wanting a cat exactly like yours? Nil
clearly not... 100% obviously :)

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