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I want to rehome my cat

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Remmy123 · 25/02/2020 21:53

Hi, I would like to rehome my 4 year old male tabby .. what is the kindest way of doing this?

I would like to avoid a shelter, I do t have any friends or family who can take him.

Any advice?

Thanks

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Wolfiefan · 26/02/2020 16:38

WeBuilt
I have enough cats I’m afraid. Two troublesome torties.
But just because they can be a PITA I won’t flog them online. Kind of fond of the little buggers.

SaskiaRembrandt · 26/02/2020 16:40

Remmy123 it doesn't matter if you meet this person, or how nice she seems, you don't know her. Of course, she's going to appear nice, she wants your cat, but you have no way of knowing what she will do with him once you hand him over. People who use cats in dog fighting or who like harm them don't admit that, they pretend to be lovely, caring people who can be trusted with a cat.

I understand why you want to rehome him, but this isn't the way to do it. Please phone the Blue Cross or the Cat Protection League.

(And yes, I'm aware this could be a wind-up, but in case it isn't ...)

ahenderson270 · 26/02/2020 16:47

Wow. Check out the nastiness on here ... you're all calling her awful names because she just hasn't developed a strong attachment to a cat, that despite that is being very well cared for and carefully re-homed.. whilst acting like a deranged mob.. is that irony really lost on you 🤦🏻‍♀️

OP contact cats protection I think they will re-home from your home ❤️

Original poster
Remmy123 · 26/02/2020 16:48

how do cats protection etc vet people, do they go to their homes?

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Original poster
Remmy123 · 26/02/2020 16:49

Thanks ahenderson - anyone would think this was animal cruelty!

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ahenderson270 · 26/02/2020 16:54

@Remmy it's ok love I'm sure half the people on here are purely to get their kicks by being arseholes 🤷🏻‍♀️

Cats protection vet the people applying for your pet in the same way they would if it was in a shelter but it means the cat doesn't have to move twice.

An applicant fills out a form, has to have a house check and other checks before they're even passed to you.

They then come meet the cat in your home, and you get the final say.

It's quite lovely xx

Original poster
Remmy123 · 26/02/2020 16:56

Thanks v helpful x

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Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 26/02/2020 17:04

how do cats protection etc vet people, do they go to their homes?

Battersea didn't visit us - but to be fair we didn't turn up on a van marked 'J. Torquemada and Sons, Furriers.' Grin
Rescues do charge for adopting a cat (£60 upwards from memory). I assume this does something to ensure that people are genuine.

OP - I'd tend to rehome via a rescue centre rather than to someone you don't know.

And OP - much as I love my cats - I do tend to think that the mercenary little buggers would happily settle in elsewhere so I wouldn't worry too much.

FamilyOfAliens · 26/02/2020 17:12

If your cat is scratching and you’ve had him for four years, he’s obviously very unhappy. I agree with rehoming - you clearly know nothing about cats if you’re posting “he doesn’t give a shit about me”.

FamilyOfAliens · 26/02/2020 17:13

Rescues do charge for adopting a cat (£60 upwards from memory)

Perhaps that’s why the OP finds the option of rehoming to an anonymous random on the internet so appealing?

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 26/02/2020 17:22

Rescues do charge for adopting a cat (£60 upwards from memory)

That is the or the person adopting the cat - I don't believe Battersea charge people for bringing an animal in to them for adoption.

Sagradafamiliar · 26/02/2020 17:45

The nasty posters only contribute towards animal neglect, sadly. Attitudes like theirs and shaming people are creating a stigma around doing the right thing, which leads to people putting up with a less than ideal situation and the pets suffer.

And then you have people whose circumstances change, they fall ill, have to stop work and whilst they love their cats dearly, they can't afford to feed them properly. But being labelled as irresponsible and uncaring by other cat lovers would break their hearts.

Wolfiefan · 26/02/2020 18:09

OP isn’t ill. Just CBA.
We adopted a couple of cats after a marriage break up where the owners really had no choice but to give them up.
I can’t understand anyone handing a pet over to a stranger on the internet. Surely when you take on a pet you try and love it and keep it forever. Or at least do the best for it.

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Remmy123 · 26/02/2020 18:25

I am doing the best for him - I've not handed him to anyone yet so you all need to calm down!!

How do you know my marriage hasn't broken down.. how do you know what my circumstances are?? I don't feel the need to tell you all about the reasons why!!!

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Chemenger · 26/02/2020 18:27

I home visit for CP, OP I am happy to run through our process and share our questionnaire, pm me. We don’t charge adopters for home to home adoption, only for cats we have physically in our care.

Wolfiefan · 26/02/2020 18:27

You don’t seem the slightest bit bothered about giving him up.
And the idea of handing him to a stranger you “met” online! Ridiculous.

Winterlife · 26/02/2020 18:34

Why should she be bothered? Frankly, the cat sounds like an arsehole.

Wolfiefan · 26/02/2020 18:35

What a nasty attitude. You take on an animal then you have a responsibility. The least you can do is make sure it’s safe and cared for.

Sagradafamiliar · 26/02/2020 18:35

So should the cat stay with someone you think can't be arsed with it then, wolfie?

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Remmy123 · 26/02/2020 18:36

Wolfiefan - how do you know I'm not bothered? You don't know me?

I am happy to contribute / donate etc that is not an issue

I'm not responding to this thread any more I think it's ridiculous that because I have the best interest of an animal at heart 'i should never have animals again' he must be so unhappy' 'I'm callous' etc and the people who are writing this, are his actually animal lovers yourself?!

I rescued rabbits and I would never be so spiteful to the owners looking to rehome!!

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Wolfiefan · 26/02/2020 18:47

You don’t have the best interests of the animal at heart. Or you would bother to go to a rescue.

FamilyOfAliens · 26/02/2020 18:50

Why should she be bothered? Frankly, the cat sounds like an arsehole.

Domestic animals respond and behave according to how they are treated by their supposed carers, unless they are unwell.

So if the cat’s an “arsehole” after being with the same owner for four years, there will be a very good reason why.

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Remmy123 · 26/02/2020 18:54

He isn't an arsehole - not best with young kids, like lots of cats.

He is very well looked after.

Anyway - I'm off...

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ChickLitLover · 26/02/2020 19:04

Simple answer is, I am really just not a cat person - I have owned animals (dogs /rescue rabbits, etc), but I have never bonded with my cat - please don't flame me!! A cat really isn't for me.

I agree the cat is better off without you. I’m afraid once you have taken an animal on, I think you look after them for life except in exceptional circumstances. There was a post a few weeks ago about a lady who I think had got divorced, had to move into a place without a garden, was now disabled, couldn’t walk her dogs and she chose to rehome her dogs because she couldn’t actually look after them and give them what they needed. Her posts were heartbreaking to read. She was so, so sad to lose her dogs. This is very different to that. Not a cat person, not good enough. The cat has scratched your child, then be a parent and keep them separate. You don’t though, so like I say, I agree the cat is better off without you.

Sonichu · 26/02/2020 19:07

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