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I want to rehome my cat

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Remmy123 · 25/02/2020 21:53

Hi, I would like to rehome my 4 year old male tabby .. what is the kindest way of doing this?

I would like to avoid a shelter, I do t have any friends or family who can take him.

Any advice?

Thanks

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Toddlerteaplease · 26/02/2020 02:52

I don't treat animals like they are disposable I have always had pets that stay with me until they die and are very much loved and part of the family.

Err then why are you wanting rid of him? Clearly he is disposable. AngryAngryAngryAngry

Toddlerteaplease · 26/02/2020 02:54

Though I do agree with a PP who said he deserves to be with someone who loves him.

MrsTerryPratchett · 26/02/2020 03:11

Rescue so he is loved.

Can't whomever is looking after your children (their father?) also look after your cat while you work?

sunshineandshowers21 · 26/02/2020 03:46

i take it you’re rehoming your kids whilst you’re at it if you’re not going to be around much then? seeing as they need much more looking after than a cat does... one of my cats doesn’t go near my kids and they would still be heartbroken if we got rid of her - she went missing for two days and they were beside themselves. you sound so cold. how can you have a cat for four years that even sleeps on your bed and feel nothing towards it?

violetbunny · 26/02/2020 03:59

Please make sure you give him to Cats Protection or similar, do not rehome him yourself. Horrible and cruel things can happen to cats given away to just anyone.

Please also consider making a donation to the shelter as well to help cover the costs of rehoming him. It would be the responsible thing to do.

SD1978 · 26/02/2020 04:04

Not hate at place to ask about rejoining- you should financially and emotionally castrate yourself for any pet you have the privilege to bring hone, or else you're a monster........otherwise a no kill shelter/ adoption group is your best bet.

Strongmummy · 26/02/2020 06:50

This whole thread smacks of bullsh*t tbh. I think the OP is just being goady

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Remmy123 · 26/02/2020 07:15

There is no bullshit from me. My circumstances have changed since 4 years ago, I don't see why need to go into that. I asked for a kind way of rehoming him, not to be called callous.

I don't like that he scratches my two year old either, blood has been drawn.

I'd rather any animal placed with someone who has more time rather than co-exist as someone suggested!

Just to add I used to rescue rabbits and foster I'm not a heartless person.

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Chemenger · 26/02/2020 07:20

Ignore all the people telling you you are a terrible person. Get in touch with your local cat protection branch. They will either be able to take him in or help you arrange a home to home adoption, where they vet the prospective adopter for you. There are plenty of people out there looking for friendly young adult cats.

johnwayneisbigleggy · 26/02/2020 07:21

So you're going to travel a lot with work and therefore can't care for a cat but you have kids? And as for him scratching your kids - if they hassle him then he will scratch 🙄
You are utterly irresponsible and your excuse for rehoming him is crap. Get in touch with cats protection so he can have a decent home, poor boy

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Remmy123 · 26/02/2020 07:41

Thanks chemenger appreciate your advice.

johnwayne - there are various reasons, I don't feel the need to explain them all on here. The 2 year old is very gentle with him I might add.. anyway... I'll leave this thread.

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MarthasGinYard · 26/02/2020 07:43

Have you actually asked friends and family?

Fuckitwhynot · 26/02/2020 07:55

Most cats don’t give two fucks about their slaves. As long as someone feeds them, bows to their every whim and provides soft, freshly washed piles of laundry for them to sleep on they’re happy. Your cat will be fine OP, find someone to pamper him and he’ll forget you in 5 mins Grin

Strongmummy · 26/02/2020 08:05

Op - if you didn’t want people to think you were being callous you should have worded your OP and subsequent messages less coldly. People react to what they are presented with.

Strongmummy · 26/02/2020 08:07

@Fuckitwhynot cats don’t like change and it can cause distress

Original poster
Remmy123 · 26/02/2020 08:08

@fuckitwhynot - exactly!! He doesn't give two shits about me 😂

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Remmy123 · 26/02/2020 08:08

Strong mummy - you read them the wrong way!!

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Strongmummy · 26/02/2020 08:10

Yep me and the majority of the other posters.

Chemenger · 26/02/2020 08:17

I foster cats, most of them settle here within a few days, and they may have come from much worse situations than the OP or from owners they are more bonded to. When they go to their new homes I usually get pictures or them looking totally settled within a week. His life will not be destroyed by being rehomed.

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Remmy123 · 26/02/2020 08:20

Thanks again Chemenger

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purpleme12 · 26/02/2020 09:01

There can be some irresponsible people out there who still say they are a rescue do the fact that you say you used to rescue rabbits and foster doesn't necessarily mean you are responsible. Especially as so many people don't look after rabbits properly.

I also wonder if this is a troll looking for reactions

ChewChewIsMySpiritAnimal · 26/02/2020 09:15

Cats aren't the same as kids, in case anyone didn't get that memo. Why's it better for the cat to co exist in a home where he doesn't like some of the occupants as opposed to finding it a home without children?

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Remmy123 · 26/02/2020 09:18

I am not a troll but a regular poster on Mumsnet - I don't want 'reactions' wanted advice but I mostly got judgment.

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purpleme12 · 26/02/2020 09:19

I wonder why

Chemenger · 26/02/2020 10:10

i wonder why - mostly because people like judging more than offering helpful advice. The cat will be happier where he is loved, OP will be happier knowing he has a better home. Yet most people think it’s better for both of them to be a little bit more unhappy just so the OP is properly punished for not loving her cat enough. I’m not seeing the logic. Unless one of you can give her a time machine so she can go back and tell her younger self not to get a cat I don’t see what can be done. She’s not putting the cat out on the street, or dumping it in the countryside, she’s looking for a better life for him.