Drink - I really wouldn't worry about your dd. With a mother like you, how could she possibly not grow up with her eyes and her mind wide open?
At 3 she is far too young to understand or appreciate your concerns. All she wants is mamas love and attention. Tell her she is whatever positive words you use. That is essentially what she is wanting to hear. As she grows older, you will have ample opportunity to share your beliefs with her, and try to steer her in the life direction you wish for.
But don't forget, that although only 3 now, she will be her own person, regardless of who/how you are. So she may never be exactly how you hope she will be. But you will still love her yes? The best thing you can do is as Mavis has hinted at. Distraction! Until her brain catches up.
Her language now is irrelevant. She doesn't understand it's meaning in the same way you do. As she ages you can explain all of these issues. My dd is 8, and I would say we're still not there in terms of grasping any of these issues.
She's her own person. Extremely like I was at that age. She loves dressing up, wearing my shoes around house, nails, makeup sometimes. But equally she spends all of her time outside the house, getting muddy, climbing trees, bike rides (village life), football and has more male than female friends at school. Her chosen uniform is jeans/shorts and trainers.
I was same, and now, I'm probably not a very 'girly' girl. If I put a pair of heels on I'd be in a&e by end of night. But I'm who I want to be, and ain't nothin or no one ever gonna change that! Oh and I'm smokin' 
Oh dear Lordy! Now, in the words of yourself the other day..... Feck off to your own thread!
I'm gonna hit the feckin button.....