When did you lose your virginity?

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My DD 14 is very sensible and whilst I'm not worried about her, a conversation we had this morning shocked me!
Talking about having sex and the age most people lose their virginities. We talk about 16 as age of consent in UK before she tells me that lots of girls in her year at school (Y9) have already had sex, some even doing it in Y8. DD said most of the girls were pleased to have 'got it out the way'! DD said she was not ready and that was fine too (phew!)
I lost my virginity at 16 and thought that was quite average, I had no regrets. It got me thinking though, what age did you 'lose it' and did you regret it being at that age?

24. And no, no regrets.

13 and yes i regret

How did you react when she told you about other people having sex. At what point of the conversation did she tell you she's not ready. Maybe she was just testing the waters, wants to do it herself, but doesn't feel able to tell you.

@frutyloops may I ask why you regret it? Were you pressured or just now look back and think you were too young? No worries if too personal x

17, long term relationship and we've been together 21 years now so he was my one and only. Not sure how useful I am in this discussion to be honest as I know it's not typical to meet your husband when you're 16 yrs old.

26 I think, maybe 27. I am old-fashioned!

15

15

I was 15, I remember a school trip at the start of year 11 where we played some sort of truth or dare game where we revealed if we were virgins. I was embarrassed because I was one of only a couple on the bus!

I don't regret it. I thought I was quite old at the time, which thinking back is pretty horrifying. You never know though if people are telling the truth at that age, I'm sure there were some that lied or over exaggerated

19

@YouWouldNotBelieve I was driving and she was just chatting away as usual - she loves to tell me the gossip of her friends group. I didn't really react apart from I asked whether the boys were the same age as the girls (they were). I asked DD if she felt ready and said it was no problem if she was or wasn't, but if she was to be safe, did she know how to be safe etc. We are really open about sex education at home, DH is a secondary teacher and teaches RSE.

19 but my friends were almost all 15.

16,was not the best,regretted it after.my oldest dd is 15 and not shown much interest in boys as yet.

17 - he’s now my DH. Tbh my only regret is not sleeping with a couple of others before him - had a good relationship at 16 with a different boy who has remained a good friend.

21, and I lost it to a complete dickhead! He even accused me of using him to lose my virginity 😆 fairly sure I wouldn't have waited until I was 21 to 'use' someone to lose my virginity, ha!

I was days away from my 20th birthday - in my second year at university. So not too young and he was a nice bloke so I don't regret it.

I wasn't very impressed with my first "proper" kiss though which was when I was 16. Looking back now it was eeugh. Well it was eeugh at the time. I wasn't pressured into it, he just grabbed me and shoved his tongue in my mouth. Yuck. But it did get a lot better from there (not with him which was a one-off kiss but with subsequent boyfriends).

I do think that 16 is a good guideline though - will certainly say that to my own DD when the time comes. I’m a teacher and can’t think of many kids of either gender who would be mature enough before that.

@Spunout I don't think your first time having sex is ever the best tbh 😂 I remember for mine we only had 20 mins before his parents got home and he put on the 'amityville horror' to 'get in the mood'! Haha! Anyone else have any funny stories I wonder!

Don't regret it at all but my mum handled it terribly when she snooped found out and it damaged our relationship for many many years. All I would say is tread lightly and respectfully when/if your daughter is ready.

@Chickoletta I agree. I do think nowadays with the internet there is more information out there so they know more younger- a blessing and a curse at the same time perhaps! Maybe it all balances out.

I was 23 when I started having any type of sexual intimacy and 24 when I first tried PIV.

I'm 30 now, for reference. Definitely a late bloomer amongst my generation, but it worked out OK.

18 - Id kissed a few frogs but knew he was the one - even if not the one for life. Glad I waited for a boy I really loved. For context it was late 1980s

14. No regrets. He was the same age and genuinely my first love. We talked about it and planned it.

I was 16 but a lot of my friends were 15. Looking back it seems so young. I sort of wish I’d waited a bit, but I don’t have serious regrets or anything.