When did you lose your virginity?

[kit47]

My DD 14 is very sensible and whilst I'm not worried about her, a conversation we had this morning shocked me!
Talking about having sex and the age most people lose their virginities. We talk about 16 as age of consent in UK before she tells me that lots of girls in her year at school (Y9) have already had sex, some even doing it in Y8. DD said most of the girls were pleased to have 'got it out the way'! DD said she was not ready and that was fine too (phew!)
I lost my virginity at 16 and thought that was quite average, I had no regrets. It got me thinking though, what age did you 'lose it' and did you regret it being at that age?

@RagzReturnsRebooted they definitely are more open imo. DD loves the show 'sex education' which seems to have quite progressive and positive attitudes towards sex.

[quote kit47]@RagzReturnsRebooted they definitely are more open imo. DD loves the show 'sex education' which seems to have quite progressive and positive attitudes towards sex. [/quote]
I love that show! I watched it initially to screen it for suitability for teen DS and then got hooked. Wish we'd had that when I was 14.

17, and i was the first in my friend group. It was the first time for both of us, and we eventually married each other.

@RagzReturnsRebooted I'm watching it as we speak after DD hounding me to watch it. It's so good! Joking with DH that he is male alternative to Jean!

18. First term at uni.

@TrussOnABus

Oh and if we're talking about embarrassing stories...I kept the condom wrapper and stuck it in my scrapbook

That's amazing

17. No regrets we'd been together almost a year, had spoken openly about it, felt mature enough to discuss it beforehand and contraception etc. We had waited until we had enough time to not be rushed or under pressure of someone arriving home etc. We stayed together for almost 6 years. Im glad it was him. We still keep in touch occasionally and although he really hurt me in the breakup, he is a nice guy. But I'm glad I didn't marry him 🤣

15. No regrets. Was with my best friend, very much a “let’s get it over with” thing that continued in to further practice sessions! We both lead different lives now but are still friends, his wife and my DH both know and find our occasional embarrassment amusing.

14 ... no regrets as we stayed together until I was 18

20 to a girl, 24 to a guy.

Didnt have many opportunities prior, thanks to being at an all girls school.. although I was definitely not ready at 16.

Regretted the 20 one, purely because I was drunk, had been rejected by an ex that night, and thought fuck it why not. It then became 12-18 months of coercion and me trying to end it and being guilted into staying. Not good.

Although the 24 one was a poor choice of guy... I was ready, in love, and he showed me it could be good.

Now single, ready to mingle, and still held back by StupidBrain and childhood conditioning...

16. Did regret it. Was with him about 2 and a half years. Had dd. Left when she was around 7/8 months.

11. He was 18/19ish and supposed to be babysitting me.

Like a pp, it also set me off down the path of promiscuity so yes, I have regrets.

A month or so shy of 16, tried to wait until that age as a “goal” but had a great camping opportunity where for some reason my usually strict parents let me share a tent with my boyfriend of 1.5 years. He was a great high school boyfriend in the year above me, totally not pressured and was a lovely experience! We’d been experimenting with oral etc up until that point so knew each other’s bodies well. The lady who posted about tracking her 15 year old daughters phone should read this thread

@TrussOnABus I also kept a similar momento, and held on to the undies I wore for decades after too - not for wearing just as a treasured momento haha.

14. No regrets. Nice boy, we dated until I was 16.

I was 14. He was an older lad that I was in a relationship with. We split up 6mths afterwards, but got back together 2yrs after that for nearly a year. I bumped into him again a few months before I met my now dh, and we rekindled things for a couple of months. I don't regret losing my virginity to him at that age. He was a friend, I fancied him and we obviously had some sort of connection to keep going back to each other. I found out he died this year and it hit me like a tonne of bricks.

14 no regrets.
16 sleeping with teacher plenty of regrets, mainly due to how the “law” expected one to feel.

15. No regrets - I had been with him for 6 months which felt like a long time at 15! We were together for another 18 months afterwards. I think it was a good age - not too young, but left plenty of time to enjoy myself after we broke up before getting together with dh in my late 20s.

21. He is now my DH.

No regrets. I don't think waiting for marriage to have sex with him would have made things any different

20, almost 21
Never had a desire to “get it out of the way”, definitely wanted to wait for the right person & it was lovely. (First time for both of us)
We were together for a couple of years

14, don't regret it at all.

Both of us 26 on our wedding night. Married over 11 years now, with no regrets .

@happydramatic if you don't mind me asking, was the waiting til you were married for religious reasons? Did it make your wedding night feel very pressured?

Seventeen, with my boyfriend of about six or seven months.

I think I’d probably have been a bit older if it wasn’t for peer and family pressure. The pressure wasn’t to have sex but to have a relationship and the sex kind of followed from that.

We split up when I was eighteen and I waited a couple of years after that to get into another relationship. In reality that was the time I was ready, around twenty.