DH wants to allow DS access to porn

[Wingingit76]

We have 3 teens in the house and currently have parental controls on the Wi-fi set to “light” (can go on social media but cannot access porn, violence, gambling etc). Their iPhones are also set to “limit adult websites” and they have a few other restrictions on them.

My DH now wants to allow them to be able to access porn, he said he can allow a certain website on the parental controls so they can access it. I’m not totally happy about this as I think they are too young to just have unrestricted access to a porn site. We have spoken to all of them about porn and they understand it isn’t a realistic view of a sexual relationship, how they need to understand consent, body images etc, etc.

I am fully aware they have seen stuff on their phones in their group chats and stuff but by allowing a website just makes me feel complicit in all of this.

Phew, got it off my chest now 😫😫

What's your DH's reasoning?

What?

Sounds like he wants the porn for himself tbh. He's used to knocking it off while they're at school. Literally

I assume your DH watches porn himself and thinks it's acceptable

How old are your sons?

I mean, why does he think this is necessary?

For real??

Parents dont give their kids porn, if they want it they'll find it somewhere.

Do your blockers on the wifi stop your husband from accessing it too?

Jesus.

If they want porn they need to save up get their own flat, WiFi and phone. While I’m paying for it my kids are not going to access that sort of thing.

What ages are they?

How old are the teens? Big difference between a 13 yo and a 17 yo. Personally I wouldn't like them accessing porn. There seems to be a lot of it is non consentual and uses trafficked women.

How old are they? I agree with other pp sounds like your dh wants to watch it.

Are you kidding? Why would he say that?

I think he wants to allow access so he can access it himself. And he’s using his kids to do it.

It doesn’t matter what ages.

You should be teaching your children (and DH) that watching trafficked and vulnerable women getting raped is wrong. Not condoning it by removing parental controls.

What? This can't be real surely?

That's not something a parent should be helping with.

Why does he want them to access porn? Does he feel sorry for them having to use their imaginations? Just seems strange he's thought to himself 'right, I think my teens should be able to watch porn now.' I can't imagine myself ever thinking that to myself. I agree with a pp who said it's probably so he can get on to it himself.

Seems fair enough. I mean, it seems wrong and unfair that your DH’s current access to porn is limited by your outdated ideas about responsible parenting. Also it seems sensible and right that teenagers, who still live at home with their parents, should be allowed access to porn sites and indeed that their parents should actively encourage this. I feel sorry for them that they have been deprived of this essential human right for so long! What have you been thinking, OP?

The 14 yr old is messaging random girls on messenger (he doesn’t have snapchat or instagram) and DH doesn’t want it to go too far. He said he would rather he watched a bit of porn to sending/receiving pics 😫

I lifted this from a thread on the feminism board.

Also an article in The Times today about the increasing numbers of porn addicted younger men who are now seeking out images of child abuse to masturbate to as they have become desensitised by chronic use of other types of pornography.

www.thetimes.co.uk/article/young-british-men-the-new-online-paedophiles-6xnvjc5lt

Where does this sick drive come from? It seems to transcend socioeconomic class, race and indeed every other classification of human beings other than that of sex. A significant minority of women are not doing this, a significant minority of men from every walk of life are. Why is it happening and how can it be stopped?

Julie advises pressuring the judicial system to prosecute these men properly and holding everyone from the police, to judges to prisons accountable.

The advice from the Times article:

Mr Bailey, the chief constable of Norfolk, told the Internet Watch Foundation (IWF)that a new generation was being drawn to child abuse imagery.

“We have got to start being very honest about this, we have got to start debating this more in public,” he said.
“We’ve got to start coming to terms with the fact that there are some appalling things taking place online that unfortunately the internet is probably the root of most of the evils.
“We have to start looking at that and we have to start genuinely asking the question, how much more are we going to tolerate?”

That's a bit weird. Would he buy them a porno mag? If not, why not? Seems the same thing really.

I think teenage boys will manage to wank themselves silly without porn, tbh. Why does your husband want to get involved?

Ridiculous

They already have access to poen bus mobile data (

Nearly 15 and 16.

And most teens can outwit their parents in this respect

Why won't you say how old they are?

The NSPCC says it's illegal to give an under 18 access to porn.
www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe/online-safety/online-porn/

Oh sorry cross post