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DS has been excluded from school

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Blossomflowers · 09/03/2015 10:55

Had a call from the police on Friday pm, DS son was found with cannabis at school. They brought him home, searched his room and gave him a Caution, school has excluded him whilst they decide what to do. This sounds very bad but actually turns out he found the tiniest bit ( a stalk and not smokeable ) in a bag a school, happened to fall out of his pocket, he is an idiot for picking it up and is now grounded. But I am very about his future, he was doing so well and very well liked by his teachers, now he could be expelled. I kind of think that school over reacted, what do you guys think?

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Boomf · 09/03/2015 10:58

Does he smoke it? If not, then I think the school have over reacted and I'm sure that with some grovelling from him that he'll be allowed back.

If he's a cannabis smoker then that's a whole other ball game

Pantone363 · 09/03/2015 10:58

I think that it's probably like all the times I 'found' cigarettes outside and got caught with them.

caravanista13 · 09/03/2015 11:00

I'm sorry, but that excuse sounds lame. Not sure he's being entirely truthful.

QueenofallIsee · 09/03/2015 11:00

I think that your son had an illegal drug in school, I am sorry that it seems like massive overkill but I think that the school has been put in an impossible situation - what else can they do but implement a zero tolerance policy these days when drugs are so prolific? I hope it works out for your son

ghostinthecanvas · 09/03/2015 11:03

If I found a stalk in a bag in school I wouldn't put it in my pocket. I would leave it or bin it. Sorry. I think he is not being honest. I also believe that if he is very well regarded in school and his mates back up his claims, all will be well.

PotteringAlong · 09/03/2015 11:05

He's lying. And if his school is anything like schools I've taught in their zero tolerance policy means he will be permanently excluded

Pantone363 · 09/03/2015 11:06

You can buy urine tests for csnnabis very cheaply online.

I'd be inclined to tell him you are more than happy to back him up after the test comes back clear. I'm quite sure his reaction will tell you what you need to know.

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Blossomflowers · 09/03/2015 11:06

There is a huge problem with drugs at the sadly.
cara I saw what he found is was stupid to pick it up and it useless, he has his faults but he was truthful.
Yes he does smoke he has been honest about that. We have spoken openly about the dangers. But what now. This could ruin everthing. Police were very good and commented what a lovely boy he is but has been foolish and will be watched and must nip it in the bud

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Blossomflowers · 09/03/2015 11:09

pottering he is not lying has admitted it. I know he has smoked it.

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Perfectlypurple · 09/03/2015 11:09

Chances are it will have been his bag of cannabis that he had pretty much finished with. Why would you pick up rubbish and put it in your pocket?

Teeb · 09/03/2015 11:09

His story sounds a bit 'my dog ate my homework' tbh.

Mostlyjustaluker · 09/03/2015 11:10

It sounds like the police don't think he just picked some up off the floor.

The school have a duty to provide work for him to complete at home. Ring them up and ask what time you can go and pick it up. Ask them if you can make appointment or speak on the phone about what happens next.

Teeb · 09/03/2015 11:11

Wait, he has admitted that his story was bollocks and it was in fact his cannabis and he was smoking it? Then he needs to be excluded for being a drug user on school property, bringing illegal substances into an environment with younger children around and having the audacity to come up with that crock of shit story.

Mostlyjustaluker · 09/03/2015 11:12

Sorry just read your other post. Your son had illegal drugs in school. Drugs he has been using, perhaps on school premises and you are asking if we think school has over reacted in excluding him for a week.

No I don't school have over reacted at all.

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Blossomflowers · 09/03/2015 11:14

most thanks you, I am waiting for the school to get in touch today. The police have said they will not be taking things further and did believe him. DS has most def not been smoking in school

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Perfectlypurple · 09/03/2015 11:15

A caution is given when you accept responsibility for what you have done.

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Blossomflowers · 09/03/2015 11:16

Teeb maybe you should read my posts before you get all high and mighty. He was not smoking in school

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Teeb · 09/03/2015 11:18

Of course he wasn't, he's the newly appointed litter officer.

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Blossomflowers · 09/03/2015 11:20

perfect Exactly he has admitted to to having cannabis in his pocket. I understand the school needs to be strong stance about this and have we have accepted the exclusion but hope we can move on from this.

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SunnyBaudelaire · 09/03/2015 11:20

" DS has most def not been smoking in school"
well he would say that, wouldn't he?

Look speaking as a mother of another weed smoking teen, no the school has not 'over reacted' it is normal policy. That is because weed is illegal, whether or not you/we agree with that is by the by.
Just be grateful the police will let him go with a caution, round here they are prosecuting for the tiniest amounts. Think .1 of a gram, about the weight of that stalk.
This will pass and you will look back and roll your eyes!

Mostlyjustaluker · 09/03/2015 11:21

I missed the caution bit, sorry I am bit distracted today.

Cautions are only given when you admit responsibility and I believe you have to sign paper work to that effect. I have checked on DBS and he very lucky that cautions for when under 18 don't show up on DBS checks.

SunnyBaudelaire · 09/03/2015 11:22

and teeb these things happen, no need to be that judgemental.

clam · 09/03/2015 11:24

In the nicest possible way, blossom, I think you might be in denial here. It doesn't matter if he was actually smoking it in school - he was in possession of it, and the fact that he has admitted smoking it previously, along with the fairly shite excuse of having "found it and picked it up," backs that up.

Of course the school are right to exclude him, and of course it's very serious. Yes, he might well have buggered up his prospects - that's kind of what happens when you break the law. Hopefully, he will get away with a slap on the wrist and it will have given him the shock he needs to drop the habit and get on with his life.

Teeb · 09/03/2015 11:24

Meh, sorry if I don't join in the merry go round of indulging children's illegal activity. I'd be ashamed if it was my son with police at the door and being excluded from school, not thinking others had over reacted. I really feel op you need to be reacting a bit more, it's a slippery slope.

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Blossomflowers · 09/03/2015 11:24

I can tell if he has smoked and was had not smoked that day. I want to work with his to stop this this, I hate him smoking. But expelling him would not help anything. He needs to learn from this, he was very shaken by it all which has to be a good thing

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