Is 'dont wear white for a wedding' known about other than on here?

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I've always known it's not the thing to do but now I wonder if I read it on here - been here a looooong time!

I only ask because my DD's MIL is apparently wearing predominantly white for their wedding and DD thinks she doesnt know it's inappropriate. DD does know but possibly from listening to me!

FWIW neither of us are particularly bothered - I dont think it's like one of those MILs you see in the DM where it looks like an actual wedding dress but I wonder if other guests will be a bit 😯

Agree with previous posters that the rule is more don't wear a white wedding dress to the wedding unless you're the bride.

Not don't wear anything white to a wedding.

That said, the whole 'dress code' acceptance at modern weddings is why I hope I never have to attend one ever again.

Have told my children to elope or go to a register office and tell me later.

I wish people would stop saying it's a known thing etc. I never heard of it until I read it here and I asked around my friends and they hadn't heard of it either.

I'm sure people wore white to my wedding and I've been to loads where guests are wearing white but usually as a background.

I think common sense should tell anyone not to wear all white to a wedding. However, I think a lot of fuss is made on here when people post a prospective dress/outfit which has some white in it and they are told it's completely wrong to even think of wearing it! It's really not like anyone can mistake the bride at a wedding!

I’m in my 50’s and had never heard of it until I read it on here.
My MIL wore an off white/cream suit to my wedding and I wore a white top and skirt to my SIL’s second wedding. Nobody batted an eyelid!

I've always known it and would never wear white or pure cream as a guest. A guest at my wedding wore an off white lace dress to my wedding. She knew that my dress what white lace. I wasn't particularly bothered by it but a few people (all women) mentioned it to me on the day or subsequently. On the group photo, it does look a bit strange.

It is a pretty established ettiquette rule for traditional weddings. It may well be somewhat cultural or based on class, but I think it's fairly wide spread.

Interpretation is a bit more fluid. I wore a cream pant suit with a magenta blouse to a wedding once. it wasn't in the slightest bit bridal but I have wondered subsequently if anyone thought it was "too white". My. mother, who was strict on the "no white" rule didn't say anything though so I'm going with the assumption it was probably fine.

Having said all that, the thing about ettiquette is that it does evolve and change AND it's different in different communities/groups. Which, in the past especially, has made it difficult for people to move outside of their groups (whether that's religion, class, culture etc).

I got married 31 years ago and I have never forgiven or forgotten the woman who wore a pure white suit. Bitch. 😂 😂

it's a universally known thing - same as not wearing black or red to a wedding

Yes I was going to say this.

My Irish mother would be 95 now if she was still alive and she always said guests shouldn't wear white to a wedding.

Even as a kid I couldn't imagine a scenario where anyone would mistake a guest for the bride! 🤣

The clue is they're normally stood at the altar.

So I've always known white wasn't a colour to wear to a wedding as a guest. Likewise black.

A friend who married in the 1970s used to talk about how his mother - with whom he didn't get on - wore white to his wedding and he wasn't happy. His wife wore green, deemed to be unlucky by some. They are still married 🤣

Pretty established - and agree it gets referenced in tv and movies because it’s such a well known rule and would look like you are trying to upstage the bride.

The only issue is if someone hasn’t been to many weddings, if your mil doesn’t come from a big family, doesn’t have lots of friends who she knew before their wedding etc. she might just has never been told or realised.

Yep

Never heard of the black or red thing and I'm in my late 50s.

I didn't know about any of these "rules" before reading them on here. Oh, I did go to one wedding where someone wore black and another guest made a comment. Honestly, it's so much nonsense.

I was born in the late 60s in the U.S. and it was well-known. I’ve been surprised by the number of people who either don’t know or argue against it by saying “go ahead and wear the white dress it’s not remotely bridal”

I wish people would stop saying it's a known thing etc.

It's a pretty odd thing to wish, given the question in the thread title? 😳

It's always been a thing (I've been going to weddings for 40 years) but just one of those basic common sense things, don't wear anything that looks too bridal or will look totally white in photos (not so much an issue if you are just part of the crowd rather tha close family). I have never heard anyone IRL complain about someone actually doing it though, most people just use common sense.

Didn’t Andi McDowells character wear white to one of the weddings in Four Weddings and a Funeral? It was sort of off-white?

That's not universally known as I wore red to one last year.

There are in fact entire countries and continents in the world where brides don’t dress in white (Africa/India/China anyone?). And even in the UK/USA it wasn’t really a thing until the mid-19th Century.

So maybe she a) is from another country, b) is 200 years old, c) doesn’t care.

I'm late 50s and I've never heard about it apart from on here. Been shocked at how many people think it's a crime.
I don't like or wear white anyway so doesn't affect me, but wear whatever you want at a wedding celebration.

Wear all white is a definite No.
Wearing something that contains white is absolutely fine.

I wish people would stop saying it’s a known thing

Why? Just because you don’t know something, doesn’t mean it isn’t a known thing.

I could just as easily say “I wish people would stop saying this isn’t a thing!”

What! Another made up rule.

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It's absolutely fine if you are part of the wedding party but not if you are a guest.