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Is this mutton dressed as lamb?

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Twodogsonthecouch · 08/01/2026 18:21

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I just started a thread on what to wear to my husband’s 60th party. Is this too young? It’ll be longer on me as I’m short

Black Velvet Balloon Sleeve Jupiter Mini Dress

Black Velvet Balloon Sleeve Jupiter Mini Dress

https://www.nobodyschild.com/en-ie/products/black-velvet-balloon-sleeve-jupiter-mini-dress-d254744blk

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Twodogsonthecouch · 10/01/2026 11:34

Bikergran · 10/01/2026 10:04

It's black, it's got long sleeves, it'll be down to your knees, what are you so nervous about? Personally I'd only wear it to a funeral. Oh, and I'm 72, and wear what suits me, whatever "age group" it is aimed at.

For the 100th time I’m not nervous. I’m just looking for opinions. What is so hard for people to grasp about that concept?

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LeChiffre26 · 10/01/2026 11:35

I guess it's because you asked people if it was " too young" 🤷‍♀️

Twodogsonthecouch · 10/01/2026 11:40

Yes… looking for opinions and suggestions. I don’t think that implies, nervous, indecisive, insecure or anything other than “what do people think?”

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patooties · 10/01/2026 11:43

I think it looks cheap. Like a dress up costume. I’m sure there’s something nicer out there.

HercsHeart · 10/01/2026 11:52

For the 100th time I’m not nervous. I’m just looking for opinions. What is so hard for people to grasp about that concept?

@Twodogsonthecouch ,you have used words like nervous and insecurities in your posts, and MNers probably read posts quite quickly.

ArwenUndomniel · 10/01/2026 12:24

Twodogsonthecouch · 10/01/2026 11:40

Yes… looking for opinions and suggestions. I don’t think that implies, nervous, indecisive, insecure or anything other than “what do people think?”

I think that, as you've now bought two dresses to try and a lot of people are still only commenting on your first post and the thread title, if I were you I wouldn't bother reading any more replies - but I'd still love to know if either of your choices are suitable!

silverwrath · 10/01/2026 14:13

I'm 62. I like it. But not for me. It's just a little bit short.

But you do you. Enjoy the party!! 🎉🎊

Twodogsonthecouch · 10/01/2026 14:34

HercsHeart · 10/01/2026 11:52

For the 100th time I’m not nervous. I’m just looking for opinions. What is so hard for people to grasp about that concept?

@Twodogsonthecouch ,you have used words like nervous and insecurities in your posts, and MNers probably read posts quite quickly.

That’s true and a fair comment. I guess I know exactly where I’m coming from when I say that and that context doesn’t come across in messages.
It’s just as well I’m none of those things because I think if I was being told to just make up my own mind, that one of the dresses I was wondering about was cheap, dreary, dated etc and that my language is misogynistic and offensive might tip me over the edge 🤯😂

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Twodogsonthecouch · 10/01/2026 14:35

ArwenUndomniel · 10/01/2026 12:24

I think that, as you've now bought two dresses to try and a lot of people are still only commenting on your first post and the thread title, if I were you I wouldn't bother reading any more replies - but I'd still love to know if either of your choices are suitable!

Yes. I think you are 100% correct.

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Grammarnut · 10/01/2026 15:18

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 10/01/2026 09:29

Well I’ve yet to see it used in any way that isn’t ageist or misogynistic.

Anyway Op - I hope the Hobbs dress works out.

That's because people don't understand it. Yes, it can refer to a woman inappropriately dressed for her age, which is ageist and misogynist, but it can also refer to anything which is passing itself off as something else. The term 'dressed' in the phrase refers to 'dressing' meat, i.e. preparing and cooking it, the point being that mutton (which is sheep meat from wethers, that's overwintered lambs) is cooked and presented in a different way from spring lamb, which is tenderer and more forgiving of cooking method (tho' lamb generally is very forgiving as long as you don't incinerate it), and if you use lamb cookery on mutton it won't taste very good. One could say that most Victorian architecture is mutton dressed as lamb if you don't like Victorian gothic (I do like it, tho' the Victorians could not be trusted with anything actually Medieval since they saw most pre 1485 architecture as not properly gothic!). Context matters, of course, and OP used it (and I replied) with the misogynistic sense - she chose it, not me, but we all instantly knew what she meant. Would it be any better for her to say is this too old for me at 60, or will I look as if I'm trying to be twenty again if I wear this? They are also misogynistic and ageist if one is going to criticise clothing on the basis of age.

HercsHeart · 10/01/2026 15:28

@Grammarnut , it might be an idea to review your reply before posting it. There are inaccuracies in yours.

Grammarnut · 10/01/2026 15:28

I think the purple dress with fringes would be perfect. It doesn't suggest you are wearing something more appropriate to a younger woman, which tbh the one you have your eye on does just a bit. It's meant for a girl in her 20s. The fringed dress is not necessarily.
But, as I said earlier, if you like the other one (and the sleeves are lovely) and it looks ok on you, then wear it. Black tights probably, and black shoes.

BillieWiper · 10/01/2026 16:31

I'm not sure. It looks a little flimsy on the very slim model. It's alright but I don't love it. It's not 'too young' for you though.

I despise that phrase 'mutton dressed as lamb'. Snobby, old fashioned and misogynistic. It reminds me of something Hyacinth Bucket would say. Sorry, I'm not saying you're like that. But no need to use that phrasing in 2026.

Wonderlandpeony · 10/01/2026 16:56

On a side note, if you order from NC and need to return be prepared to wait a long time for a refund, been waiting over three weeks now.

SharonBe · 10/01/2026 19:31

It's lovely, if I had the figure, I'd wear it. I'm 56 if that helps.

LucyLoo1972 · 10/01/2026 20:02

Twodogsonthecouch · 08/01/2026 18:21

https://www.nobodyschild.com/en-ie/products/black-velvet-balloon-sleeve-jupiter-mini-dress-d254744blk

I just started a thread on what to wear to my husband’s 60th party. Is this too young? It’ll be longer on me as I’m short

it is lovely and perfect for a 60th party I think. have you shown it to your husband? does he have any thoughts? my husband is rubbish at that. and would have no thoughts at all but maybe he does!

IridiumSky · 11/01/2026 03:08

Hi OP, bloke here.

I’m a little older than you so definitely mutton 😀. And I often dress as lamb, as does my wife. Including ridiculous goth and punk gear not much seen since 1977. I was rather pleased to be stopped in the street recently by a young lady who complemented me on my clothes, and on that particularly day, absurd cyberpunk headgear. One of - perhaps the only (!) - advantages of getting older is having the confidence to do whatever you bloody well like.

Order the dress. You obviously like it. I’m sure you will look (and feel) both gorgeous and confident in it. Your husband will no doubt love it too. Never submit to the tyranny of time, convention, or ageing. Rage against the dying of the light!

Be MDAL and proud! And that’s not an offensive term, it’s funny. 🐏😀

SocksAndTheCity · 11/01/2026 03:36

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user38 · 11/01/2026 07:47

Men are allowed to comment and offer a perspective. It’s rude and offensive to post things like that for laughs.

SpottedTailQuoll · 11/01/2026 07:48

ChristmasLeftovers · 08/01/2026 19:34

I like this!

Yes Auntie Dolly and ChristmasLeftovers have nailed it! This one OP!! It's gorgeous - absolute 1960s "go-go girl at party or nightclub" classic, looks very comfortable. You can wear lower heels a la late 1960s if higher heels out and looks classic from a distance.
The gorgeous colour suits all complexions, and the rich velvet fabric moves with the body. And £22! Love it!

lovealongbath · 11/01/2026 09:14

If you like the dress, go for it!
However, you have lost 3 stone, gone are the days where you have to wear black.

BufferingAgain · 11/01/2026 09:17

My honest opinion is if you order that dress you’ll be lamb dressed as mutton rather than the other way round!

SocksAndTheCity · 11/01/2026 10:04

user38 · 11/01/2026 07:47

Men are allowed to comment and offer a perspective. It’s rude and offensive to post things like that for laughs.

Absolutely they are. But men don't get to tell women that a revolting expression they find unpleasant, ageist and misogynistic is actually a jolly good bit of fun and they should all stop being so silly.

LeChiffre26 · 11/01/2026 11:54

I think though underneath all the words however bad they are deemed to be most people know the look suggested.