Need some advice on my daughter’s prom dress options

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My daughter is attending her Year 13 prom in June so we are looking for her prom dress at the moment. She initially wanted to wear a black gown, but her best friend has got her prom dress in black so she will have to choose a different colour. After some lengthy discussion and online shopping, we have finally narrowed it down to two gowns. Both of them are lovely, but they offer very different vibes which we couldn’t decide on.

https://dressmezee.com/products/worth-waiting-for-cross-back-gown-blue

https://dressmezee.com/products/problematic-princess-bow-gown-pink

She is blonde, 5’6 and petite. Which dress do you think we should go for? It’s an once in a life time experience, so I would like her to feel confident, empowered and make some lovely memory in it.

Any advice would be much appreciated.

Asos has stacks of 'occasion' dresses, did DD look there?

I think they are both nice, prefer the pink. Don't get why she can't wear black though?!

Does it really matter if they look unforgiving and cheap? (in your opinion) These are young girls going to prom not celebrities at an awards show.

Ooh, some of those look good! You can before buying, too.

Look: tight in the required places, ruched, revealing, split AND sequins for £107. I liked the dress with the massive sticky-out skirt frills, as well.

https://www.jjshouse.com/sheath-column-cowl-floor-length-sequin-satin-prom-dresses-with-sequins-018310526-g310526?pos=nav-prom-prom-dresses-long-prom-dresses

Gosh I remember being young and beautiful and everything I tried on looked great ..well almost everything. I got the shock of my life when I tried on a blush pink dress and it completely washed me out. Did nothing at all for me. Told dm and she agreed that 'definite' colours suited me much better. And I wasn't even that pale.

@Thornybush yes it would matter to me. I wouldn’t want to spend hundreds of pounds on an evening for my daughter just for them to not look nice ( imo). I’d try and steer dd to better dresses especially if I’m paying which I undoubtedly would be.

My daughter had a dress in the same blue in the link, she is also blonde and petite and looked amazing. It really suited her.
If your daughter prefers black, then go for a black dress, it doesn't matter if her friend has the same colour as long as it's a different dress.

Also meant to say that these dresses are very much what the girls wore to prom. What does your DD think?

I think that's a bit harsh and materialistic but each to their own. If my dd had her heart set on a dress that she loved I would absolutely buy it for her. If the dress she loved made her radiate with happiness that's all that matters. You can't control every part of their lives.

Both are lovely but I prefer the pink one.

I was going to agree with you , despite thinking those dresses are awful, but was puzzled by the "hundreds of pounds" comment. I hadn't looked at the prices - I had assumed they were much, much cheaper.

That was replying to Thornybush

I'm really sorry but I think they both look really cheap. The pink one would be nice in another material maybe but the blue one is just not good.

https://duntery.uk/products/spaghetti-straps-sheath-long-dress-with-bowknot?currency=GBP&variant=45019196981425&utmsource=google&utmmmedium=cpc&utmcampaign=Google%20Shopping&stkn=2335f4eb9edd

I would not have bought anything like these for any of my 3 20+y/o daughters at that age. They are dreadful and very chavvy.

Some of the alternatives suggested here are hideous! Especially those Quiz ones… get thee to a nunnery. Jeez no teenager is wearing lumpy flowers or full length sleeves to a prom 😂

Op both of those dresses are perfectly fine but a bit generic and cheapy looking. Most of the girls at my dd’s proms (inner city diverse comp) wore something quite blingy and even the lads went all out - powder blue suits. Dickie bows etc.

Don’t, as some pp suggested, look at what Taylor Swift wore, she is a woman in her 30s fgs. Check out the school website or local paper and see if there are photos from last year. See what the general vibe was and check out vinted and eBay - some girls sell expensive dresses and they’ve only worn them for a few hours.

Good luck!

I feel mean saying it but agree with this. That being said the blue one seems to be a common theme for proms - style wise anyway.

I reckon if you ordered it it would arrive and the material would feel very thin and flimsy.

There must be something a bit more ‘classic’ - I’m thinking more Audrey Hepburn style - and I think if she fancies a back dress then go for it.

Kist a thought but are there any bridal stores with nice bridesmaid type dresses reduced, even if they need to be altered?

Yep agreed - these are all lovely.

It's no help to you (or your daughter), but I am so relieved that my sociable daughter both at year 13 and end of uni decided she couldn't be bothered with the prom. She said it all costs a fortune (she worked as well at a shopping centre and paid for her own driving lessons) , some girls were fussing about who sits with who etc and I think she felt liberated not going. It didn't affect her relationships with friends at all.
I hope your daughter enjoys the shopping and planning and the evening itself.

Both gowns are gorgeous and I am sure your daughter will look beautiful in whichever one that she picks!

Isn't that the point, to look like a celebrity?
I prefer the pink one because I love the bow. But they are both nice, and there's no reason she can't get a black one if that's what she wants!

They're quite overdone for a Y13 prom. The extra amazing dresses are for the Y11 and then Y13 dresses tend to be more clubby/shorter dresses.

It's pathetic that you ascribe not liking those dresses to being jealous. I don't like and never have liked that style.

Those are better - particularly the navy dress.