Is this too white for a wedding guest dress?

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Having a wobble, I thought it was fine as it’s more cream and the spots are very vibrant https://www.marksandspencer.com/satin-polka-dot-tie-front-midi-column-dress/p/clp60597604#intid=plpnav_pid_pg1pip48g2r1c1

would not risk

Find a jacket and shoes that match the green spots and it will be fine. I just wouldn't want to stand out as wearing anything too white in the photos more than anything else.

I think no, purely because if you stand near her in photos it is light enough to draw the eye from a wedding dress, even with spots. That said, I didn’t care about this sort of thing at my own wedding and had no dress code of any kind so perhaps it just depends if the bride is the sort that won’t mind.

The advice just posted by @difficultdifficultlemondifficult is good btw - add a bit more colour with a jacket and that will totally remove the problem of any competing light colour in photos!

The photos objection really puzzles me. The OP is the guest of her boyfriend who is a friend of the bride.

There will be 200 guests there. There's every possiblity the OP won't even be in a photo or she'll be part of a group or behind someone else.

It is lovely. You are thoughtful and are doing no wrong checking before.

I recall a woman posting a picture of herself as a guest at a wedding in a white dress. I am sure she was looking to act the victim, waiting to pounce on someone telling her she is out of order. I said nothing, noted who she was so that I could avoid her online in future. Not only was she trolling the bride she was trolling others afterwards.

There seems to be a cohort of women on this site who live in the 1950/60s. The sort of woman terrified of being described as being no better than she should be, endlessly washing her ‘nets’ and scrubbing her front doorstep. And the rest of us look back at them entirely bewildered. They don’t understand what the rule on white was, that mores changes, just an eternal mid-century twilight.

At a civil service it's a costume to indicate who the Bride is and leave her have her special day.

At a Christian religious ceremony it's to remind the congregation of the marriage of Jesus to his church in revelation.

Most people see it as an insult and that you are advertising to all that you are an attention seeking arsehole if you wear white to another woman's wedding.

If you don't want to wear white at your wedding then you are free to do so.

🙄Regardless of what you think of us, if this many people are saying no to the white dress, there's a good chance that the bride will also be one of these '1950s/60s' women...

Grips have just run out.

Is this thread one of those odd ones where half of us are getting a link to a pretty, but generally not flashy or in your face, plain white, just below knee length dress covered in green spots and the other half are clicking through to a Pronuptia full on meringue? Because that's the only way comments like this make sense.

I wouldnt, not a no way no, are you mad kind of no, just "some people wouldn't so.... as there are other dresses out there, no.

I know a little green bolero could change the look.

I love it. With either matched Esska type shoes in green. Or maybe pink accessories.

But you’re “allowed” to wear light dresses. That doesn’t break any kind of etiquette. Nor do spotty dresses or stripey dresses or floral dresses.

Nice dress but isn't green unlucky at a wedding?

From a distance in a group photo (as that's likely the only photo OP will be in with the bride) it will stand out no more than a pale pink/blue/green dress would.

Dress it up with green bag abd shoes plus a green shrug and it'll less white. I think it's beautiful.

The dress is great. Etiquette does not say no white. It's say don't impersonate the bride. That dress looks nothing like a brides dress.

I think it's fine, but I'd say if you're having to ask and doubting yourself then it's probably not the right dress for you. If you'll be worried and wondering what the bride or others will think then you won't enjoy the day, so would probably be best to choose another dress you'll be more comfortable in.

Do you go through life taking things out of context?

CoconutCurryNan · Today 17:22
It is lovely. You are thoughtful and are doing no wrong checking before.

It’s lovely

This in spades. It's obvious that the dress is not bridal in any way shape or form.
I would wear green shoes and hat and bag.
Anyone who mistakes you for the bride needs to go to specsavers.
Also having been to numerous weddings I have never been in a photo with the bridal party except when I was a bridesmaid or an immediate family member which only happened 3 times. Except the group photo where you are lucky to make out faces and the outfits of those who are at the front are the only ones on show.
Wear the dress and enjoy the day.

I saw the dress and all I could think of were those paint with water colouring books from my childhood.

I agree.
A whole rainbow of other colours available. Steer clear of white.
Someone said no black either. I don’t see a problem with black

Taking things out of context ? As MrsClatterbuck said if you (general you) might be incapable of distinguishing the bride from a guest wearing that dress you really need to go to Specsavers.

There are some very strange people on Mumsnet that's for sure.

Life must be tough when people make strawman and take things out of context continually.

Have a nice weekend 😆