Rated a '4' by men in the pub last night. How can I glow up?

[MsFrog]

Walked past some men last night who were rating women. I know they are dicks, I know it's disgusting behaviour, but it's made me feel completely shit. I mean, I was out with my kids for a pub tea, so I had put zero effort in. But I do look crap most of the time and I feel like my husband must be ashamed of me. Other mums manage to look nice, so having young kids is no excuse.

I'm not really used to doing hair/make up/ being stylish. Any easy tips to feel a bit better about myself?

This makes me feel really cross that some drunk men have made you (and probably others) feel like this.
If you want to “glow up”, then do it for you and not these misogynistic arseholes. I’m sure your husband is more of a man than to “rate” his wife and doesn’t feel ashamed at all!
Jesus, I’d probably get a 1 if I was out for pub tea with my family mid week!

You don't owe people pretty OP. You can hold space, you do not need to blend in, and you do not need to shrink yourself.

Those bellends with unwashed asses have zero charm, add zero value to anyone's life, have a combined IQ of about 4 and judging by the standard of conversation I'm not entirely convinced they can even count to 10. Don't you dare think about them anymore.

and what would you rate them based on their behaviour? If it isn't in the minus and at least double digits then it isn't enough. The gross people who do this need to realise that it is a repulsive trait and something they should have grown out of long ago

what did you rate them at OP?

I can't thank everybody enough for these responses, it's overwhelming to feel so much support from other women. It's really made me think about why I've let this get to me so much.

I told my husband after and he was furious. He told me to not even think about it and said "you're always a 10 to me". So the feeling shit is not coming from him.

I guess I shouldn't have asked how to glow up. I should be asking how to feel so alright with yourself that comments like this don't bother you. So many of you saw you would have been angry and not upset - I'd love to have felt more like that.

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Raise your son to be better. Don’t play their game and don’t waste time trying to think of smart come backs. Know these people for the joy sucking horrors they are.

To those PPs who said it was punishment for making eye contact - I actually smiled at him, coz I thought he was looking at the bairn, like most people were looking and saying he was cute, you know!

I don want to just put them out of my head, I suppose it just shows I need to address my feelings about myself

Why are you giving them any credence at all? I bet they were nothing to write home about, but even if they were Adonises, you do not exist for their visual pleasure.

you poor thing please do not pay one IOTA of attention to this!!!!

This is disgusting behaviour and doesn't deserve one ounce of credence.

I'd have spat in their faces the disgusting fucks

You have to learn to block out negative energy and comments like that although it's hard.
When you have young kids, most women give up on themselves a little, but it is easy to get it back when the kids are older, and you do that for yourself, not for anyone else.

I don want to just put them out of my head, I suppose it just shows I need to address my feelings about myself

OP it shows nothing except what a vile cunt the person who did this was. it is no reflection on any part of you and doesnt deserve to be treated as such.

What it would be worth understanding is why you allow other peoples view of you such credence

Fuck those horrible men.

Obviously not literally.

Why on earth would you care what a bunch of morons think?

Thank goodness your husband is the type of man worthy of a woman’s love and worthy to be a father. He said exactly what he should have said to you. These arseholes are not worthy of love. There is no excuse for there behaviour, none.
It’s a good job they didn’t say it within my earshot or there would have been hell to pay. As I’ve got older my tolerance for pricks is 0/10.
You are beautiful and you are loved by your husband and by your son. Please don’t let these troglodytes make you feel less worthy. I know who’d I’d rather spend time with. P.S. it’s not those pricks.

I LOVE THIS!

Nothing to worry about. There's nothing good about appealing to men like that. As if any of them could get any woman with a brain or self respect to even look at them.

No to battle of wits with the unarmed 🤣

I’ve had comments like this from boys and men since I was a teenager. A bus of about 5 boys shouted abuse at me and made jokes about my looks. The lone female with them was sweet and stuck up for me. I don’t care anymore. I have a lovely husband and my close family are friends are amazing. I don’t care what strangers think of me at all. Screw them!

This is so bad. They clearly said that because you dared to make eye contact. It's a way of putting you in your place.

Can I ask where (roughly) you were in the country?

I bet none of them was toned and gorgeous - I'm thinking beer belly, old sloppy clothes etc. If it happens again, just mutter none too softly 'little dick' as you walk past..

Take no notice of these horrible individuals. You are a good mum, doing a fantastic job. If you want to have your hair done etc, do it for you not these idiots. Your husband has said what he feels. These are morons. Take care.

These types are always losers who can’t get a girlfriend.

Rating women says everything about those men. I would never respect them. The opinion of people I don't respect never worries me.

Depressingly though, they probably do have wives/girlfriends.