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Rated a '4' by men in the pub last night. How can I glow up?

242 replies

MsFrog · 17/02/2023 10:50

Walked past some men last night who were rating women. I know they are dicks, I know it's disgusting behaviour, but it's made me feel completely shit. I mean, I was out with my kids for a pub tea, so I had put zero effort in. But I do look crap most of the time and I feel like my husband must be ashamed of me. Other mums manage to look nice, so having young kids is no excuse.

I'm not really used to doing hair/make up/ being stylish. Any easy tips to feel a bit better about myself?

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StrychnineInTheSandwiches · 17/02/2023 11:51

I bet they were all Greek Gods.

Absolutely fuuuuuck men like that. Inadequate little dick splashes.

ShowOfHands · 17/02/2023 11:52

No to comebacks. No to slithering down the food chain to meet them. No to battles of wits with the unarmed. No to giving airtime to their opinion. They can all FUCK OFF.

OP, you say you feel like this since motherhood. Are you getting enough time to do things you enjoy? Feeling a bit lost is normal. We can all identify with that I think.

TrashyPanda · 17/02/2023 11:53

They are shallow, stupid gits who think women exist solely for their titillation.

gazpachosoupday · 17/02/2023 11:54

The other thing is do you really want to be rated highly by such wankbadgers?

Santasoorplooms · 17/02/2023 11:54

The “8” who walked by before you should feel equally insulted. We are more than a fuckability rating.

rexythedinosaur · 17/02/2023 11:55

WinterFoxes · 17/02/2023 11:46

Please challenge your own thinking.
You want to 'glow up' so that repulsive misogynistic men have a higher opinion of you? Are you sure about that? ]
Why? Why do you want to attract and be visually pleasing to misogynistic vermin strangers?
What else could you choose to think when you pass some boneheaded arseholes in a pub? How about you judging them? Where do they score in your Basic Male Acceptability chart? (Hint: You are allowed to score in negative figures.)

This, times 100!

If you have a 'glow up' and then go back to the pub and they score you a 7, or 8, or 9, will that actually make you feel better?

All of it would make me feel pathetic to be honest. To have put all that effort in only to go and be 're-rated' by them and see if I have improved. Eww.

Why on earth do you give a flying f* what they think OP? That's what you need to ask yourself, not how you can improve your appearance to make them happier!

You do not exist to be eye candy for these repunant excuses for 'men'.

Cocobutt · 17/02/2023 11:55

Do you really think they’d give someone who is obviously in a relationship and therefore can’t get, a high score?

They wouldn’t give anyone a high number if they though they didn’t have a chance with them.

I can guarantee that if a gorgeous woman walked by who they knew wouldn’t give them the time of day, they’d give her a much lower mark.

I have lost count of the times men have slagged me off and then tried asking me out.

Just a couple days ago I commented on someone’s meme on Instagram on a open meme page. I said something like “this is so cute, I need to go there” and a man told me that I was an ugly, fat slag that my dog wouldn’t even shag. 10mins later he private messaged me asking for my number and what area I live.

I would not care what a bunch of immature men think.
No man who gets women would go around with their friends rating other women.

toomuchlaundry · 17/02/2023 11:56

Men like this follow the Andrew Tate way of thinking. Absolutely awful. Pity other men didn't tell them to shut up. Pity they can't be barred for being misogynist.

If you want to change the way you look, do it for you, not because of the comment they made. No woman should change what they do because of some misogynist git.

HappyValerie · 17/02/2023 11:56

I would have turned my head, looked the 1st guy over and said 1, then said 2 for the second.
Then left them to spend all night arguing who was most attractive.

Cocobutt · 17/02/2023 11:57

The “8” who walked by before you should feel equally insulted. We are more than a fuckability rating.

I agree and I bet she would have been.

StrychnineInTheSandwiches · 17/02/2023 11:57

Same men would likely shit their pants in rage if their wife or their mum was rated a 4 by a gang of random blokes,

Readytogogogo · 17/02/2023 11:58

Don't accept criticism from anyone you wouldn't ask advice from OP. I'm so sorry that happened to you though. They are arseholes.

adrianmolesmole · 17/02/2023 11:58

@RestingMurderousFace Love your username!

Op, I once walked past some builders and they barked at me, I was terrified but gave them the finger as I walked past. I felt awful. They are not men, they are disgusting perverted creeps. It's not our job to "look pretty" for them.

Cheesecakeandwineinasuitcase · 17/02/2023 11:59

RufustheFloralmissingreindeer · 17/02/2023 11:28

he said 4 to ‘punish’ you for making eye contact…

^This^

EconomyClassRockstar · 17/02/2023 12:00

I feel ya, OP! I was once eating a bar of chocolate on the way from the hairdressers to the car and a passing Small Dick said, “You don’t need that chocolate, love. You’re fat enough”. Instead of feeling great with my new hair (I was 6 weeks post partum) I sat in the car and cried. That was 20 years ago and it still smarts that I gave that asshole so much power in my head.

Highdaysandholidays1 · 17/02/2023 12:01

The last time I heard men doing this I nearly assaulted one of them. I certainly gave them a piece of my mind. It's done loudly to assert their dominance, as if they have the right to judge other women. The joke is they are probably not that popular with women, and I would feel pity for anyone who ended up with them as a boyfriend, because they are just awful people.

you were out, taking your kids out to have a lovely tea together, you are worth ten of them.

Ruth98 · 17/02/2023 12:01

MsFrog · 17/02/2023 10:50

Walked past some men last night who were rating women. I know they are dicks, I know it's disgusting behaviour, but it's made me feel completely shit. I mean, I was out with my kids for a pub tea, so I had put zero effort in. But I do look crap most of the time and I feel like my husband must be ashamed of me. Other mums manage to look nice, so having young kids is no excuse.

I'm not really used to doing hair/make up/ being stylish. Any easy tips to feel a bit better about myself?

If you don't feel good about yourself then act on that. But do not act on what some blokes in a pub 'rated' you as. Or stoop to their level and rate them back...doubt they were tens themselves somehow !

Deathraystare · 17/02/2023 12:02

You could have said excuse me? But they would only have mumbled I guess.

Gosh the day I bother what some random fuckwit thinks would be a sad day indeed.....

I do remember walking down a corridor and some arsewipe commenting on the fact I did not have a 20 inch waist. Why the fuck should I? Grown women rarely do. SIlly arse!

MotherOfAllZipFiles · 17/02/2023 12:02

Just remember you are too pretty for small dick 😊
I did see that printed on a t shirt, absolute genius

SweetSenorita · 17/02/2023 12:02

MontanaSapphire · 17/02/2023 11:34

I'd have been tempted to turn around, look who'd spoken up and down, then look him
right in the eye, and said firmly "2". Then never given any of them a second thought. Pricks.

Way too generous. These guys are what negative numbers were invented for 😚

RosetteNebula · 17/02/2023 12:05

So sorry OP. I once had a random guy in a pub say to me "Christ, you've got a nose on you!" when I was walking past him to go to the bathroom. I was hurt but I told myself he must have a very sad and unhappy life to feel the need to make a total stranger feel bad about themselves for no reason. And all the other women in the bathroom made me feel a lot better about it. You know when you're drunk and make new best mates in the toilets? Lol.

I bet these men weren't even good looking themselves? If you want to take better care of your appearance for you then go for it but don't change yourself because of those cunts.

daretodenim · 17/02/2023 12:05

Just want to add to the chorus. They're immature, misogynistic pricks.

The correct style response to this is to do fuck all with your appearance. Fuck them.

BodyShapeWoes · 17/02/2023 12:05

Wow that’s disgusting

Men can be such vile arseholes…

I bet they were a 2…

notacooldad · 17/02/2023 12:06

There are loads of ways to glow up but what you have said is not one of them

Seriously - fuck 'em!!
Absolutely disgusting comments and I hope you dont take them on board because they have said something. They will not have given their words another thought , especially on how it has impacted you.

This is bullying, and as we all know bullying is done by people who have their own insecurities to deal with.

StrychnineInTheSandwiches · 17/02/2023 12:06

No well-adjusted person content with themselves and happy with their situation in life would ever feel the need to tell a random stranger that they're fat. Doesn't make it any less painful of course. But it really is their own inadequacy lashing out.

I can get quite hot headed and was once called fat by a random man in the street. I just yelled 'fuck off you bald cunt'. Now of course there's nothing wrong with being bald but I just wanted to wound him. And I think I succeeded as he did look surprised that I retaliated very loudly and coarsely.