Lips - is this what people are aspiring to these days?

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An old boyfriend has shared photos to advertise a friend's beauty salon. I know I'm not their target audience, but I'm still shocked that this is what women are supposedly looking for these days.
I do get that if you have thin lips it'd be nice to have them plumped up a bit. But these are so clearly fake.
Am I just an old fuddy-Duddy with no idea?

Who even thought that aspiring to look like Janice the Muppet was EVER going to be an actual thing?

I blame Bratz Dolls

No, that is an extreme version of what people want when they get fillers. Some want that but most don't.

Perhaps it would be just be nice if we stopped mocking women for their choices.

Having an opinion - 'fillers aren't for me, I don't like them at all' - is one thing. Saying women who have them look ugly/ridiculous/like fleshlights is another.

They do look ridiculous though.

call me soft if you like. (I am her mother).

But I look at my 11/12 year old daughter and I think she is so beautiful.

She is starting into puberty but she has that aura of innocence.

Soft unblemished skin (well starting to show a spot or two as I did);
Slightly lanky legs.

Thick (without any dye so far) beautiful rich glossy hair in an ungainly bob.

These are physical things I look at in my old age and can think - "beautiful" because they are as they are. Just as they are.

When did people start to think what they look like in their teens / twenties needs to be drastically and physically modified to comply with pornography??

It's got to be on its way out soon. I just associate it with cheap and tacky reality tv 'stars'.

Who wants to look like that?

I think we should be able to comment on this. If it stops one young girl from having these false plastic lips then brilliant. I would never comment on natural features. I think all young people are beautiful. But I don’t like the huge false lashes (but at least they come off), these lips, enhanced bums, cats eyes etc etc

Looks like a Bratz doll- awful

This is why I don’t watch love island

I’m a dentist and there are two things that make me feel queasy when examining patients. The first is when people take out dentures and they are covered in partly digested food. The second is filled lips, especially when they’ve been done over and over, up close they have the appearance of lumpy porridge and the natural colour of the lip is altered. They also feel weird and I can imagine that repeated inflation will eventually cause them to sag.

Awful. And it's really sad. Can you imagine the calibre of man and the class of sexist behaviour that the woman who'd choose the sex doll look would put up with?

@ThePearlOfDumbarton

Awful. And it's really sad. Can you imagine the calibre of man and the class of sexist behaviour that the woman who'd choose the sex doll look would put up with?

I don’t see the link there - it’s a bit like the old mumsnet thing about women who shave down below looking like children and attracting men who like their women to be childlike etc (I don’t agree with this) - I don’t think the two things are linked. It’s a fashion thing. I don’t like it personally but it doesn’t mean a woman who chooses to do this is more likely to put up with crap behaviour from a man. I think the days are gone or going where everything women do to themselves is linked to men and sex.

My 17 year old (nearly 18) dd and her friends all love this look. And the ridiculously long fake nails and fake eyelashes. They’re all about the fakery. And I do think as someone said upthread it’s a bit of a status symbol thing- it’s a visual representation of how much money someone has and how much they value themselves to spend that on themselves. I think that’s all bollocks but I can see where the thought pattern is.

It’s very much like when I spent 15 years working at Clinique and the more successful you were as a consultant the more expensive the designer bag you had was - as we had to wear uniform and that was the only visible thing you could have. (Cringe).

For men its often sports cars and now the whole signet ring on the pinky finger thing and for women it seems to be fake beauty stuff.

@Bagelsandbrie well I beg to differ.
There is a difference between treating yourself to an expensive handbag which is for yourself as no man finds you more attractive because of your Loewe handbag, I can promise you that.
There is a difference between treating yourself to a car, a bag, a sofa and aspiring to look like a sex doll or a porn star.
So you leave me unconvinced.

I would be concerned for the ''love'' life choices of a young woman who with all the choice in the world decided to look like a blow up sex doll. And the man who chose a woman who wants to look like a blow up doll? He'd be your ideal man wouldn't he.

@Bagelsandbrie and the signet ring is all about status, being from an established family, having worth, having value, being somebody

How have you conflated that with sex doll lips which communicates none of that value. It conveys the opposite. All I've got to offer is a blow job.

They are opposites in what they convey and yet you've used them as comparitives.

And an expensive car, again, if that conveys anything it is power, wealth, independence, status.

You think sex doll lips convey power or status?

Nope.

I have an 18 year old daughter. Not all 18 year old girls buy in to this.

And............ even if ''it's a fashion thing'' why is it fashion for men to acquire symbols of independence and wealth and status and display clothing that insinuates they're from an important family with influence? Why are these attributes not being held up as valuable women?

Shouldn't women also want and get a slice of the independence and wealth and status pie? or would that get in the way of their aspirations to be on call for 24/7 blow job duties?

It's ''just a fashion thing'' is clearly NOT a reason to shrug and relax ..

The sex doll look confers status?! Now I've heard it all! Famous people who have actual status (i.e. conferred by talent and achievement) are not the ones sporting the sex doll look. I would have thought that the cartoon lips, huge eyelaahes etc gave the appearance of the opposite of status tbh!

@ChiefInspectorParker

I’d imagine it’s more likely that a certain type of man would want a gf with this look - she is the status symbol, like his car, watch, etc in that sense. And some women aspire to this (consciously or otherwise)

I don’t think many lesbians go in for this look, do they? So I don’t think it can be as simple as showing you’ve spent money on yourself - although I do agree that plays a part.

Yes, thank you, I thought I was going mad reading that the sex doll look conveys status.

I quoted the wrong poster there. Apologies.

But totally agree with you too @ChiefInspectorParker

Somebody i know well has just had them im sure her nail woman did them. I had to pretend I hadn't noticed her swollen face I mean you can't say anything its not like a new hair cut or top its balloon lips

They look like they'd pop, if you touched them

@SheldonesqueTheBstard

I understand what you are saying summa but no one is born this way and it, for me, seems an odd thing to aspire to.

It may be considered beautiful now But it won’t always be and by then it will be too late for those who have damaged themselves irreparably. And that is an absolute shame.

I have no room to talk because I am frumpy and older with wonky brows that were over plucked when that was the fashion.

I don’t disagree with people making the best of themselves. I’m not sure this is that though.

But point taken and I’ll bow out.

Many black women ARE born with lips like those, so yes, alot of the comments are rude (e.g. likening them to a baboons butthole ).