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Lips - is this what people are aspiring to these days?

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mostprobablyyes · 05/07/2021 18:46

An old boyfriend has shared photos to advertise a friend's beauty salon. I know I'm not their target audience, but I'm still shocked that this is what women are supposedly looking for these days.
I do get that if you have thin lips it'd be nice to have them plumped up a bit. But these are so clearly fake.
Am I just an old fuddy-Duddy with no idea? Confused

Lips - is this what people are aspiring to these days?
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mostprobablyyes · 05/07/2021 19:54

@Summerleaves

Ah yes, the sex doll look.

This can't be a serious advert?

Lip fillers always look ridiculous but itthis is second level.

Yes it's a photo from their FB page. How touched up the photo has been I don't know. But this is genuinely being used to advertise their products.
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SummaLuvin · 05/07/2021 19:55

sorry I must have missed the etiquette class where it's taught that, providing it isn't naturally occurring, mocking other people appearance is fair game.

I fully agree that there is serious issues with lack of regulation and that insecurities are preyed on. I'm not suggesting everyone should like the way it looks. I am merely pointing out that creating a thread and commenting where the only purpose is to put other people down is unkind. And if your point is that it is these women are insecure then I don't really see what putting them down further is going to do for their self esteem.

Summerleaves · 05/07/2021 19:55

@mostprobablyyes

Oh dear

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mostprobablyyes · 05/07/2021 19:57

@SummaLuvin

I know this is Style & Beauty and everyone is welcome to their own opinion of what those things are, but making a thread with the aim of mocking and belittling other womens appearance seems mean spirited. I can only imagine the vitriol aimed at me (rightly) if I created a thread to make fun a trend I thought was frumpy...
I hear what you're saying. But one of the things that bothers me about this is that I don't think it actually is their appearance. All the pictures they are using on their FB page clearly have some kind of Snapchat type filter applied to them. So as well as thinking these look ridiculous and sex-doll like, I also think they are selling young women a possibly unattainable image, or encouraging them to think that they need to look like a sex doll to be attractive.
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Serenschintte · 05/07/2021 20:01

In a restaurant today and saw a girl in her 20s with lips like this. It just made me so sad. What have we come too when we think this a beauty standard? It basically comes from porn. If her aim was to look better (and she was a totally stunning girl) it’s a shame it has to be this way.
DH was rather shocked by them. He thought it was sad too.

BeforetheFlood · 05/07/2021 20:01

I am merely pointing out that creating a thread and commenting where the only purpose is to put other people down is unkind.

The photo in the OP isn't of anyone identifiable. I don't think it's either unkind or unreasonable to have a conversation, on a discussion forum overwhelmingly used by women, about a totally unnatural aesthetic trend being held up as the beauty standard young women should aspire to.

TheDinosaurMum · 05/07/2021 20:03

Hopefully this fad dies out before too many women end up permanently scarred or damaged from it all.

I'll be honest, I don't even know many men or women who find it attractive, but I think that says more about my peer group lol.

Outbutnotoutout · 05/07/2021 20:03

It seems men want lips to look like vaginas that they can have another hole to fxxk

Babygotblueyes · 05/07/2021 20:04

Ewwwww. They are horrible!

SummaLuvin · 05/07/2021 20:08

@BeforetheFlood

I am merely pointing out that creating a thread and commenting where the only purpose is to put other people down is unkind.

The photo in the OP isn't of anyone identifiable. I don't think it's either unkind or unreasonable to have a conversation, on a discussion forum overwhelmingly used by women, about a totally unnatural aesthetic trend being held up as the beauty standard young women should aspire to.

This wasn't how the discussion has been framed though - about the ethics of fillers - it's quite clear by scrolling through the comments that this thread only exists for people to go "eww, how silly does that look...".

I also think the fact that it isn't an identifiable woman is irrelevant, you mock that photo you mock everyone with lips that look like that. If I posted a picture of a larger woman and said "gross, what a flappy tummy" any woman with a figure like that would feel targeted by that comment, and it wouldn't be a defence for me to say that it wasn't a picture of them.

MyHairNeedsASnip · 05/07/2021 20:08

It looks sore, I wonder if it hurts when they go so big.

MarshmallowSwede · 05/07/2021 20:09

If you have normally full lips then wonderful, but this fake injected lip look I’m not a fan of.

There are so many women in my neighborhood with this look and it looks so overdone and ridiculous. About a month ago I was walking and there was a woman who had obviously just had hers done and it was like she had placed two sausages on her face. I was trying not to stare but it just looked very painful and very bad.

If a woman wants to enhance herself then by all means do what you want. But it is stating to feel like everyone looks the same. Same
Lips, same nose.. no one looks anything like themselves anymore. It’s just a weird thing.

TheRebelle · 05/07/2021 20:12

They look even weirder in real life! A friend of a friend had them done and friends DD said, in the way only a four year old can, Mummy, what’s wrong with Gemma’s face?

SocksAndTheCity · 05/07/2021 20:13

@Outbutnotoutout

It seems men want lips to look like vaginas that they can have another hole to fxxk
I'm pretty sure that's a different thing altogether and has already been invented; in our house we call it a blow job. I can't say my vagina looks like that, but to be fair I've never put lip gloss on it Grin

I don't see what men have to do with it at all - I wouldn't have them, but if other women like this look and it makes them happy then more power to them. They probably wouldn't like my hair/eyebrows/piercings, and there's no reason why they should.

Summerleaves · 05/07/2021 20:13

@SummaLuvin

It's a style thing though?
It's not a natural body thing that can't be helped.

It's something women pay good money to achieve.

I think they're ridiculous in the same way hobbly high heels are ridiculous, except lip fillers can cause actual bodily harm and permanent, obvious disfigurement.

It's incredibly sad that women are being convinced this is a good look.

youngandbroken · 05/07/2021 20:13

Beauty standards do change constantly but plastic surgery, fillers and other body modifications are becoming more and more accessible now and so I think these trends will continue for a while. I was described as having very delicate features by someone (in other words I have no lips, thin eyebrows, no curves, paler than a sheet of paper and nothing particularly striking about me) and am the total opposite to every popular trend at the moment and I do feel really insecure about myself - I think alot of women do and I worry for my daughters growing up because I think the beauty standards are likely to become more extreme as body modification becomes even more accessible.

Millymog · 05/07/2021 20:13

I agree this and other "beauty" trends are strongly driven by porn.

I don't know whether men put direct and vocal pressure on their girlfriends/sexual partners to conform to porn they have seen (or watched with their partners) in every sense including physical appearance; OR
whether many women just know what the women in porn look like and know that their sexual partners are addicted to porn so they put it upon themselves (and other women they know) to conform to that image (i.e women putting pressure on women).

or maybe a bit of both.

Either way it makes me terrified for my task of guiding my (currently 11 yr old) daughter through the next 10 or so years of her life.

And those lips. They so blatantly shout "blow job" at anyone looking at the person, without a single word being uttered.

Greytminds · 05/07/2021 20:16

I can understand why people pursue an asthetic or the appearance of youth. I fully plan to have little Botox here and there and I do get my eyebrows done, nails etc. what I find hard to watch is already beautiful young women looking almost grotesque from the amount of makeup and alterations to their appearance. An acquaintance on Facebook has a beautiful daughter who can’t be much more than 20 years old, and seeing her morph over time from a beautiful teen into an ott exaggeration of female beauty with excessive makeup, lip fillers etc i find hard to look at. I’m not criticizing the look I just can’t believe that it comes from a positive place of feeling good about appearance and choices.

BeforetheFlood · 05/07/2021 20:17

If I posted a picture of a larger woman and said "gross, what a flappy tummy" any woman with a figure like that would feel targeted by that comment, and it wouldn't be a defence for me to say that it wasn't a picture of them.

Hmm, not sure that commenting negatively about a woman's body shape - which may be a consequence of many factors well beyond her control - would be comparable to criticising an artificial beauty fad that the media manipulates women into paying to have done.

Cam2020 · 05/07/2021 20:24

In a restaurant today and saw a girl in her 20s with lips like this. It just made me so sad. What have we come too when we think this a beauty standard? It basically comes from porn. If her aim was to look better (and she was a totally stunning girl) it’s a shame it has to be this way.
DH was rather shocked by them. He thought it was sad too.

Couldn't agree more, it's so sad.

Nohomemadecandles · 05/07/2021 20:26

If I posted a picture of a larger woman and said "gross, what a flappy tummy" any woman with a figure like that would feel targeted by that comment, and it wouldn't be a defence for me to say that it wasn't a picture of them.

As a fat woman with all kinds of flappy bits myself, I can confirm you're talking bollocks! Being concerned that women are purposefully putting themselves through surgical procedures to look like a sex doll is not the same at all. It's a choice they make or feel compelled to make.

Oblomov21 · 05/07/2021 20:27

Makes me so sad. Hope it loses favour ASAP.

SummaLuvin · 05/07/2021 20:31

@BeforetheFlood if you don't get the point then I think you are being deliberately obtuse.

A previous poster implied that their comments could not be hurtful as the woman was unidentifiable so therefore no-one was targeted, I disagree. The point is that you cannot mock a feature someone has in isolation (whether natural or not) you mock everyone with that same feature. I used weight as an example as thats what we seem most commonly in the news/social media, people merrily mock Boris Johnsons weight, while seeming blissfully unaware their comments are hurtful to their overweight friends.

I also disagree that making cruel comments about someone's appearance is fine as long as what you are targeting is 'unnatural', but this thread clearly shows I am in the minority there.

TheVolturi · 05/07/2021 20:31

I have always thought they look ridiculous when they are inflated as big as these. So many young girls have them, lots of mums at school do! They usually can't speak properly when they're at big, I wonder why they think they look good?

lazylinguist · 05/07/2021 20:32

If I posted a picture of a larger woman and said "gross, what a flappy tummy" any woman with a figure like that would feel targeted by that comment, and it wouldn't be a defence for me to say that it wasn't a picture of them.

Completely different. Those lips are an (extreme) fashion choice, not a body type or something you can't help. It's perfectly common on S&B to give strong opinions about fashion items or looks that you dislike. And everyone who chooses to wear something extreme or have something radical done to their body knows full well that lots of people will think it looks awful. How is it any different to people saying waterfall cardigans are frumpy or cold shoulder tops look stupid?

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