The schedule is really useful, really, really useful. It's the specifics I'm going to struggle with.
As detailed elsewhere, I have nothing which fits (have lost 3.5 stone and am skint) and this is less a wedding, more a hoopla.
I can manage the day before stuff as that is more casual as dress codes go. The day itself is formal (fascinator or hat required) and heels should be high. I have never worn heels in my life. There are pimms soirees and afternoon garden parties to which I have to wear a semi formal dress (no skirts, should be summery) and men may wear shirt sleeves if warm and shorts if smart.
I own one dress. One dress. No heels. Dress isn't particularly formal.
I don't want to mock or sneer at or ignore or anything else, any of their requests. They are dear, dear friends and their wedding will be brilliant. I just don't know what to do.
DH is a levellers hoodie and tatty jeans type btw. He has work suits though but I don't think they count as formal. He has a dress uniform but that would be a v v v bad idea.