My children aren’t happy - where do we stand

[MummyNeedsVino]

Hi,
This is my first post and I really need some advice. Just a bit of back story. I’ve been with my husband for 10 years. We have two children together and we both have one child each from previous relationships. His ex wife made his life hell after having an affair and moving away with their son when he was 6 months old. My husband did everything to maintain contact and she eventually breached a court order (twice) and stopped him seeing his son for almost 4 years.
During that time, our children also didn’t see their half brother - there was no contact whatsoever.
Recently contact has started again with no transitional period for anyone but it is very strained. The children me and my husband have together have said that they don’t want their half brother to come here - he’s been rather unkind to them during contact weekends. His behaviour at home hasn’t been good either.
We had what I thought was an adult discussion about having to change how contact goes because the children aren’t happy. We all agreed on a plan. But now his ex wife is back to her usual demanding self and forcing the issue with their son coming to stay here even though our children really aren’t happy. She is an absolute nightmare to deal with - narcissistic and a bully!!
What I want to know, is whether the feelings of the children that live with us were will be taken into account if we end up having to go back to court?! She seems to think they don’t matter and it’s all about her son and what he wants.
Thank you in advance. My mood is being effected massively by the stress of this whole situation.

@Thursdaygirl He is a parent and should pull his weight and act accordingly. What sort of father wants to see their own child less? Have them out of the home? It’s not the child’s responsibility to slot in to this life the adult has created for himself. No patterns or frequency come in to question for children whose parents do not separate, yet when they do you end up with these selfish and self absorbed people like op and this sorry excuse of a father. I’ve nothing left to say on this post, it’s appalling and all too often the attitude of absent fathers and step mothers who couldn’t care less about their partners first child/children.

Agreed.

It's shocking how children are treated.

This.

This board makes me despair sometimes.