Dh being made redundant

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For transparency I've NC as potentially outing if linked to other posts I've made.

DH is being made redundant. He's told the ex of the current date his maintenence payments will currently stop unless he finds a job. Even then it will likely be a reduced payment for a while due to nature of his current role.

I inherited a largish sum of money and have paid for the refurbishment of the kitchen which we couldn't really hide from the DSC. It was much needed as the existing kitchen was falling apart.

Obviously now the ex is kicking off saying he shouldn't be spending his money on that etc. He's told her it was my money. So yeah..you can guess what's coming..she wants me to pay the maintenance payments instead.

Am I right that my money is nothing to do with it even if it is a large lump sum inheritance or can she take this to court?

I meant any redundancy should meet all his childrens need's .the impression I got from the OP is that he is just going to stop paying completely for his elder children...

And his younger children?

They are unimportant as they did not come from the golden uterus of the perfect ex wife

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He’s not paying for any of his children right now. The younger ones as well.

He has mortgage commitments, whereas his ex wife doesn't. Which is a luxury these days to be cherished. I remember when our mortgage was finally paid off we opened a bottle of fizz to celebrate.

Oh.

So my first thought is how irritating some of these replies are. 'Support the short fall' 'he should liquidate his assets'.

The reality is the kitchen probably came long before the redundancy. And, your money is NOTHING to do with his ex.

However, you will know deep down what sort of position this ex is in, and if your husbands lack of income is going to cause her to be unable to provide for the children then, I personally would be doing all I can to help to ensure my husband is contributing to his children. That doesn't mean giving the money yourself (though you may), it might mean any funds he gets goes to the children or he takes any only job... but if it's going to mean she has to stop the holidays abroad or cut down on life's finer things, I wouldn't worry. you are not responsible for his maintenance, legally, at all.

You can ffs - OP
Why does he not have any savings?

He needs to get a job asap, even if it pays less and you do not need to contribute btu I can see from your drip feed responses - you will be treating him to a luxury holiday to cope with the stress just o shove it in her face!

I answered that. I'm not answering it again

He's not thick. He's trying to get a job.

No I won't be treating him to a holiday. I'm off for a spa weekend that I'd booked ages ago but that's it. It's not a Drip Feed to answer questions and points raised.

@uneffingbelievable Lots of people don’t have any savings!

Does the ex have any savings?!

Nah she can just invite the ex round for a cuppa in her new luxury kitchen to make her feel better.

Luxury holiday? Where did that even come from?

Great solution! Quick and easy. Hallmarks of a great plan.

Yes OP, absolutely you and your husband and other children should be homeless in order for the ex wife to get her maintenance.

@ComfyBoobs you’re absolutely batshit stupid.

Yes

This bullshit is trotted out every time this question comes up.

The DSCs have two parents that are financially responsible for them. The OP is not. @supertatos you are not legally obliged to contribute to your DSCs child support if your DH has been made redundant. If you want to, can afford to do so, and do then that's your decision.

For everyone else, can you possibly see that some families in these circumstances couldn't afford their own bills, let alone the additional expense of paying child support for the DSC?

Sick of step parents being an ATM.

It's not a luxury kitchen. It's a kitchen with a functioning oven and cupboards that don't fall off when you open them

@supertatos I honestly wasn't having a go. I'm in support of you.

Sorry just this thread got a bit silly! It's a standard kitchen the only luxury is the dishwasher

Yep, people are batshit OP. I was trying to make a joke but it failed spectacularly! Enjoy your kitchen and tell the ex to eff off, that's my advice.

I got it. I guess some people's sarcasm filters are off

Bit rude. It's not always easy to spot especially when I've had some of the responses I've had on this thread!

I wasn't referring to you because it's your situation and you're likely very stressed by this.

I'm very firmly in your court on not paying, apologies if you took my message to be offensive to you. That is not how I intended it to be.

Why the heck would she do that?

If the parents were still together, what would happen? A third party wouldn’t bail them out that’s for sure.

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Not sure if it's been mentioned but the OP asked about the legal situation....

They are bringing in new legislation in that will include other assets like savings, property etc..in the child maintenance calculation. It is no longer just going to be based purely on income. They are also implementing new powers of enforcement.

Hopefully this will catch out non resident parents who deliberately try to reduce their income to avoid paying for their children.