Their toys are not my responsibility- aibu?

[blanketsmell]

Hello, there's been some "mild" drama and I'm looking to see what you, as fellow steparents think.

So I have two stepchildren who are both at secondary school and I have one child with my partner who is at nursery.

The stepchildren have, encouraged by their mother, bought lots of their old toys to stay here rather than charity shop them or bin if unplayable with. As a result their bedroom is now filled with lots of exciting toys aimed at a younger child.

I told them once little one started walking that they would have to shut their door if they don't want little one coming in. And then as little one grew and can now open doors dad gave them warning to make sure anything precious to them was out of sight.

Anyway.. quite predictably little one has got in while they were at their mums an has now broke a toy one of the dsc were particularly fond of. DH is now saying I should have stopped little one going in the room.

AIBU to say sorry but they were warned?

No just someone who advocates for children living with bullies

Fair enough...just reading your input gave me trunchbull vibes...

Clearly you need to go back and read the books then. Sticking up for children who have had their items of importance ruined by nasty half siblings, and getting blamed for it by the step, is not really in character for trunchbull

Try harder next time.

@Thinkingpod

You call a 3 year old a 'brat' which is quite frankly a disgusting way to speak about such a young child. You are absolutely vile....also like Miss Trunchbull.

This is a bit harsh?! The child that broke the toy is 3! He’s hardly ‘nasty’, I highly doubt that it was done on purpose!

I think this thread has gone a bit wild now! OP asks is she unreasonable, pretty much everyone says yes, that’s the end of it no?

Definitely no need to be calling a 3 year old names.

It’s often what you recognise from your own personality, that you most dislike in others.

@Thinkingpod it's really not nice to refer to someone as "it". Granted her attitude towards her SK's or other posters hasn't come across very nice either, but you don't refer to people as "it". Nor is it nice to refer to a 3 year old as a "brat" especially when you claim to advocate for children.

@Thinkingpod don't be ridiculous, you sound completely unhinged.

I heartily disagree with how the OP has handled this situation, but judging by your over the top posts I think it's you who should stay the hell away from children. Or just, you know, people in general ...

In what way did they break the toy? (trying to imagine how on earth a 3 year old could break any toy so quick.)

Have you met any 3yr olds?😂