SS being inappropriate with DD *trigger warning**

[Tryingoworkitout79]

I don't know what to think. My youngest DD, 5, was behaving oddly last night, trying to look in my pants, which is strange for her as she's quite uninhibited and comfortable with her body and mine (and used to them). Talking to her, it seems that SS, nearly 8, asked to see her 'privates/bits' over the weekend, she said no, she didn't want to and he moved her shorts to one side so he could see, saying that he wanted to. This apparently happened in the kitchen when I'd gone upstairs to get something. WTH!

DP rang his mum (as he's back with her now) and gently asked if she could ask him about it (arguably we should have waited till next week when he's with us, but though it was a good idea to let her know) and she's hit the roof telling us we're sexualising young innocent children!!

Yes, I'm utterly furious and feel a whole wide range of strong emotions that SS did that to DD when she said no.

But I'm not for a second suggesting that at their age it's sexual.

What the hell kind of message does that send DD, at this young age, that saying 'no' to someone seeing or touching your body carries no goddamn weight?!!! Jesus.

I think not enjoying the blended experience of random children foisted on you is a VERY common experience.

It certainly has been what I have heard when I have come across it.

Even worse when you read of parents insisting children have to share a bedroom with this randomer that has been brought into their life and home.

I cannot imagine the stress and powerlessness it must bring to all the children involved.

I have enormous respect for people who have a second relationship but acknowledge that it really isn't in their childrens best interests to have to share a home and have other children foisted upon them in their home.

Look at the brook traffic light system for sexual behaviour in children