Honeymoon & DSD

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Myself and my partner will be getting married next year finally.

We have two children together.

DSD will be attending the wedding as will our kids.

However, I would like to go on our honeymoon with no children if possible but we may have to take our two joint children if my mother can’t have them.

My partner has mentioned bringing dsd if we have to take our kids but I really don’t want too. I’d like to take the least amount of kids possible really.

Has anyone else took their kids but not step kids on their honeymoon?

I don’t feel guilty and my conscience is clear.

DSDs mum can have her.

However if the holiday was already booked and DSDs mum couldn’t have her then she would need to find alternative childcare as we wouldn’t be available.

That pretty much says it all.

Not only is your disdain for your SD clear, but it shows that it’s your holiday and you don’t give a fuck about your DP’s wishes since he wanted his child to come as well.

No, it just says that DSDs mum has other child care available to her and the holiday would already be booked so she can use that.

Iv already made it clear that yes it’s my holiday, it’s the part im bothered about the most. That’s nothing new to the thread.

Iv already made it clear that yes it’s my holiday

Cracking start to your marriage to not give a shit about your husband-to-be’s wishes

Although, I judge him more than you. Marrying someone who’ll happily show such disdain for his child says a lot about him as a parent.

I've two step daughter and a daughter from my marriage. I think all situations are different of course but I could never do it. Even with your SD saying she's not bothered she will remember the different treatment. Of course she will. I do get you wanting to go without the kids...I would definitely want to do this too! 😂

I think deep down you know it isn't right and you know the reason you don't want her there has nothing to do with childcare. Step parenting is hard. Hope you work it out.

OP - people like you with attitudes like this are what gives all step mothers a bad reputation

I honestly think after 10+ years together he knows what I’m like and is happy with how the start of our marriage will go.

I haven’t showed any disdain to dsd, I took comments on board and we spoke to her. She doesn’t want to go…..

Oh no...you can't exclude one child....what an utterly shitty thing to do.

Cruel

Just shelve the honeymoon and instead have a family holiday at another time that includes all the kids. If you want a special trip save it fir when you don't need to take any of the kids

This has to be a piss take OP. The drip feed is immense.
The next thing you are going to tell us, is that you always dreamed of Disney and that is where the honeymoon is or it is the Maldives and you told 15 yr old it was Bognor.

Your disdain for your DSD emanates from your every post - you really do not give a toss about her and she must know it - hence the convenient decline to come.

It's not going to be much of a honeymoon if you take any kids so either take them all or rearrange for when your mother can take yours and go chikdfree. Bit unfair to leave one out especially them being so close in age.

Why revive a 6month old thread?

It's not really going to be a typical honeymoon if you have 2 tweens with you anyway. It's going to be more like a family holiday. With the ages of the dc and the age gap between them having your dsc isn't going to change the dynamic. From your OP I assumed your dc were preschoolers and the dsc was much older.

You can just take your kids. It’s your wedding, your honeymoon and your children.