[quote Graphista]@Getyourarseofffthequattro that 1st paragraph I meant to put
IF he is paying more for ops dc than his older dc
The min cms amounts are usually pretty poor most people aren't on 6 fig salaries and I'm certainly not getting the impression op's dh is a high earner
@funinthesun19 I mentioned it because op did herself
I did clarify later we would want their mums permission.
That's fair enough
You mentioned it didn't get lowered - which is what led me to the belief that the amount is the cms set amount? Which imo is usually far from enough
£10 is a very small amount to spend on a gift for a step child I was genuinely shocked at that. I've paid more for virtual strangers gifts! But even aside from that you're a family why isn't the big gift from both of you?
We do exactly the same for our shared child before you judge that too.
Not sure I understand this right do you mean your shared child gets a gift worth only around £10 from one of you and a larger gift from the other?
I have a tense relationship with my ex too but I get gifts for his dc when appropriate and I'd be embarrassed to spend that little. I'd be furious if dds stepmum did similar (she never would)
Re insurance fraud I realised you were aware thought it might be good info for others reading who weren't just in case
How much their ex pays in maintenance is irrelevant.
I disagree. Children from the earlier relationship shouldn't miss out on things dc from new relationship get as far as possible.
Too many men/nrps carry on procreating without considering that they have a responsibility to the children they already have.
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Awh your privilege is showing.
It's very entitled to complain about the value of Christmas presents. And bizarre frankly. Ever heard "it's the thought that counts"?
Equally if he is a low earner, how do you expect him to pay more for his first child than his second? Again that's very privileged and entitled to be honest.