SC Bio-mum

[Spagz]

I need advice on how people deal with their SC bio-parent. I am a stepmum to a 4yo boy who I adore. We have him 50% of the week and I have been in his life for about 18 months now but his bio-mum is refusing to accept me. He’s starting primary school in two weeks and I said I will collect him from school on our days to have him but she’s called the school and told them I’m not allowed to do so. She said I’m not allowed to be apart of any part of that. I’m not allowed for sports day, I’m not allowed to ask his teachers about homework or anything. If he calls to speak to daddy then I’m not allowed to talk to him. I just don’t know how to deal with it. Any advice? Should I just backdown and do the bare minimum with him like she wants or should I try and be apart of his life like me and his dad would like?

@DancesWithTortoises

Posters who post just to object to the term and have nothing further to offer are bullies. I agree with those saying just that.

People post for help and advice not to suit the terminology nazis.

So your happy to be called a ciswoman?

@Getawaywithit

It when other people start labelling other people it starts to make peoples teeth itch

It’s way more than labelling someone else. It’s about trying to define someone else’s relationship. I carried, gave birth and fed by children with my body. Why does someone else get to define what that relationship is and then say how I feel doesn’t matter if we don’t agree on that definition. Because that’s precisely what is happening here.

It doesn’t go unchallenged if someone uses the phrase ‘sperm donor’ and on the step parent forum, I have never seen dad referred to as bio dad or birth dad.

Well of course you can define your own relationship, but youre arguing about someone else's which you have no idea about.

I reject the made up term "cis". But I don't post on threads where the term is used just to object to it.

That's daft