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To say it shouldn't be replaced.

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Woweee2 · 03/08/2021 12:55

My DSCs room is absolutely disgusting. I've spoken to DH about it several times and we have both discussed it with DC. There is rubbish in there, we had to disallow food and drink there because they just couldn't be trusted with it but DH still allows them to have "treats" up there on the weekend so bits of sweets/chocolate and so on.

Everything is all over the floor, toys, clothes, books, even their more expensive items like iPads and computer. I've warned them before that something is going to get broken if they don't look after it.

I went in there the other day to put their washing on the bed and as usual there is crap all other the floor. Basically I stood on an object and it's broken. DC was a bit upset, husband making soothing sounds about replacing it don't worry.

AIBU to say under no circumstances am I just going out and replacing it when they were warned repeatedly that leaving it on the floor would get it broken.

FWIW it's a tablet, they also have a computer so not without anything they can use.

I don't see why we should just go out and buy another just because the inevitable has now happened, it's tough imo. Perhaps if they show they can keep their room how it should be they can have one in the future again but not now.

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30degreesandmeltinghere · 03/08/2021 19:30

Ah misread. But who pays 800 for anything for a 12 yo?
Under 10 at exh's house our 3 x ds's had numerous amounts of tech. They knew none of it was to come to my house as no way was I replacing it...

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 03/08/2021 19:38

Well I’m guessing because the whole floor is probably covered in crap so She had no option

Of course there are options, you can not go in, you can pick things up first rather than stand on them etc.

chocolatesaltyballs22 · 03/08/2021 19:42

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

Well I’m guessing because the whole floor is probably covered in crap so She had no option

Of course there are options, you can not go in, you can pick things up first rather than stand on them etc.

Or the kids could pick their own crap up like decent human beings to avoid it being stood on.
ancientgran · 03/08/2021 19:59

Just as easy for OP to check what she's walking on. Actions have consequences.

mommabear2386 · 03/08/2021 20:52

Possibly replace but only after 3 month period of tidy room and respecting belongings more

SpaceshiptoMars · 03/08/2021 20:57

Teenagers, hmmm? Smoking on the sly, a bit of weed, a candle or incense habit, raiding your drinks cabinet - and - paper and clothes strewn attic bedrooms.

So, how fast can a fire spread? Note the posters to curtain travel...

ObviousNameChage · 03/08/2021 20:58

If I was to replace it it would be either, with their own money or as a main present for xmas/bday and only if they kept their room/things tidy for a while.

Yes I'd do the same with my own kids. In fact, I do. DD learned pretty early on to tidy after herself or when given a warning because otherwise I'll hoover/sweep whatever is on the floor and it goes in the bin without replacing.

MeridianB · 03/08/2021 21:01

I have no idea why you’re getting such a hard time, OP.

I wouldn’t replace it. Apart from DSC being careless and needing consequences, it doesn’t sound as if they actually need an £800 iPad. If they use it to watch videos then they have a TV in living room and a laptop. Job done.

AuntieJoyce · 03/08/2021 21:16

I personally would get the screen replaced if this was my child given I broke it. I wouldn’t rush though and would say that the inconvenience is the price you pay for not keeping your room tidy

OT but the random fire hazard doomsaying posts are a unexpected delight Grin

clickychicky · 03/08/2021 21:29

I went in there the other day to put their washing on the bed and as usual there is crap all other the floor I would also refuse to put their washing in their rooms so it doesn't happen again. DH can do it or they can collect it from somewhere safe and take it up to their room themselves.

HandScreen · 03/08/2021 21:31

Of course you should replace it. You broke it. You literally stood on it. If my phone was on the ground and someone stood on it, I would be cross. You sound very childish "well if you didn't want it broken, you shouldn't have left it on the ground". Take some responsibility.

rookiemere · 03/08/2021 21:37

@MeridianB the ipad did not cost £800 it is the laptop.

Screen repairs cost around £100 if it's salvageable.

30degreesandmeltinghere · 03/08/2021 21:37

Your dh can take 100 % responsibility for their laundry and room excavation...

YesDisney · 04/08/2021 00:13

I dunno if you should replace it or not, but LOL at all the posters who think you shouldn’t be allowed into a room in your own house without permission! 😂 I take it your teens are nice and tidy. Mine are not.

I go into their rooms all the time to put their washing in their beds (do people really just leave it piled up in the hall?!) or open a window because it smells and I don’t want damp and mould in my house. Or pick up soaking wet towels that they’ve left on the carpet because again, it’s my physical property and my carpet that’s gonna be growing the mould and I’ll have to fork out to replace.

They can trash their own properties when they get one but as long as they want to damage mine, I’ll go in there.

aSofaNearYou · 04/08/2021 07:37

@HandScreen

Of course you should replace it. You broke it. You literally stood on it. If my phone was on the ground and someone stood on it, I would be cross. You sound very childish "well if you didn't want it broken, you shouldn't have left it on the ground". Take some responsibility.
If you'd left your phone on the floor in a pile of discernable mess you refused to tidy up, it would have been your fault if it got broken. I think you need to take some responsibility.
aSofaNearYou · 04/08/2021 07:42

@SandyY2K

And that's exactly why it shouldn't be replaced, because they were told it will only be a matter of time and still continued to do it. They had opportunity to avoid this happening by not leaving it there when told not to

If they broke it, I'd agree.. but they didn't. Knowing they keep stuff on the floor, is why the OP should have been cautious with what she was standing on.

No, because the parents had told them repeatedly and in no uncertain terms that that was not an acceptable place for them to leave their things. It's not a case of "oh that's where they keep them so everybody else needs to be careful". I could say that about keeping my iPad in the garden if it then got rained on. This is on them.
Theunamedcat · 04/08/2021 08:43

How do you know that you were the one who broke it not them who broke it and shoved it under a stack of crap

cuppaandabiscuit · 04/08/2021 08:51

@Theunamedcat

How do you know that you were the one who broke it not them who broke it and shoved it under a stack of crap
This is a very good point! My DS broke his laptop by accidentally stepping on it but hid it and then tried to pretend he didn't know what happened.

There is both sides here - expensive breakable items shouldn't be left lying around but equally if the room is in that much of a state you can't see what's under the crap you should've taken a little more care
I'd suggest a 50/50 approach- they have to contribute/earn half the money and demonstrate they can look after things better then you/DP contributes the other half.

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ancientgran · 04/08/2021 09:37

[quote SpaceshiptoMars]Teenagers, hmmm? Smoking on the sly, a bit of weed, a candle or incense habit, raiding your drinks cabinet - and - paper and clothes strewn attic bedrooms.

So, how fast can a fire spread? Note the posters to curtain travel...

[/quote] Who suggested the kids are smoking weed, have a candle or incense habit or raid the drinks cabinet. Why are you making stuff up?

The OP thinks actions have consequences, she broke something and the consequence should be she replaces it.

TwinsandTrifle · 04/08/2021 09:48

I think you should replace it. You broke it! You went into their room uninvited, stood on it and broke it.

Sorry, what?? Grin

Yes OP. You were not invited into a child's room in your own house to put the clothes you'd washed for the child in there. How could you be so disrespectful OP?!

The child is 12. Not 3. Has been given an expensive gift, told repeatedly not to keep expensive gift on floor as it will end up broken.

It's ended up broken. And now they have to struggle using a different expensive gift to watch their films on. The pain, the suffering... Boo fucking hoo! No you do not just run out and replace it, and this is zero to do with being a biological child or step child.

DiddlySquatWilson · 04/08/2021 09:53

Some poster's are crazy. Acting like it would be fine to blame the person who stepped on your phone accidentally if you left it in the middle of the floor.

I can just imagine the AIBU now...

I always leave my valuable phone on the floor, I've been repeatedly told if I keep leaving my phone in the middle of the floor it will get stood on one day. Well someone has now stood on my phone AIBU to say it's their fault?

As if every single reply wouldn't be 'why the fuck is your phone on the floor?'.

EL8888 · 04/08/2021 09:56

No. That’s what happen when things are left on the floor. I’m guessing it was underneath a pile of god knows what and room like an assault course

ancientgran · 04/08/2021 10:24

No you do not just run out and replace it, and this is zero to do with being a biological child or step child. No it isn't to do with biology it is to do with being an adult and taking responsibility for breaking something that belongs to another person.

ancientgran · 04/08/2021 10:25

@EL8888

No. That’s what happen when things are left on the floor. I’m guessing it was underneath a pile of god knows what and room like an assault course
So who walks across a room choosing to walk on piles of crap? It wasn't left in a communal area, it was int he child's room.