To say it shouldn't be replaced.

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My DSCs room is absolutely disgusting. I've spoken to DH about it several times and we have both discussed it with DC. There is rubbish in there, we had to disallow food and drink there because they just couldn't be trusted with it but DH still allows them to have "treats" up there on the weekend so bits of sweets/chocolate and so on.

Everything is all over the floor, toys, clothes, books, even their more expensive items like iPads and computer. I've warned them before that something is going to get broken if they don't look after it.

I went in there the other day to put their washing on the bed and as usual there is crap all other the floor. Basically I stood on an object and it's broken. DC was a bit upset, husband making soothing sounds about replacing it don't worry.

AIBU to say under no circumstances am I just going out and replacing it when they were warned repeatedly that leaving it on the floor would get it broken.

FWIW it's a tablet, they also have a computer so not without anything they can use.

I don't see why we should just go out and buy another just because the inevitable has now happened, it's tough imo. Perhaps if they show they can keep their room how it should be they can have one in the future again but not now.

WWYD?

OP, I am sorry . while we admonish and remind the kids to be neat (really just making up their beds and leaving clothes in laundry hamper) we are also very diligent in reminding them to watch where they are stepping. In this case, you went into a cluttered space and where not mindful of where you were stepping.

I think that you should replace the tablet with the warning that it will not be replaced again if it is left on the floor.

I'm with you 100%

And that's exactly why it shouldn't be replaced, because they were told it will only be a matter of time and still continued to do it. They had opportunity to avoid this happening by not leaving it there when told not to

If they broke it, I'd agree.. but they didn't. Knowing they keep stuff on the floor, is why the OP should have been cautious with what she was standing on.

@AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken

I agree that it should be replaced, at least not immediately. They should have to keep their room tidy and show some responsibility. They’d have a list of chores to do, eg: Keep room tidy Put the bins out Put the recycling out Empty dishwasher

After a month of these jobs being completed regularly they would have earned their replacement tablet.

I think this is a sensible resolution.

I agree that they should have to earn a replacement but I suspect your dh may not back you up with this and will replace the item anyway.

You said it was on the floor under a pile of crap, then u walked on the pile of crap and broke it so yea u should replace it.

@Datingandnoideahowto

Again, same *@ancientgran*

We've met our soulmate.

There are 2 problems here. One is replace/don't replace. The other is fire risk and invalidating your home insurance.

I don’t think messy bedrooms invalidate home insurance!

I don’t think messy bedrooms invalidate home insurance!

Ya think?! Well, you might be in for a nasty shock one day. There's everyday messy, and then there's teenage messy. Read on:

www.puroclean.com/blog/how-hoarding-affects-your-homeowners-insurance/

Being untidy and hoarding are two different things. I should know one of my kids was untidy and my husband is a hoarder, I work hard to keep it under control but it is a very misunderstood MH condition and it isn't the same as untidiness.

Why did you step on piles of things? I’d expect it to be replaced, who walks on things rather than go round them.

I wouldn't replace it until birthday or Christmas. You can't leave something around in a vulnerable position and then blame someone for breaking it when they're just going about their day normally.

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

Why did you step on piles of things? I’d expect it to be replaced, who walks on things rather than go round them.

Maybe the whole floor was covered?

I wouldn't have gone in, just dumped the washing outside the door,or just inside.

No, don't replace.

A tablet should never be on the floor.

At 12, I'd have them tidy their room and prove they can keep it tidy for a reasonable amount of time depending on how often they stay over. Mine stay over 3 nights a week so I'd say 3 weeks (without giving it much thought!).

If they can do that, I'd then replace it once they've proven they can keep their room tidy.

This would drive me mad.

If your DH is unwilling to ensure they earn a replacement, start keeping their room clean, etc you are largely fighting a losing battle in my experience. However, I would be refusing to do the washing if the result is you need to go in their rooms to put them away. Maybe if your DH has the extra work of laundry, has to negotiate the mess in the room and will ultimately be blamed when he breaks something he might change his tune.

I wouldn’t replace it.

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

Why did you step on piles of things? I’d expect it to be replaced, who walks on things rather than go round them.

Well I’m guessing because the whole floor is probably covered in crap so She had no option

@Cantstandthesnoring

At 12, I'd have them tidy their room and prove they can keep it tidy for a reasonable amount of time depending on how often they stay over. Mine stay over 3 nights a week so I'd say 3 weeks (without giving it much thought!).

If they can do that, I'd then replace it once they've proven they can keep their room tidy.

This would drive me mad.

Hadn't realised it was an expensive iPad. Longer than 3 weeks, 3 months maybe!

I wouldn’t replace in the circumstances you describe.

I wouldn’t replace. I also wouldn’t pay them to clean it either. Children should be taught to look after things and to have some respect. My SDs are 16 & 17 & their room has been an absolute tip for the last 7 years. I refuse to go in their room & any laundry (if they ever bring it down) is left at the bottom of their stairs with the door shut.

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

Why did you step on piles of things? I’d expect it to be replaced, who walks on things rather than go round them.

You don't have teens do you?

Being untidy and hoarding are two different things.

Exactly.

Suggesting that the mess invalidates home insurance is quite a stretch. So many policies would be invalidate with messy homes.

Yabu it have paid 800 quid for a tablet for a 12 yo.
. Surely it is insured?

@30degreesandmeltinghere

Yabu it have paid 800 quid for a tablet for a 12 yo. . Surely it is insured?

Wasn’t that the laptop?