To say it shouldn't be replaced.

[Woweee2]

My DSCs room is absolutely disgusting. I've spoken to DH about it several times and we have both discussed it with DC. There is rubbish in there, we had to disallow food and drink there because they just couldn't be trusted with it but DH still allows them to have "treats" up there on the weekend so bits of sweets/chocolate and so on.

Everything is all over the floor, toys, clothes, books, even their more expensive items like iPads and computer. I've warned them before that something is going to get broken if they don't look after it.

I went in there the other day to put their washing on the bed and as usual there is crap all other the floor. Basically I stood on an object and it's broken. DC was a bit upset, husband making soothing sounds about replacing it don't worry.

AIBU to say under no circumstances am I just going out and replacing it when they were warned repeatedly that leaving it on the floor would get it broken.

FWIW it's a tablet, they also have a computer so not without anything they can use.

I don't see why we should just go out and buy another just because the inevitable has now happened, it's tough imo. Perhaps if they show they can keep their room how it should be they can have one in the future again but not now.

WWYD?

And what about the lesson for children to take better care of their possessions? You really don't think there is any lesson for the child in this situation?

@DiddlySquatWilson

Some poster's are crazy. Acting like it would be fine to blame the person who stepped on your phone accidentally if you left it in the middle of the floor.

I can just imagine the AIBU now...

I always leave my valuable phone on the floor, I've been repeatedly told if I keep leaving my phone in the middle of the floor it will get stood on one day. Well someone has now stood on my phone AIBU to say it's their fault?

As if every single reply wouldn't be 'why the fuck is your phone on the floor?'.

Ahhhhhhhhh but this is in Stepparenting. The usual rules do not apply. Stepmothers are always always in the wrong.

@ancientgran

Just as easy for OP to check what she's walking on. Actions have consequences.

True.

Action: Leaving your beloved tablet on the floor.
Consequence: Someone stands on it.

So walking on a pile of stuff means you have no responsibility? What if there was a knife or a glass in their and it went through her foot? Not normal behaviour in my book, I wonder if it was an "accidentally on purpose" thing.

@DiddlySquatWilson

And what about the lesson for children to take better care of their possessions? You really don't think there is any lesson for the child in this situation?

Well the lesson this child is likely to get is adults can act irresponsibly and take no responsibility and face no consequences.

I think you should replace it under these circumstances because you did tread on it.

@ancientgran

So walking on a pile of stuff means you have no responsibility? What if there was a knife or a glass in their and it went through her foot? Not normal behaviour in my book, I wonder if it was an "accidentally on purpose" thing.

I agree.

@ancientgran no it's literally treat your bedroom like a hovel, your things in that hovel get damaged.

I have seen such a similar post on here before and not one person was like oh that's your fault to the mum.

It's only because this is on step parenting board people are like oh you can't go into their room 😂😂and they can treat the room as badly as they like 😂😂 oh and don't worry about where you leave your items on the floor, Chuck them anywhere because the evil sm is here to take the blame for all of it 😂😂😂

It's so blatant is actually becoming funny.

Well the lesson this child is likely to get is adults can act irresponsibly and take no responsibility and face no consequences.

The lesson is you have to look after your things. It's a basic expectation. Also, that there isn't a magic money tree so if your stuff is ruined through your carelessness, you have to wait or work for it to replace it. It's a very basic thing to not leave your crap all over the floor.

[quote candlelightsatdawn]@ancientgran no it's literally treat your bedroom like a hovel, your things in that hovel get damaged.

I have seen such a similar post on here before and not one person was like oh that's your fault to the mum.

It's only because this is on step parenting board people are like oh you can't go into their room 😂😂and they can treat the room as badly as they like 😂😂 oh and don't worry about where you leave your items on the floor, Chuck them anywhere because the evil sm is here to take the blame for all of it 😂😂😂

It's so blatant is actually becoming funny.[/quote]
I don't think it is anything to do with being a step parent, I would replace something I broke if it was my child, my grandchild, a friend staying over or if I had one a stepchild. I'd even replace something I broke if the owner was someone I didn't know or I actively disliked. It's called taking responsibility.

It seems to be really vindictive on this thread, all about teaching a child a lesson. Some adults are bullies.

@ObviousNameChage

Well the lesson this child is likely to get is adults can act irresponsibly and take no responsibility and face no consequences.

The lesson is you have to look after your things. It's a basic expectation. Also, that there isn't a magic money tree so if your stuff is ruined through your carelessness, you have to wait or work for it to replace it. It's a very basic thing to not leave your crap all over the floor.

Don't you think the adults carelessness played any part in this? Don't you think an adult has more responsibility to behave appropriately? Walking on piles of other people's stuff is disrespectful. Not something we should be modelling to children.

Lol at the posters making out she's gone in there deliberately doing riverdance on piles of junk on the floor.

She's clearly said she caught it when she trod on the edge of a pile of clothes on the floor, and the tablet was buried in there.

I think PP are on to something, when they wonder if it had been broken by the child and hidden. It wasn't chucked down lazily. It was hidden in a bundle of clothes. I think they very possibly broke it, very probably from accidentally standing on it after leaving it on the floor, and it's subsequently been hidden so they can pretend to know nothing about it.

@TwinsandTrifle

Lol at the posters making out she's gone in there deliberately doing riverdance on piles of junk on the floor.

She's clearly said she caught it when she trod on the edge of a pile of clothes on the floor, and the tablet was buried in there.

I think PP are on to something, when they wonder if it had been broken by the child and hidden. It wasn't chucked down lazily. It was hidden in a bundle of clothes. I think they very possibly broke it, very probably from accidentally standing on it after leaving it on the floor, and it's subsequently been hidden so they can pretend to know nothing about it.

When the reality is probably very different. Nobody willingly walks all over stuff in a teen (or pre-teen) boys room. God knows what would get stuck to your foot.

We have similar with DSS (who is older and should absolutely know better). Every few days DP will go in and if the room isn't tidy the wifi password gets changed until it is tidy. Gradually he's actually learning that it's just easier to keep it tidy in the first place.

@TwinsandTrifle

Lol at the posters making out she's gone in there deliberately doing riverdance on piles of junk on the floor.

She's clearly said she caught it when she trod on the edge of a pile of clothes on the floor, and the tablet was buried in there.

I think PP are on to something, when they wonder if it had been broken by the child and hidden. It wasn't chucked down lazily. It was hidden in a bundle of clothes. I think they very possibly broke it, very probably from accidentally standing on it after leaving it on the floor, and it's subsequently been hidden so they can pretend to know nothing about it.

More making stuff up. The OP was there, she said she stood on it and broke it, maybe she knows more than you?

Poor kid, they broke it and hid it, the room is now a scene of extreme hoarding that will invalidate insurance, they are smoking weed in there and the house will burn down.

For heaven's sake OP you broke it just replace it and tell them laundry services are suspended.

@ancientgran nope.

If someone can't show any respect,care and consideration to their own things ,why should I?

OH kept leaving his tablet on the floor, one day DD stepped on it by accident. His own fault. That soon broke that stupid habit.

It seems to be really vindictive on this thread, all about teaching a child a lesson. Some adults are bullies.

Expecting children of any age to pick up after themselves is not bullying. It's good parenting ,setting boundaries and teaching them to be decent,functioning humans.

Well the lesson this child is likely to get is adults can act irresponsibly and take no responsibility and face no consequences

It's funny that you talk about no consequences for behaviour... When the child would literally be getting away with no consequences when they've repeatedly been told not to leave it there.

I wouldn't bother doing any of their chores if you're just going to be made to feel bad if something happens when you do them

Take some responsibility

HAHA at this gem. So the DSC are immune from taking responsibility for basic levels of tidiness and hygiene, the DH is immune from taking any responsibility to parent his children properly, and ALL responsibility for maid duties and money fall to the stepmum. Hilarious.

This an awful lot of handwringing when the fact of the matter is indisputable and really very simple.

Floors are for walking on

It seems to be really vindictive on this thread, all about teaching a child a lesson. Some adults are bullies.

You have literally been suggesting the OP stood on it on purpose. Do you realise how ironic the above statement you made was ?

It's called teaching your kid to respect the things that they have. They were warned, it happened it was a accident. Saying there is intention on stepping on it is a very vindictive thing to say.

The OP has said she's warned them, they didn't listen = something was bound to happen. Doesn't mean that OP was doing jig and burning down their items.

The child was warned that things would get broken if they didn't look after their things and tidy up and lo and behold, it's got broken.
A tough lesson in actions have consequences in my opinion.

[quote ObviousNameChage]@ancientgran nope.

If someone can't show any respect,care and consideration to their own things ,why should I?

OH kept leaving his tablet on the floor, one day DD stepped on it by accident. His own fault. That soon broke that stupid habit. [/quote]
I'm sure you are an inspiration to them.