Inviting SC to disneyworld - part 2.

[Ohanaa]

Update to my previous thread as I said I would update with the mothers reply.

Previous thread for anyone that’s missed it and reads this.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4294452-To-not-invite-step-child-to-Disneyworld-next-year

We sent a message to dsc mum yesterday fully explaining the plan, rough dates and asking if DSC would like to come but we also explained that she would need to pay upfront and we would reimburse once we are there.

Her reply was...

I will not be giving you a fucking penny.

Another text was sent explaining she would
Be paid back in full but due to the past we won’t be paying the money upfront.

She replied with a simple ‘No’.

So SC won’t be coming and her mum can’t even talk about it like a grown up. It’s a shame even if I don’t think DSC would enjoy it that much.

I will get on with booking the holiday this week and she can enjoy her trip with her mum when she goes.

Thanks to everyone who contributed to my previous thread.

@Getyourarseofffthequattro

Oh so, are we not allowed to say any negative about the mother's of our step children then?

It sure if that's addressed to me or generally? But if you're asking me, of course you can say something negative. You can say exactly what you like. But you also have to know that people are reading and will form opinions of you based on what you say.

The phrase that the OP used wasn't just negative, though. It wasn't a criticism. It was a pretty demeaning phrase to describe how the DSC came into being.

@aSofaNearYou

I'm sure I wouldn't. But she hasn't posted on here asking for opinions. I'm sure you're lovely in real life, and wondering what you did to deserve this pile on. I just don't think you're doing yourself any favours, especially using such disdainful phrases about another woman. The mother of your DSC.

Why is it so hard to understand that it is not unprovoked, and there's no real harm in expressing those feelings on neutral ground?

It's not hard to understand. I just don't agree. I find it crude and mean and unnecessarily aggressive, and does not paint the OP in a good light, and being provoked or not doesn't change that.

And a public online forum, where the media have already picked up this story and printed it, is definitely not neutral and harmless.

@Drovememad @Sirzy you're both right, apologies.

@hulahoopqueen it's @kirinm you should be apologising too, it's them you were snarky with.