Can you see it happening?

[Mollyandme2020]

My myself, my husband and our 3 children aged 1, 3 and 6 currently live in a 6 bedroom house so plenty of space.
Husbands son age 17 stays every other weekend.
We are moving house at the end of June to a 4 bed barn conversation. Which means each one of our children will have a room of their own and so will me and my husband.
The only place his son can now sleep at our new house is by putting a pop up bed in the dining room. He doesn’t have any of his own possessions at ours he just comes as he is and leaves as he is.
Can you see him wanting to do this??
My husband thinks that’s what will happen but I honestly can’t see why he would want to stay once we move.
I would have thought he’d be more likely to just visit for the day especially as he is now 17.
What are your thoughts?

Personally I would give him his own space.
He's 17 and likely would feel a bit annoyed at being in the dining room and having to unpack/ pack up a bed morning and night when he stays and due to not having personal space to be in or to keep things if he wishes to.

I wouldn't do this OP. I am a stepmum and I definitely do not fall into the camp of over-indulging the stepkids to the detriment of everyone else in the house but in this case I think your stepson's need for a private space of his own some of the time trumps your small children's need for their own space all of the time.

I think the playroom which is also his bedroom is a good idea. Unless the dining room is very private from the rest of the living areas i don't think it's fair to only give him that as his place.

I find the horror of this really bizarre tbh.

At 17 I was staying at my NRPs EOW (and not long before even less when I turned 18 and going out with my friends was far cooler), there's no way I would have expected a room to sit empty for me the majority of the time and I'd have understood perfectly had my parent discussed it with me.

I don't get all the fuss tbh. Children living in the home full time should have the room imo.

Maybe it was just me but I think I'd have been understanding of that at age 17, I wasn't a little kid by then.

How long does it go on for? if he's still coming over EOW at 21 should he still have a room sat empty and the other kids share?

Tbh when I went off to university at 18 my mum turned my bedroom into an office with a sofa bed 😂
I think you are right, OP he won't want to stay and I don't think it's just because you don't have a bedroom for him anymore. He will just have his own life - when are you expected to keep a bedroom free until? 25?

However, I would suggest that as he will only have a home with his mum it would be the right thing to do for your DH to keep supporting his mother financially. Depending on what your step son is doing - if he is in further education or low paid on an apprenticeship maybe your DH could contribute towards his keep?