Partner's child personal hygiene

[Cgd2020]

Any advice or should I just try to forget about it... When my partner and I and his now 13 year old daughter moved in together I deliberately did not take on certain tasks, one being laundry. But my partner does not do or make his daughter wash her clothes. (his mother previously did it for her). As a result her clothes smell, her room smells and it cannot be good for her body/personal hygiene. I dread to think how long she wears her underwear for. During normal school time it must be bad for whoever sits beside her in class. I have said to my partner about this but he doesn't seem bothered, should I just try to let it go?

How is all of you washing clothes separately economic or sensible
Surely you put all in together won't have to wait so long for a full wash load , and you could have a rota for who's turn it is etc , but a 13 year old will likely need reminding still . She is also in your care and I for one couldn't alt by and watch a child go to school on dirty clothes

@chubbyhotchoc if you knowingly let your child out smelling and with dirty clothes that is not good , personally we all help with washing in my house most of the time but been times where I've had to remind my oldest to shower or tell him he's smells ( bo etc ) under 16 they are still children and the responsibility of them falls on parents , if she's not doing it and is capable , it's still there responsibility as they then should be calling her out on it . I e before you go online etc get your washing on
Wether my step child or my child the point is they are a child

My son is 13. I do his washing because it's all in the basket so it makes no difference.
His job is to load and unload the dishwasher. Why dont you give her a different job to do instead? Then you or your partner show her how to work everything.
Then be blunt. Say your room smells. I dont want it making the house smell you need a big clear out at the weekend then we will order whatever products you want online. Shampoo, plug in smelly for her room.
It's easily fixed

As a stepparent, I usually stand up for other step mums on here, they get a unjustified hard time.

In this case, you and your partner are neglecting this child. What is the matter with you?

@Cgd2020 I don't know why everyone is attacking the step mum. Your Partner (her dad) needs to either step up as a partner and father and clean his child's clothes. Although she is only 13 and you could just show her how to use your washing machine since your partner clearly is not going to.

As a Step Mum (I refuse to clean and tidy up after my SS and Partner). It's not my job. Don't get me wrong I do the basics, but I am not everyone's full time cleaner. I personally, would show her how to use it and she would probably respect you more long term. You need her to respect you as she grows up......

ZOMBIE!!

Yet another, ffs.

@Cgd2020 Another option would be to say to your partner "If your not going to clean SD room and clothes. I'll have to get a cleaner in and you will have to pay as it's not my job"...... that will get him by the balls...lol