Is anyone happier with no contact?

[Oggden1]

Dp exw stopped contact due to her dp shielding. Which is what it is.
I realised the other day it's been 6 weeks, and other than the overwhelming lockdown stuff around childcare its been easier. Dp and me work as a team better with our toddler, I've been jingling work ft studying and no childcare and it's worked. Dp even said we row less... Which is true.
There mess but less mess than normal and the washing done and everything seems to work better and no exw drama.
Were still facetimeing every other day and we've sned Easter eggs and planted sunflowers n stuff like that for them with ds. Which has been nice.
I know it's smmeems wrong but having family time just 3 of us and not all the other drama is relaxing.
Dp misses them obviously but ds is too young really and hasn't noticed. I've been able to study in the evenings when ds is asleep rather than surrounded by noise.
I know 1 will always be easier than 4 but I'm slightly dreading the chaos returning (we have them 40% normally) . I hope I'm not alone and not a monster.

@Annaminna
That was me who replied to you.

Round of applause for the sperm parent who takes responsibility for his child - whilst complaining about how much his “accident” makes the two of you “suffer” in your lives, which would other wise be perfect if the poor lamb hadn’t been tricked by the scheming wench
The mother sounds like a disgrace but please don’t think for a second your man sounds like a prince in all this.

I only find it easier once my step child’s mum is not in the mix constantly stirring trying to make my step child the number one priority over all the other children in the mix. She decided to self isolate but only to try and cause tension in our household. I actually miss my step child and my heart breaks when they tell their dad they him and has to whisper they miss their step sibling incase their mum goes mad. Makes me realise how much tension and rows is caused by my step child’s mother.

We normally have DSC 50% of time.
I love the time with DSC. We always have fun and great time.
But when DSC are away, I don't miss DSC at all.

@Giespeace
Did you just call a resident parent "the sperm parent"?.
That is a whole new level

@humanvision123
I sure did

My disdain is only because his partner seems to think he’s some sort of fairy tale hero for actually looking after his child like many millions of mothers do as standard, even if he huffs about suffering because of his terrible mistake

The same could be said for many rps on here though who harp on about how much they do while their ex does/pays a pittance. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Oh op I don't blame you at all! Enjoy the peace while you have it.

My SD hasn't been here either. Unlike yours she is not kind and does not love her sibling. In fact she won't tolerate our toddler in any way whatsoever.

Her mother poisons her against us, I often hear statements that are quite obviously not coming from her own head. SD has become manipulative and will only come if her list of demands are being met. It's a complicated scenario and I'm hoping it balances out over time.

She was here in the garden for a few hours last week (socially distancing). I don't know if it was the effect of being with her mother full-time instead of two thirds but she was even ruder to us than usual. I had to breathe deep. My DP got frustrated with her when he is usually oblivious. I don't know if he just suddenly noticed.

Since then it keeps playing on my mind that secretly I am not looking forward to her returning. I feel guilty about it but that doesn't make it any less true.