Have you moved your do in who has children? How do you find it?

[Mustbearealadultnow]

So I live in a two bedroomed flat with my dd. My dp keeps talking about moving in and we honestly love having him around and if it was just him I would be likely to say yes soon.

He has 3 children who he has every other weekend, they are nice children and my dd gets on with them.

To be completly honest I just feel very overwhelmed by the fact that if he moves in then every other weekend I will have 6 people in my house which has only ever had 2 people in it.

I am used to having peace and quiet and space and having so many people here would be a massive difference.

Just wondering if anyone else has been in a similar position?

It's not like me and him would get a place together it's that he would move into my space which then means his children would also stay.

I would love to hear how others got in in this situation.

@pinkyredrose

I don't feel like he's paying me lip service as such, I think maybe when I brought it up he knew I had an issue with him moving in and he might of felt uncomfortable and akward.

I feel more like he said no way that was a joke to kind of 'save face' type of thing like perhaps he felt embarrassed.

And he did state no I need to get a place for me and my kids etc, I feel like he realised if he didn't already no this isn't acceptable for me and he didn't want to Continue with it like he thinks it's a great idea as he actually knows it would be massively inconvenient for me.

Well you've delivered your message loud and clear. I reckon he was saving face and was embarrassed too.

If he's living with family, then even a 10k plus debt should be managed to be cleared relatively quickly if he was so minded. Even on a minimum wage job - no idea what he does - he could be paying £800 a month off the debt to clear it and still pay 20% child maintenance and afford petrol etc. IF he wanted to....
If he isn't, then that probably says more about how he approaches money etc. As unlike some, I don't think that if he has such huge debts that he would want to be going out and paying for dinner etc.