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Why would a mother do this ?

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SharonMitchellsBaby · 18/08/2019 13:50

Currently on holiday with DH and his 2 children . SD is 15 and her Mum sent a message on the day before we were leaving to ask if we would do laundry that night for the daughter . WTF ? Daughter had been away at a sports camp for the week in the UK BUT not the same clothes she would need for here in hot climate .Mother claims she doesn't have drying space where she currently lives.
Why would you do this ? Why would you not encourage SD to be packed and ready to go at the beginning of the week ? When my DH queried it she said she would tell SD we couldn't do it . Why would you do that ?

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Rachelover40 · 18/08/2019 13:51

I've no idea, Sharon. However I would have just put the stuff in the washing machine, no big deal. It's good to help each other at times.

LegoPiecesEverywhere · 18/08/2019 13:52

I am not sure what the issue is. If she doesn’t have the drying space and you do then it makes sense to me. SD at 15 is old enough to pack herself without encouragement.

MsPavlichenko · 18/08/2019 13:53

She told you why. She didn't have drying space.

Namechangeforthiscancershit · 18/08/2019 13:54

Why wouldn't you just wash it?

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SharonMitchellsBaby · 18/08/2019 13:55

Exactly - 'she told you why " ... wtf ? I'm supposed to be told what to do last minute by someone who can't organise /assist her daughter to be ready for a major holiday ?

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MrsDimmond · 18/08/2019 13:58

Eh?
You're clearly pissed off but I still don't understand what happened to cause it?

LegoPiecesEverywhere · 18/08/2019 13:58

It is your holiday. Surely if any assistance is needed it falls to her father.

BogglesGoggles · 18/08/2019 13:58

She has a father too you know.

MsPavlichenko · 18/08/2019 14:00

She asked you/ Dad if you could do it. Reason as above.

You can do it or not. Your choice.

Also your choice to waste time on holiday winding yourself up. Try to relax.

MrsDimmond · 18/08/2019 14:02

If your dsd needs organising and assisting to prepare for the holiday you and dh are taking her on then that is dh's responsibility.
Washing the clothes from a sports camp is a separate issue and doesn't sound like a big deal.

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SharonMitchellsBaby · 18/08/2019 14:12

I would have more pride than to ask another woman to ask my daughter's clothes .

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SharonMitchellsBaby · 18/08/2019 14:12

wash not ask.

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SharonMitchellsBaby · 18/08/2019 14:13

What are the thoughts on the fact that a 15 year old should be doing laundry/getting organised herself ?

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PortiaCastis · 18/08/2019 14:16

What's her Father doing about it can't he throw some things in the machine for his own dd

SuzieQ10 · 18/08/2019 14:17

Sounds like you just want a reason to moan about the ex.

SmartPlay · 18/08/2019 14:18

I agree with most pp - don't really understand what the big issue is. Why can't you or her dad wash her clothes?
And you should know why your 15 year old stepdaughter doesn't think of it herself, how should strangers on the internet know? But considering that she apparently is/has been going away with you right after coming back from another trip, I guess it's fair to assume that she was occupied with preparing for her first trip and didn't think about packing for the second one.

MrsDimmond · 18/08/2019 14:18

I would have more pride than to ask another woman to ask my daughter's clothes

Eh? What's pride got to do with it??

She dhoukd have asked your dh as he's the other parent but I still have no idea what the problem is.

And yes, I'd encourage dsd to put the wash on herself and dry it ...

Duvetdazed · 18/08/2019 14:20

At 15 she should be more than capable of doing it herself.

Blondieg · 18/08/2019 14:20

Sorry, I'm confused, was girl at camp? Didn't have time to pack?

chemenger · 18/08/2019 14:20

It’s washing; it’s a trivial request unless you have to take it down to a river and beat it on rocks. If this is the whole story you just sound petty.

crustycrab · 18/08/2019 14:20

Why couldn't her dad put a wash on or let SD use the washer? Are you saying none of her clothes are suitable for the climate?

MrsDimmond · 18/08/2019 14:22

OP hasn't said what issues there were with preparation for holiday or what she thinks dsd's dm should have done.

Redglitter · 18/08/2019 14:29

I would have more pride than to ask another woman to ask my daughter's clothes

Ffs shes asked you as the girls step Mum shes not stopped some random in the street. I really cant see what the big deal is

MrsHound · 18/08/2019 14:30

Sharon, bung the wash on and be grateful this is all you have to worry about!

fleshmarketclose · 18/08/2019 14:42

You are winding yourself up over something so trivial. Putting a wash on takes two minutes so hardly taxing. If you objected you should have told your dh it was his responsibility. SD couldn't have done the laundry if she was at camp and if her mother had nowhere to dry it quickly then obviously the solution was for it to be done by the child's other parent (or their partner)