Why would a mother do this ?

[SharonMitchellsBaby]

Currently on holiday with DH and his 2 children . SD is 15 and her Mum sent a message on the day before we were leaving to ask if we would do laundry that night for the daughter . WTF ? Daughter had been away at a sports camp for the week in the UK BUT not the same clothes she would need for here in hot climate .Mother claims she doesn't have drying space where she currently lives.
Why would you do this ? Why would you not encourage SD to be packed and ready to go at the beginning of the week ? When my DH queried it she said she would tell SD we couldn't do it . Why would you do that ?

Sorry I am going to buck the trend here.

If DSD has been away at camp, with her scruffy trackies and far from best jeans etc, and has at home a whole other wardrobe of Holiday shorts, sun tops and suchlike, Then Yes I think it is a bit rough for the girl to show up to go away the next day with the holiday stuff in need of a wash.
The odd pair of jeans or top that she has had away this past week, but not the whole alternate wardrobe!

Lol at more pride than ask another women. I really hope my SD's mum would ask for any help she needs to make SD's life smooth. I'm not a random woman, I'm her dad's long term live in partner and the mother of her sibling and beloved step sibling

Why didn't she ask their dad? If she had, would you have objected to that?

Out of interest OP, do you wash everything after the holiday and send dsd home fully laundered?

I had misunderstood the OP, Jessbow and agree that I might have been irritated, but not to the extent of posting sbout it from the holiday!

Can't DH as loving father operate a washing machine?

I would not ask another woman to do someone's laundry but I'd have absolutely no qualms asking her father to do it

The teenager or her father can do it, this is not an issue, I’m embarrassed for you that you’ve sat and been raging about it and created a thread. She can do her own laundry (basic life skill she should have long mastered by now) or her father can do it.

I would have more pride than to ask another woman to ask my daughter's clothes

WTF??

I never let pride get in the way of asking my child's father to help with his daughter. Or asking my daughter to do her own washing.

I also never let pride get in the way of asking for help when I need it. Nor do I let my judgement get in the way of helping others if they ask.

My DD's dad and his wife have never done any of her washing and it pisses me right off!

I'm expected to organise and pack for their annual holiday and then do all the holiday washing when she gets back -and I've not even had the tears of the holiday!

Just put the bloody wash on, it's not hard

I used to get 2-3 plastic supermarket bags with dirty / wet washing when DSS came to stay. I washed everything and said nothing. Didn't want to be part of the stupid games "she" was playing or put DSS in an awkward position.
I suggest, you just wash the stuff or show DSD how to use your washing machine. No harm done & you saved the day!

As stepmum you won’t get any sympathy here. You’re a second class citizen on MN.

Even if she did need your help, she could have given you much more notice!

I really don’t understand what the big deal is. I particularly don’t understand why you’re still stewing over it (what sounds like) days later. You’re making a mountain out of a molehill.

I don’t think DSD’s mum’s request was especially unreasonable, especially if “turnaround” between DSD’s sports trip and your holiday was tight and/or she’ll be doing DSD’s washing on return from holiday.

Laundry is just part of parenting/step parenting.

If you think your DSD should be doing laundry independently when she’s staying with you, raise it with your H!

And yes, odd comment about pride and asking another woman!

Can’t your H do laundry?

Op, you do understand the girl has two parents. Both equally responsible, this means her father is as responsible as the mother.

You get that right?

Yeah it would do my head in but it will do you no favours letting it get to you, I validate you. Move on have a lovely holiday

You sound picky and unreasonable. Behave with some grace.

Throw the clothes in the washing machine and bloody quit whining

She ASKED you, she didn't "tell you what to do". Be nice Sharon. It's not a big deal at all.

I don't understand why anyone is doing a 15yo's laundry for them, other than the 15yo themselves.

Having said that, if the 15yo never does stuff for themselves, then I can't see that it would be such a big deal to chuck a load of washing on.

Sounds like a mountain out of a molehill if you ask me. Just tell dd to do it at your house.

I think you might be overreacting slightly. She's been away. You presumably have washing and drying facilities. It's a kind thing to do for another human being.

Out of interest OP, do you wash everything after the holiday and send dsd home fully laundered

I'd be interested to know this too.