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Will they ever accept me?

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niteandfog · 19/04/2018 23:02

My boyfriend and I got together via an affair (were not proud of it) but well what's done is done. His children know how we got together and the DS absolutely hates me his DD seems ok/ambivalent about the whole thing. I've told him at last his DS will never ever accept me and that we can kiss the "blended family" dream good bye... I just would to here any stories where the kids actually ended up accepting the ex AP as an actual step parent.

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niteandfog · 27/04/2018 14:12

Where I love I have no friends, no family and no career prospects... I don't want to take away my DD from her dad who is a great dad, but what am I supposed to do? Live a life of misery? Take her away from her dad?

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mzcracker · 27/04/2018 14:21

I agree with you. You and your new man should just run off into the sunset together. What a wonderful idea. Then your dd and your new mans dc's can get on with their lives without you pair fucking it up at every turn.

TawnyPort · 27/04/2018 14:39

My DDs needs are met

No they aren't. Young kids to not be thrust into a mess like the one you've created.

Weezol · 27/04/2018 15:09

Why haven't you made any friends?

FrancisCrawford · 27/04/2018 16:38

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LineyHasntLeftTheBuilding · 27/04/2018 18:42

Local book group? Creative writing circle?

swingofthings · 27/04/2018 19:12

This thread is getting silly. Is your DD happy? She might very well be indeed? Should you break up with your OH? Of course not, the damage is done, you might as well try to make it work. Will you always be together? Who knows, maybe so, maybe not, no-one can predict? Will he ever get to speak to his son again? Probably not any time soon, maybe later, maybe not. Will they ever be happy for him? Maybe one day, but not any time soon. Will you ever play happy family all together? That IS the one where all the odds are stack against you and what your and your OH really need to move on from, especially in the short term.

What you can do? Let him be try to rebuild his relationship with his kids and make him understand -since he seem to dim to do so himself - that trying to push you into them is only going to make them want to move away from him.

Weezol · 27/04/2018 20:29

Every thread OP posts is like this. I really hope it's someone who is writing a novel, surely no real person can be suffering from this level of cognitive dissonance.

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niteandfog · 27/04/2018 20:31

I'm retraining ATM, there are simply no corporate jobs where I live. I have an active role in my religious community..I volunteer for a charity, joined running club (that's how I got my boyfriend!) I ended up with no friends thanks to a very antisocial job and an ex who didn't give a toss about it as "he didn't need any more friends".

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mamahanji · 27/04/2018 20:39

Aren't you close with Killthedj? As you're both deputies of the religious organisation you're a part of as women of god.

mzcracker · 27/04/2018 20:41

LOL active in a religious community..shagged someone else's husband.
Unreal.

FrancisCrawford · 28/04/2018 09:53

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TawnyPort · 28/04/2018 12:15

Sure you do, and I'm the Pope!

naebotherpal · 28/04/2018 12:29

*That’s how I got my boyfriend!
*
Can I remind you that however you “got” him, it’s not something to be fucking proud of.

Ladymadness · 28/04/2018 14:43

Oh fuck the fuck off op for goodness sakes you need to grow up!

WhatLineyDidNext · 28/04/2018 14:47

Are we on the penultimate draft yet?

Weezol · 28/04/2018 17:25

What No idea, but OP really needs to stop using 'technically' to pad the word count.

Pleasebeafleabite · 28/04/2018 17:28

Bit unkind. OPs been committed to this narrative for several months. Kudos to her tenacity

FrancisCrawford · 28/04/2018 19:42

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Graphista · 28/04/2018 21:29

Well it's going to be pointless publishing the book because the whole world can read it here for free!

Unless op plans on making the characters more realistic, I'd also highly recommend making the lead characters more sympathetic.

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niteandfog · 29/04/2018 07:40

Because it was an accident! And we didn't have a choice with his

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mzcracker · 29/04/2018 08:04

How do you introduce your bf to your daughter by accident?
'Hi love, this is my new boyfriend!...ooops! 🙊 🤷‍♀️
You are a ridiculous person.
Cba reading anymore nonsense. All the best.

FinallyHere · 29/04/2018 08:16

It will be interesting to see how it all pans out.

Well, I predict that one series (perhaps not the first, depending on the ages of the DC) will end on the cliffhanger that the DD who 'likes him' has taken over the role of OW.

'Bouquet of barbed wire' anyone?

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niteandfog · 29/04/2018 09:16

He was hanging out downstairs for the evening like he always does and that night my DD couldn't sleep so she came downstairs and saw him. He was originally my "friend" but she worked it out in a couple of weeks I guess partly because I have no friends...

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