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Did this happen on its own?

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Crowdblundering · 18/01/2017 18:47

AARHH!!! Soooo pissed off.

Just noticed bloody curtain in our back lounge is totally bent and pulled out of its bracket and the plaster on the wall is all cracked and pulled off.

OH is like "oh I can't imagine how that's happened" and I'm like I am not accusing your kids BUT poles do not just bend and get ripped out of the fucking wall on their own - do they? Or am I a bitch step mother in suspecting them - it is where they sleep.

They are 12 and 10 and really fucking tall - I just wish he would back me up in zero tolerance to the destruction of our home AngrySad

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RacoonBandit · 30/01/2017 19:59

How is the neglect of a 12 yo overlooked in support of this man?

I really cannot get my head around it.
I will leave this thread but only because I am disgusted that so few will look past their own need to support the poor OP and see that in amongst this there is a child who's health and emotional wellbeing are being put below a broken curtain pole.

Oh and yes you can just leave the military especially where the welfare of your child is concerned you don't sign up for life.

MycatsaPirate · 30/01/2017 20:04

waves bye bye to racoon

Quick someone barricade the door! :o

Absolutely amazed at how this thread has turned out. Just awe inspiring in it's bonkers-ness.

Sunday999 · 30/01/2017 20:05

Raccoon, there is no evidence of neglect, and the OP's husband does not need to leave his job. You sound very unpleasant.

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Crowdblundering · 30/01/2017 20:07

Think I'll trust my OHs info on when and how he can leave (seeing as he's been in for 27 years now) over some goady arse on the internet Smile

And no I didn't say she was being neglected.

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Sunday999 · 30/01/2017 20:11

OP - lets go to the pub and drink wine! Mycatsapirate is coming too, and has promised to buy the first round!

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Crowdblundering · 30/01/2017 20:12

Excellent Grin

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thatdearoctopus · 30/01/2017 20:17

Can I come?
Mine's a white wine.
Large.

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Crowdblundering · 30/01/2017 20:17

Sure - more the merrier GrinWine

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Lunar1 · 30/01/2017 20:24

Raccoon, I have no desperate need to support the op for the sake of it. I was a neglected and emotionally abused step child so am not supporting a step mum through misguided solidarity.

I honestly can't, from any angle see what you are seeing. She sounds like a step mum who lives her DSC and is doing her best in a difficult situation. I really think you have read things that aren't here.

thatdearoctopus · 30/01/2017 20:28

there is a child who's health and emotional well-being are being put below a broken curtain pole.

Really? That's what you've deduced from this thread? I think you need to brush up on your comprehension skills, to be honest.

MycatsaPirate · 30/01/2017 20:37

I swear we all need a drink after that.

I can't work out which is worse. Racoon on this thread or the dire news on the Trump thread. It's a tough call to be honest.

RacoonBandit · 30/01/2017 20:43

You say you want me off the thread so I agree and all you do is mention my name Hmm

Very strange behaviour.

Mamamc123 · 30/01/2017 21:15

Christ is this thread still going? 😂

Stormborn20 · 30/01/2017 21:16

Equally strange as announcing you're leaving a thread and then continuing to comment I would imagine Grin

RacoonBandit · 30/01/2017 21:17

Difficult not to comment when other posters keep mentioning your name.

RacoonBandit · 30/01/2017 21:18

Oh i forgot I am not allowed to respond i am just supposed to allow posters to slag me off and call me names Hmm

Violetcharlotte · 30/01/2017 21:19

Bloody hell, is this thread really still going?! I can't believe you're still being attacked crowd. Any normal, sensible person can see you're doing the best you can for these girls.

Go and have a large glass of wine! Wine

thatdearoctopus · 30/01/2017 21:29

Who has called you names?

Anyway, probably my round now. 🍷

Notsurewhereifitin · 30/01/2017 21:32

As a PP mentioned raccoon won't leave this thread as she has to have the last say. Very troll like behaviour. OP and everyone else we should all just leave her to it and enjoy our wine, let her argue with herself and then she can have the last word/post! God help her DP and children

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Crowdblundering · 30/01/2017 21:36

I am having a Wine and a piece of Cake I made with DSD1 yesterday Wink

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RacoonBandit · 30/01/2017 21:40

See this is the thing. Stop addressing me stop calling me names and please dont pity my family. Then i will have no reason to post, yet here you are one by one inviting me back with your goady posts.

I am happy to leave the thread but I will not ignore you and allow you to bully me off the thread with your petty school girl behaviour because thats all this is.

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Crowdblundering · 30/01/2017 21:41

Pity your family?

You are accusing me of doing nothing and standing by and allowing my SC to be neglected?!

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RacoonBandit · 30/01/2017 21:43

Actually it was the parents that are not doing enough to support her.

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Crowdblundering · 30/01/2017 21:48

All the adults doing nothing?

You don't know shit about my family and how dare you suggest I would stand by and watch a child I love be neglected or would be with a man who would do nothing.

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RacoonBandit · 30/01/2017 22:04

So you have already said they "have a shit home life" "we are the only stable factor in their lives" coupled with a 12 yo who still wets the bed and absentmindedly breaks things and licks things but apparently this is not enough for dad to do something more than see them 4 days a month.

I just dont understand how a parent can know all this and say its not his fault its his jobs fault he cannot activley parent his children.

I have quoted you OP. These are things you have said about the girls home life and behaviour. You were ranting about a broken pole but can you not see there is clearly a bigger picture?

I would be very worried if this was my child and I would as a parent do all i could to change their home life and get them proffessional support.