Here we go!!!

[Nursed123]

It's that time again..... Step kid weekend!

I'm just sitting, with wine in hand, waiting for them to descend.

I really wish I could say I look forward to these weekends but I dread them for various reasons

Here's and for anyone else who can relate

Thanks for assuming the worst though.

Any assumption was based soley on your own post.

Here's an idea.....

Stop assuming?

Awww, he'll do it again like you say! Well done wee man, proud mummy! dreadful stepmum

Thanks for confirming judgeyness there bubblegum

I said any assumption sleepy i didnt say i had assumed.

Evil did not state in her post DSD was down the drive way. She stated thay were at the door. So if the mum heard it then based on what Evil posted then DSD would hear it too.

I know! So proud!

He loves dss so I must have done something right.

Ironically, dss was the only one who saw the actually roll because daddy was bagging a nappy and didn't notice until he was on his belly.

For those who have DSC and DC how did you break the news? We haven't told ours yet, they have just had a baby sis from their DM a couple of months ago. Seem to be OK with it but we have just 20 week scan and we are having a DD

Awww....dss must be chuffed! it does get easier as they get older and start to play together! Our two have the sweetest relationship, they just love each other!

congrats Carolann, lovely news! We broke it very gently and ensured DSC involved as much as possible. Show them the scan, bet they'll be excited! :)

Dp told dss. I stayed away. Was terrified. With good reason.

He cried. A lot.

But, then after much explanation that it wasn't a replacement for him or his sister (mummy dearest told him we would soon have a baby that would replace him!) he got over it.

Then when we had a midnight rush to hosp because I'd had less movement, he was at ours so came with us, he heard the heartbeat and the midwife asked him if he was excited for his brother and he said he's not my brother and I just wanted the ground to swallow me up.

But it turns out mummy had been interfering again and told him the baby wasn't his brother because I'm not his mum. Once dp explained he was still his brother because he has the same dad, and obviously we want them to be close, he understood and accepted it.

Now they love each other, it's dead cute.

Evening all

Carolann - we were out for lunch and I was about 16 weeks. We hadn't actually decided that we were going to tell them at that point, although we were planning to do it soon. We just casually asked how they would feel if they had a little brother or sister and both reactions were good, so we told them. The oldest cried (happy tears) and the youngest didn't believe us until hours later, when she worked out that if it had been a joke we would've told her by then! She was happy though. They came to the 20 wk scan as well, which was lovely

Also congrats on DD

Carolann congrats again . I got t shirts for DD , DSD & DSS saying "I'm going to be a big sister / brother " and they opened and read them theirselves . They also wore these and we invited family round to announce to them that way . It was really cute

I can't wait for bonfire night with the children can anyone else ? Ahh sleepy I bet DS will be rolling everywhere soon enough haha .

PS : I miss wine

PPS : I really feel sorry for people who have nothing to do but read threads & get angry and slate the people commenting on them when they are clearly all getting along and relating to each other . Woops .

We told DSS together about my pregnancy and he was very happy. But gutted when we found out it was a girl but now he loves his sister :)

PPS : I really feel sorry for people who have nothing to do but read threads & get angry and slate the people commenting on them when they are clearly all getting along and relating to each other . Woops .

Feel free to carry on ladies but are none of you worried considering some have posted quite identifiable info?
I only ask as there is yet another thread the daily fail have stolen from here in the last week. Evil step mother threads in the lead up to xmas us right up their tabloid street.

Ahhhh lady what's the age gap ?

Ha Bubble I was just thinking how tabloidy some of these posts are.

It would fit.

Or maybe the Mirror.

8/9 year age gap between them mother :)

DSS is having new siblings via his mum. DSS wants our DD around the new babies when they are born. Given the hassle in the past is it ok to tell my DH I think it's better if DSS has his life with us and his life with them separate? I don't want more argument with children involved.

Lady - That is a very tough situation to explain. Personally I think that the 2 families have to be separate. In an ideal world, where everyone gets along great, it could be different. Struggling to give advice on this one as I know if that happened to me, it would all be kept separate, no question. And that would be DPs choice as well.

Yeah DP has agreed to being separate too. Hopefully DSS will not ask again as the new babies aren't born yet. DP said he'd explain to DSS.

If it was me. They'd be totally separate,

However, if I got on with the ex, then I'd consider having a few outings together or whatever, but obviously if you're not amicable then that's probably a very bad idea!

It's difficult but he will understand hopefully, and when he's older hell realise why I suppose.

It's difficult isn't it, when you can't tell them the Truth because they don't need to hear it, and aren't old enough to, but you need to explain it to them somehow.

Yes I agree with the separate thing . My DSC have suggested things in the past along those lines and I have always distracted and changed subject rather than give a direct answer and upset them .
ExW offered to baby sit my DD which I found quite bizarre . Being amicable in front of kids is fine but anything more just seems all a bit much personally .

Thanks everyone. I worry in case I seem horrible but because of history with ex and my own DH I feel best for me and DD is to do our own thing.

I have youngest DSD frequently asking if me and her mum can meet and be friends, which is difficult to deal with but actually a good sign, because she used to ask me why her mum hated me and said mean things about me. So it seems that her mum has stopped doing that and that DSD has forgotten all about it! I have become a master of excuses as to why I can't meet her mum!!

I don't think it's horrible, it's just hard to understand for a kid who obviously loves all of you and doesn't understand you can't all be together at once.

I think if you dh and ex and their dh if they have one, can get on, genuinely, then fine maybe do get together because there's nothing wrong with it. But I think if even only one of you is uncomfortable, then there's no point because kids do pick up on it.

Nursed - I got your original post - hence why I ventured in. I do get that aspect, do not have a drink whilst DSCs are here - got to keep my wits about me but once they leave - I do get a big glass of red out! I liked that aspect - not the skank, evil how dare you voice an opinion etc.

Sleepy - I am sorry but there are so many posts on here where the resentment of the DSCs is palpable. They are ruining the life of the SM, their perfect family is not just them new DC and DF, DF has another life and when they want all their kids together, then the red mist of rage seems to descend. That so many of yours have been deleted speaks volumes.

I struggle with certain aspects of my DSC, others are fab .His EX is a cow to my DP, I stay out of that - they split 10yrs ago.His Ex and I actually communicate well most of the time - she wanted to understand what her DCs were saying about DC needing surgery and meds -so she asked me. Also pointed out that one of hers needed meds but it was a battle to get them to take them. I have heard her quite rightly lose it at my DP for his stick my head in the sand attitude and heard her go off on some minor stuff. None of my business. Leave him to it!

I struggle with my own DCs, my DSCs, my EX , sometimes DPs EX but nothing a few deep breaths and a glass of red will not fix - DSC has just called me an control freak -she is right I am! Hard to get pissed off when she has summed up completely, even if the tone and manner were foul!

However, my Exs Ex and EX SM to my DCS and DM to their sib- now that relationship is something I struggle to comprehend but nothing that driving in the car with Bruce playing loudly and me swearing like a navvy does not help with!!