Here we go!!!

[Nursed123]

It's that time again..... Step kid weekend!

I'm just sitting, with wine in hand, waiting for them to descend.

I really wish I could say I look forward to these weekends but I dread them for various reasons

Here's and for anyone else who can relate

No what made you sound childish was your post;

Sorry did someone try and insult us again?

No? Good winecake for us!

In response to me asking a question.

It was a bit 'Lalala, fingers in ears, can't hear you'.

But I do think the whole thread comes across as a group of teenage girls just slagging off some other girls in a very non-specific way.

I can't see much discussion of feelings at all. Or of possible strategies or solutions.

It's just all 'skank', 'bitch', 'psycho' and 'fat ass'.

It doesn't give a very good impression of us as SMs and I can see why other posters are worried about the DC stuck in the middle of these dynamics.

Yes Manumission, it was, because we've just been through all this and would really rather not have the same argument twice!

Oh I'm not responding any more because you're just being goady now

Can we get back to our discussion please?

No I'm not being goady, but if you think I am report me.

I'm still asking the same question which nobody has answered;

Can't you see that mouthing off insults about the DSC's other parents is NOT the same as discussing their problematic decisions, our feelings about them and what to do about it all?

Can't you see that mouthing off insults about the DSC's other parents is NOT the same as discussing their problematic decisions, our feelings about them and what to do about it all

It's all part of it I'm afraid. If you dobt like it please just hide the thread.

Well do you actually want to discuss possible ways of handling the situation?

It sounds appalling and really stressful.

Yes sleepy! Otherwise we'll end up having an argument about not wanting to have another argument!

But where is there a discussion?

The thread reads mostly as women/parents calling other women/other parents skanks/fat/fat ass/slags and psychos. Great for a parenting site with mostly women members.

I understand the need to vent but when does that cross the line and just become the horrible name calling seen on this thread?

These women are the mothers of your DSC and i dont doubt any of them have behaved kindly towards you but it does raise the concern of how well you really hide your true feelings from them you DSC.

Venting this much hate is really unhealthy for all concerned.

It's all part of it I'm afraid. If you dobt like it please just hide the thread.

Well no it's not 'all part of it'. One's fair enough and one gives us a bad name.

That's why you attracted the 'not in the spirit' criticism from PPs upthread, I think.

Yes I'd love to.

What ideas do you have? Because I can absolutely guarantee you we have tried them.

What would you suggest?

Therapy? She won't do it.

Having ss more? Nope. Have to go to court. But before that, have to go to mediation again. Will she go? No. Not unless we pay her costs. Can we afford that? No.

Try talking to his daughter? That shop has sailed and personally I'm done with her. (You can despise m for that I don't care)

What else could you or infact anyone suggest?

I actually asked for the not in the spirit post from MNHQ as it goes..

To warn off posters who have just come here to criticise us.

Because to be honest what options have I got left?

I either vent to these ladies or I absolutely explode and tell the ex to her face what a shit excuse for a mother I think she is. Which is better?

And actually bubblegum I hide my feelings very fucking well. He has no idea I hate his mother. Shame it's not the same the other way round. But it's ok for the first wife to hate me isbt it. It's ok for her to tell her kids I stole daddy. It's ok for her to encourage her 10yo (at the time) daughtwr to call me a slag.

Mmmmmm.

None of those things are ok sleepy and I have never said they were.

I understand the frustrations you have and I do not doubt the stress you are under but in all honesty your venting is not a longterm solution and all it does is buold up those feelings ypu have because the 1 person you want to tell you cant.

You ask what you can do next. I think therapy for you.
The chance to talk about how you feel with somebody qualified to support you in how to deal with those feelings and thoughts.

I absolutely do not allow DSC to hear negativity about DM as I'm not cruel.

Was this your post evil I was naughty today. Skank ExW got off her fat ass dropped DSD off. When door went I was sitting in living room near the window and shouted to DH 'Bit early for trick or treaters! Nice costume tho'
She heard.

So considering DSD was at the door too she wod have heard i think.

I actually asked for the not in the spirit post from MNHQ as it goes..

Are you actually running Mumsnet now Hare?

It would fit with ordering us all off the thread.Repeatedly.

Not so much with deleting yourself for personal attack. Repeatedly

Checking back in and an update - looks like DP will be able to drive by the next contact so that's one less thing to worry about! Fingers crossed for no complications before then

I emailed them and they replied saying they'd posted that.. So maybe they agree with me?
The only person I personally attached was bubblegum, as they're the only lists that have been deleted because its ok to personally attack me seemingly

Anyway I'm ignoring you now. Cba with you.

Anyway... Ds just rolled over!!!! And I missed it because I was in the bloody kitchen!

Actually DSD was at the end of the drive, so she'd need to have bat ears to have heard through the double glazing. Thanks for assuming the worst though. And judging.

Not in the spirit of MNHQ?

ooh, Ds did his first roll? cute!

Ahhh but evilstepmum it's only us that aren't allowed to judge.

You're allowed to judge us if you're a perfect stepmum though.

Ah how nice it must be to have a perfect relationship with the ex where you don't get death threats or driven into Pnd, I can only dream what it must be like to have such a great life.

I can only dream what it must be like to be such a good person.

Yeah first one, I cannot believe I missed it.

Add that to my list of failings and I must be the worst mum and step mum ever!

Ah well. He'll do it again I'm sure! Apparently he was very proud of himself! Bless him!