Join me for a second glass of virtual prosecco

[WhoGivesAFlying]

Thought I'd start a new thread as the other is now full. Come and share you SPing problems here, it's a safe place and hopefully some other wise SM can offer advice or just a large drink!

[Matilda2013]

cheers Willanddisgrace!

[Jalapenos4me]

My step children living with us full time has broken our marriage and has left me devastated as I so loved my husband.. It has been the hardest 4 months of my life, and not over yet.

[WSM123]

Hi all, I'm just popping in to keep in the loop, My DP is re-starting the whole process because his ex wouldn't keep to the agreement and nothing was done for so long they have to start over, what a big fat waste of time, nothing will change and she wont stick to anything.

[Wdigin2this]

Jalopeno sorry to hear that, but I can fully understand how DSC living with you full time can cause such upheaval! I could never have coped with it!

[NZmonkey]

WSM does he have to start again with the whole parenting through separation course. I went with DH last weekend for 4 hours only to hear that you have to repeat it again if its been more than two years since you last went when you request mediation. Totally ridiculous.

Please pass the has been a horrible week. Sold half my house to DH and now we are mortgage free and joint owners. Should be massive celebration time but he has been so horrible to me all week all I want to do is run.

[Jalapenos4me]

thanks widgin. I have felt shit for 5 months now. Starting to move out of but its hard xw

[Bananasinpyjamas1]

Jalapenos that does sound awful. The pressure was probably too much - must be hard to come to terms with if you loved your partner.
NZ and WSM that sounds like it would suck all the energy out me completely - I don't know how you both carry on.

[Jalapenos4me]

Bananas, they have lived with us full time since Feb 2013. It all went down hill from then. I have been a mess but pulling it back together slowly. I feel like I am grieving as we had such a good relationship before.

[Jalapenos4me]

Widgin, sorry to not have respon

[Jalapenos4me]

Sorry finger slip. Wish there was the option to delete a msg on this forum

[ClaudoftheRings]

Sorry to hijack with something trivial compared to Jalapeño...

I am f*cking fuming. We have DSS tonight even though it's not our weekend as his mum wanted to go away for the night. No problem with that. I did food shopping on Thursday and texted DH checking what food DSS would need with us. 'None at all - I'm not collecting him until 7pm and he will have eaten dinner" was the reply.

Checked again today when we were out and near an M&S Food. Nothing needed.

So I was upstairs putting baby DC to bed when DH came back with DSS. It took about an hour with bath, story etc. I could smell something nice cooking and thought 'Great, DH is making us some nice supper.'

You can see what's coming here, right? I didn't!

I come down and find DH and DSS at the table having dinner together - our dinner. My dinner. The dinner that I carefully chose and was looking forward to.

What the fuck?!

[Matilda2013]

I would be fuming! Doubt my dp would dare do this though

[lateforeverything]

Claud Did he cook enough for you as well ...?

Strange that they would sit down and eat without you though

[Bananasinpyjamas1]

claud annoying! I would be cross too.

[ClaudoftheRings]

No he didn't cook anything for me. He gave my share of the food to DSS. He'd prepared a lovely salad with it and DH had a nice big glass of chilled white wine and the two of them were sitting at the table eating and chatting when I came down at 720pm.

I went to bed.

[NZmonkey]

Jalap I'm so sorry you've had such a hard time of it

Claud that would make me really mad too. It would never happen at my place thou because DH doesn't cook. Even when he gets home with DSD an hour before me he waits till I get home after 530 to cook us all dinner when DSD goes to bed just after 6.

Happy New Zealand mothers day to all of you lovely step mums

[LazySusan11]

Shuffling in for a bottle... I can't do right for doing wrong.

[Bananasinpyjamas1]

What's up susan?

[lateforeverything]

Hope you're feeling a bit better LazySusan11 ...

[Wdigin2this]

Claude, that's just disgraceful....how dare he! I would have gone out and bought a takeaway, and LOTS of wine.......and left the next morning!

[Wdigin2this]

What's wrong Susan?

[LazySusan11]

It's too long to write but basically I'm dsd scapegoat again, despite spending all evening with her last night supporting her comforting her and asking for advice on here regarding her being bullied.

I've tonight been accused (by her) of not giving a shit about her and always giving her grief. Not true, dh knows it and she knows it. She's so moody these days and I'm tired of constantly treading on eggshells

[Bananasinpyjamas1]

Sorry susan - is this because she does feel comfortable enough around you to show her bad side, i.e. Accepting you in a parental role - or does she push you away because you are a SM?

I'm asking because if it is part of a growing bond between you, then some kickback is balanced by that. But if she particularly resents you as a SM, like in my case, then that is a totally different ballgame and pretty impossible.

[LazySusan11]

We usually have a pretty good relationship often she will ask to spend time together and despite the ups and downs I do care very much about her. She follows a pattern, when she's not centre of attention or getting her own way and is picked up by dh for her behaviour it's me she blames. It's me she hates it's my fault for whatever reason.

It makes me not want to do anything for or with her as its thrown in my face a little while later.

[Wdigin2this]

Susan that must be so hard to cope with! I don't really know the answer, but I think if I were you're position, and she spoke rudely to you, I'd say....'I don't appreciate being spoken to like that, when you're in a better mood try again, until then I'd prefer it if you didn't speak to me at all!'