Nutty Stepmum's Club (NSC) - Who Wants To Join Us? (Thread 3)

[Squirrel3]

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Sorry, but virtual champagne is compulsory!

Hiya and welcome Morwenna, I've been a step-mum for 5 1/2 years and I still struggle with it.

Take the weekend for instance (sorry rant alert!) BM decided that she wants more money (just as dp quit his job, with good reason) dp tells her that there is no money, BM rants that I should put my hand in my pocket then! Then proceeded to rant on about I should be supportive of the children in general not just financialy. Also she wanted us to have them an extra night a week, which means that every other week we would have them for 5 nights in a row. Well you know dp has a snoring problem, I can not manage for 5 nights in a row with no sleep!!!!!

I don't begrudge the children anything, but when we are struggling to make ends meet and she asks for more money so that she can continue to go abroad three times a year and have new designer clothes every week I get a tinsy bit angry!

Rant over!

BTW I have another job interview today, fingers crossed!

Hello Squirrel

Cheeky cow! Why on earth should you finance her children?? Specially when you have them so often. for you

Good luck with the interview

am amazed that she wants you to support her kids Squirrel What planet is she on I wonder.

still having problem with dss who is refusing to come round but dp is going round to see him tonight. Have proof now that he made the phonecalls so ahve said that can be his birthday present which I think is fair enough. Hopefully everything will get sorted tonight and BM si very anxious that dp and dss get together and start getting on which is fab.

Alligator, so fishing didn't do the trick!

Seriously, I really hope that everything goes well this evening. Its good that BM wants it to go welo too, I'm sure it will help 'presenting a united front' and all that.

Naam, how are you? hope everything is ok with you.

Got to leave for the interview at 12.00, I'll let you know how it goes.

At least you all want the same thing alligator, you're right that's definitely good. Hope they sort things out

Welo? What the? Of course I meant well.

x posts there Squirrel

Things are not too bad thank you. tbh I think it's mostly me that's the problem now. I just feel so bitter about everything that's happened I'm finding it impossible to put it all behind me and try to make things better for all of us. DP and dsd are both carrying on as if nothing's ever happened and I just want to scream at the pair of them that I won't just forget it

~~sigh~~ I'll keep trying

Hope the interview goes well

Hellooooooooo! I'm back!

Naam, of course it?s going to 'sting' for a while. I do however think that you should talk to dp about it, you don't want it to 'fester' and grow into full blown resentment. I think you need to rant get it out in the open, so to speak.

I'm not saying get into a row about it, I just think you need to talk it out.

How do you get from being an office manager of an estate agents to working in the local government planning and regeneration office, to convincing a dentist that you would make a perfect dental nurse/receptionist in the space of six months???

I must be completely barking!!!!!!!!!!

Ooohhh you're going to be a dental nurse???? When do you start? Well done you

Don't worry, I do tell DP how I feel...probably too often if anything lol. No seriously I do tell him. He says he understands but of course he doesn't, how can he? It is getting better though, have to say she's been OK lately. Long may it continue

I had a phone call from the hotel this morning where we're supposed to be getting married on 15th September. It was only a provisional booking - we're going on Saturday to have a look round - and they've taken a definite booking! Gits! We really do want to get married there though so we're now looking at Sunday (yes Sunday) 26th August, bank holiday weekend. Need to have a think about it though because it'll mean I'll miss my eldest niece's 18th birthday. I don't think she'll care less though tbh, I doubt she'll want to spend the day or evening with her boring old auntie anyway We can have a kind of double celebration at my wedding, I will speak to her first though

I wasn't offered the job there and then but he kept on saying "Perfect" to every answer I gave him. He said he was 'very impressed' and would be letting me know soon. He seemed very positive and friendly. He told me that they would provide the dental nurse training so that I knew the terminology etc, I said I would be very interested in learning.

The only draw back would be he wanted me to work every saturday.

"Naams getting married on 26th August, ding dong the bells are gonna chime..."

Hopefully we'll be booking it on Saturday. This is the hotel, we're having the civil ceremony there and the 'do' afterwards. Trying to look forward to it even though it's not what I want to do. Really looking forward to our honeymoon already

Certainly sounds positive about the job, hope you hear from them very soon

The hotel looks very grand Naam and the honeymoon looks... well, if I had the money I would be there next week! Now why couldn't dp have been a millionaire?

The hotel isn't as posh as it looks, honest! We are not posh people It used to be a very upper class place but they had to 'bring it down' a bit because people round here couldn't afford to go there and it was always empty lol. DP and I went to a wedding reception there a couple of years ago, it's very nice - not OTT, just right. Altogether it's going to cost about £4k but looking at what some people pay for a wedding I don't think that's too bad [trying to convince myself emoticon]

The honeymoon hotel, I went there 5 years ago with my ex-twat (DP knows this) it really is a beautiful place and I have such bad memories of it, I've been telling DP since we met that I'd like to go back. It was him who suggested we go there for honeymoon. Think I'll look forward to that more than the wedding

I saw my 'middle' brothers dd on Saturday, don't see her very often. She's going to be a bridesmaid. Her mum text me on Sunday when she got back home saying she was sooooo excited, her mum had never seen her like that before, bless her. Made my day it did, no-one else has seemed very interested so far. Well, DPs mum was a bit excited. My mum was only interested in whether my eldest brother (who she's fallen out with) would be going

Well I am very excited for you Naam, and I've said it one and I'm going to say it again

I WANT PICTURES!!!! LOTS AND LOTS OF PICTURES!!!

Thank you

We're doing our own photographs, I can't abide wedding photographers! They charge an absolute fortune and just boss you around all day and get on your nerves!! There'll be a couple of people with digital cameras and we'll get some 'single use' jobbies, that'll do for us cheapskates

I'm off now, if you're not around tomorrow have a good weekend. Enjoy your time on your own

Hope everyone else has a good weekend too

Hope everyone's OK

alligator hope your DP and dss managed to sort things out last night

HI What happened to this thread. I used to check in regularly but no one has been on it for over a month. Nearly two. I'm bump this for a reply. (WMNHS)

Hello WMNHS

I'd been wondering how you were doing. How's things? Hope you're OK and everything's still going well with you

Hope everyone else is OK too

I am still around (well, I'm more of a lurker these days)

Hope everyone is ok.

hi remember me? popped on here to say a brief hello and what's this?! congratulations naam, wowee! what great news. squirrel I used to work for an orthodontist - if you want to know the terminology there are dental dictionaries - its quite bizarre work - you do end up obsessed with teeth! I loved it tho
I am well - since leaving ex, children and I are happier than we have been for ages (penniless, unemployed but full of hope for the future). Thanks for all your encouragement! Am in touch with ex's ex (sorry sounds like a soap) so am still a stepmum. Limited access to mn as no broadband here and computer v ancient - but wanted to say hello!

Nice to see the Squirrel on here again

Hello ninah of course we remember you, we never forget a nutty stepmum

Glad to hear you and your children are happy, so pleased you managed to get your own house, I know you've wanted that for a long time. Sorry your ex is being a tw*t over access to the children though - I read your thread in lone parents. Hope you get it sorted very soon

This certainly isn't as fast as it used to be.

We are all fine. That rough patch is sorted. We have booked our wedding and renewed our engagement. We are also expecting an addition to the family in July. So in all things are much better. Hope to hear from you all soon.