Nutty Stepmum's Club (NSC) - Who Wants To Join Us? (Thread 3)

[Squirrel3]

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Sorry, but virtual champagne is compulsory!

Cheers Squirrel! Except I'll refrain tonight. Too many syns .

Yippeee - I'm on for a glass!

Virtual drinks are allowed - in fact, as Squirrel said, they're compulsory

What - I've been missing out on a calorie free drink! I'll have a whole bottle!

Boo!

Pass one this way Virtual drinks are free so I'm def allowed one

Hello Naam, how are you today?

Hello alligator, how are you?

alligator - they're calorie-free too so I'm allowed

Squirrel I'm not too bad thank you, how are you?

I'm better thanks, feel so much better knowing that I will be out of work by 2nd June. Mind you I've got two interviews lined up in the next few weeks, (could really do with some time out but...)

How are things with dsd?

I'm grand just a bit tired. Dd is still not sleeping too well. Wee minx that she is.

Hows things with you Squirrel?

awwww, bless her, what is wrong with her? Is she just being a minx or is there something wrong?

I know how you feel about having no sleep, although we had stepkids last night and dp didn't snore!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I woke up and wondered if he had died during the night, I actually shoved him to make sure he was alive!!!!!!!

Glad you're a bit better Squirrel. Only 2 weeks to go, it'll soon come

Sorry you're not sleeping alligator, hope your dd is better soon

Still plodding on with dsd, thanks for asking I'm still finding it hard but I guess I was always going to. DP says I'm doing fine and I'm being too hard on myself again. Things are OK though, I have actually been surprised at how I've handled it - even if I do say so myself

She's going to her mums for dinner tonight, first time she's seen her for over 3 weeks. She told DP last night that if she shouts at her she's coming straight back and DP said she would have to ring if she wanted to come back early. I told him that I was a bit annoyed that he's allowing her to have so much control over the situation

DP has cancelled the standing order for the maintenance payments, it was going out of his account tomorrow. I said he ought to tell BM he's done it but he says he isn't going to so we'll just wait for the explosion....

You are doing brilliantly Naam, of course it is hard but you seem to be handling it very well, well done you

I'm glad that she is talking to her Mum, lets hope that this evening is the start of them sorting it out.

BTW you are right she shouldn't be having so much power in all of this, of course she should have her say and her views should be taken seriously but she shouldn't be calling the shots (so to speak) and as for stopping the maintenance payments, your dp is right, I would even go as far as saying that BM should be paying you some! (or is that too harsh?)

Thank you I hope this is the start of them sorting things out too

I totally agree that she should be paying us, and if it does become permanent I'll certainly make sure DP at least tries to get something out of her. She's still getting the Child Benefit too, which if dsd is going to go back in a few weeks we're not too bothered about but, again, if she's going to stay with us we think we should get that. We'll see what happens over the next few weeks but we'll definitely apply to have it swapped over to DP if she stays with us

It's DPs weekend off this weekend, dsd is going to DPs mum and dad on Saturday afternoon so that we can have a night to ourvselves. Hope this doesn't sound selfish but I'm really looking forward to it, we've hardly had any time on our own for the last 3 weeks

Not selfish at all Naam, I look forward to our weekends on our own when ds goes to Southampton, so its not selfish at all.

I'm certainly ready for a bit of a break. I spent the whole 3 day bank holiday weekend stuck in dsd's bedroom decorating! Started wallpapering Saturday, finished it Sunday then painted it Monday. We're getting the carpet fitted tomorrow, hopefully it'll all be done and ready for her to sleep in tomorrow night

btw......I'm probably going to get told off for this......but......

DP and I have decided we're not going to have any children after all. My decision, and I am happy with it now after much soul-searching. Lots of reasons but the main one being our age. I know lots of people have children at our age but I really don't want us to have a teenager on our hands when I'm 50 and DPs 55. As things are atm, in 5 years time we'll be able to go where we want/do what we want but if we have a child then in 5 years time instead of being able to live properly we'll have a toddler to look after

OMG, I have just had an interview over the phone!!!!! Talk about unprepared!!!

I can't even remember writing to the Company, I've been short listed and will be going for an interview soon!!

As for your decision about kids it is your decision to make nobody else has the right to make it for you or hassle you into making the wrong decision. I know you have thought long and hard about it.

Phew! Thought I might get told off

Seriously, I am happy about it now. I think there'll always be a bit of sadness at the back of my mind that DP and I didn't meet earlier in life so that we could have had children but I really am OK with it

That's fantastic about the interview, think you've probably written to so many companies you've forgotten them all

I have written to over 150 companies in the past couple of months, I usually get at least two rejection letters a day and around two-three application forms a week sent to me. I even get letters "thanking me for my application but unfortunately...." and I know I haven't applied to them, I may have sent a speculative letter and CV, but I haven't applied for some of them.

There has got to be one job out there for me, got three interviews coming up now, in a way I hope I don't get one just yet, it would be nice to have the Summer off, but in the real world I need a job so I hope I get one!

Blimey - 150??

Summer off sounds wonderful, specially with you being by the sea Know what you mean though about the real world. I'm sure you'll find something soon

Yes over 150, jobs are really hard to find around here, so I supose some might say I'm mad for leaving where I am at the mo, but I hate getting to the train station and thinking "Where am I working today is it X,Y or Z?" I hate having to be the bad guy and tell people to 'shape up or ship out' thats not me at all, I like getting on with people, I don't like it when people hate me.

Hi guys, could do with a bit of cheering up.

had letter from stepson's family mediation conference, and I am slagged off to the hilt.

Anyone there?

I don't blame you, I couldn't do it either. Anything for a quiet life me

Suppose we're quite lucky around here really, if you want to work there's enough of it around. And I suppose being in the middle of the country we're not too far from most places. There isn't much to do around here though. Keep meaning to visit \link{http://www.visitconkers.com\this} place, it's only a few minutes away - my eldest niece works there in the restaurant - but don't you always find that you don't visit places that are on your doorstep?

Hello littlerach

Family mediation conference? How come you weren't invited??? Was your DH/DP there?