Nutty Stepmum's Club (NSC) - Who Wants To Join Us? (Thread 3)

[Squirrel3]

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Sorry, but virtual champagne is compulsory!

PMSL at alligator in the plane

We're in the middle of a thunderstorm! I don't like it [scared emoticon]

Did I tell you about this place we went to on holiday?

It was beautiful, when the tide went out you could 'wade' through a bit of water to get to the other-side of the rocks on the left of the cove and get onto a big deserted beach. We went everyday, one afternoon we were in the water when a big sea bass (a fish) swam through my legs! "A fish! a blooming great big bass!" I shouted, when dp looked down there was a shoal of them swiming around my legs!!!!! I couldn't believe it, still can't!

Here is a better picture of the beach.

Hope it takes your mind off the storm Naam

Looks lovely Squirrel I love the sea

Storm has just about passed over now, thankfully

Guess who had too much to drink last night?? Why don't I ever learn

Hope everyone's OK

Squirrel I really wanted to come on here over the weekend to wish you well for today but my internet connection has gone tits up yet again!!

I really, really hope everything goes well today, thinking about you both

{{{{{{lots of positive thoughts}}}}}}

Hope everyone else is OK

Just popped in quickly to wish you and dp all the best today Squirrel (see Naam has beaten me too it. Shes the early bird ). I hope all goes well and we are all thinking of you both.

Really hope yesterday went well Squirrel

Hope everyone else is OK. I've got soooo much to do before we go away on Saturday! Could really do with being at home doing it instead of having to come to work..

DP and dsd went to get dsd's uniform yesterday, they did OK apart from getting one pair of trousers the right length and 2 pairs of 'long' length! So that's another job added to my list - take up 2 pairs of school trousers!!

I did something really silly on Saturday...when we were on holiday dsd's two friends bought DP and I some 'sand men' in our football teams colours. It's basically a glass bottle with eyes/nose etc holding a football and a glass of beer. Well, the 'arms' and the football fell off mine so DP got the superglue out and stuck the arms back on. I then put the football on, but it wouldn't stick so I gave it a helping hand - and my finger stuck to it! It wouldn't budge at all!! Oops I thought, I'll pull if off with my other hand....yes you've guessed it - I got another finger from that hand stuck too!! So there was me with both hands stuck to my sand man! DP had to cut them off then I got the 'bits' off with nail varnish remover. Don't think I'm going to be allowed to forget that one....

Hope everyone's OK

I still haven't started packing....

Finally did the packing last night [relief emoticon]

Squirrel, really hope you're OK, thinking about you

Hope everyone else is OK too

Hello all, hope everyone's OK

I'm away at 3 back on 4th, or 2nd if I can get my internet connection at home working [doubtful emoticon]

Hello all

Not been feeling very nutty lately but we were slipping down the list so had to give it a bump

Hope everyone's OK

Hello,

Am off sick today, but the good news is dp had his results at last and its not serious, he just needs a small op then he should be back to normal.

How is everyone?

Oh Squirrel that's fantastic news brought a tear to my eye. So happy for you both. How are things otherwise? Hope you're OK and you're not too ill

Hope everyone else is OK too

Hello Naam, just a bit of a chest infection. Don't tell anyone but I could probably go into work but its a blooming good excuse not to go in. Couldn't really face it today, the suprising thing is I just telephoned in and spoke to the woman who is causing me so much grief and she was ok about it! Almost nice infact [puzzled emoticon]

I applied for four jobs online yesterday, I really hope I get one of them, its horrible waking up in the morning feeling physically sick at the thought of going to work, wondering how she is going to humiliate me that day and wondering if I am going to get through the day without slapping her! I am trying so hard not to let her see it is affecting me but it is getting harder and harder.

BTW Yep it is good news about dp, I sort of guessed that no news was good news.

I was like that in my last job, it's bloody awful isn't it? Know exactly what you mean about waking up and dreading going to work. I used to live for weekends, I was sooooo happy on Friday nights. I really hope you find something soon

You're right about "no news is good news". If anything's wrong they tend to get in touch very quickly

DPs still poorly, he's better than he was but definitely not right. I'm trying right now to get through to his doctors to get him some more antibiotics but as usual it's permanently engaged. He's been signed off work till Friday and we're hoping he can get another week after that because he's supposed to start his 7 night shifts on Friday

Hope he gets beter soon, I'd better try to get in touch with my Dr to make another appointment. I left work early wednesday due to a throat and ear infection saw the dr he gave anti-biotics, but the infection seems to have travelled to my chest (as usual) might need to change the anti-biotics.

How was your weekend?

Thank you, I'm sure he'll be fine. He works in a factory making clay pipes so as you can imagine it's very dusty there, that's why he doesn't want to rush back. He really needs to stay at home until it's completely gone. Hope you get better soon too

Weekend was OK thank you, dsd went to PILs Friday and Saturday so that we could have some time on our own. She wound me up last night though, DP and I are going to a wedding on 23rd, don't know if you remember me mentioning it? It's my boss/friend and it's going to be a very posh 'do', we're really looking forward to it. dsd asked if she was coming and when DP said she wasn't invited she went into a real strop, saying "Suppose I'll be going to nan and grandads yet again then? I'm always there, I hate it there, there's nothing to do!" I was bloody furious, she's not "always" there at all, and when she does go she's hardly in their house because she has a couple of friends in the area. She was just being bloody awkward and trying to make DP feel sorry for her as usual. Didn't work though, DP just said "You are not always there at all, and anyway you'll do as you're told. If I say you're going there, you'll go!"

I was wound up all evening because of that, I really must learn not to let things get to me so much

Glad you had some time by yourselves Naam and I am glad your Dp is standing his ground with dsd.

We had dsd this weekend and she was in full pre-teen strop mode all weekend! I could have cheerfuly walked out and left dp to it. Dp, trying to get a smile out of her, tickled her and she punched and kicked him, screaming "Get off, leave me alone!" Dp just laughed at her! I was shocked, he just let her have outragous strops all weekend. She kept on having a go at her brother (including hitting him around the face) until Sunday evening he had enough and retaliated and hit her back once, of course, as far as dp and BM was concerned dss was in the wrong because he is older, but she just seems to think she should be able to hit dss around the face and he shouldn't retaliate, why shouldn't he retaliate? its not like anybody else tries to to stop her, dp and Bm just ignore it. I can't understand why she is treated like such a princess, she never gets told off for her bad behaviour, its like they just look at her and think "Awwww, but she is only a baby!" If I dare to tell her off we get abusive txts from her Bm all week and I feel that dp always thinks I am in the wrong. She is 11 FFS! What are they gong to do when she is 14-15-16 smoking, drinking and gawd knows what, they can't just ignore, ignore, ignore then GGGGGGGGGGRRRRRRR!

Sorry for the rant!

Actually some of it may have been down to jealously, Lea was around for a couple of hours, dsd can't stand it because Lea loves dp and follows him around like a lost sheep, but I think she has got to accept that my kids and grandkids are part of the family too. She doesn't have to share him that often, I tend not to have the grandkids when stepkids are there too much because of her reaction (she has decided that she doesn't like dgs either and can be quite nasty to him) I'm really not sure what to do for the best, my grandkids are a very big part of my family too. The 'us and them' thing is so hard sometimes, why can it be 'all of us together'?

Sorry I am still ranting, I'll shut up now!

No need to apologise, you're allowed to rant. And I certainly don't blame you. You're spot on, your DP and BM are going to have one heck of a problem on their hands with her, and I suppose you'll be expected to take all the grief that comes with it too. I don't blame her brother for retaliating either, why on earth should he put up with that? Just because she's younger than him shouldn't mean that she can hit him and get away with it. I'm the youngest but I wouldn't have dreamt of lashing out at my brothers and sisters, and if I had I certainly wouldn't have got away with it!

It probably was a bit of jealousy on her part with Lea being around, but you're right you definitely shouldn't have to not have your grandchildren just because she doesn't like it. She has to learn that she's not the only person in the world who matters

Step-children eh? Who'd have 'em!

ooee hello!

I think I qualify but have never been called a step-mum...at least not by the lo's.

ss is 5 and sd is 2. my dd is 2 months.

ss and I have great fun together when we actually get any contact with him (sadly not very often but very special when it happens) - sd we are not allowed to see at all.

so that's me! a mum and a step mum - and still not used to being either!

Hello and welcome morwenna I don't think you ever get used to being a stepmum! I know I haven't over 2 years down the line...

Where is everyone???

Welcome Morwenna
I'm still getting used to it 13 years down the line. Everytime things seem to be going well it all falls apart again and I actually get on quite well with BM too . Hey Naam Hows things Long time no speak. Keep meaning to pop in here when on MN but generally get distracted by some other thread and run out of time.

lol alligator, know what you mean about getting distracted

I'm OK thank you, had a bit of a rough time last month but getting better now, slowly but surely. How are you?