Nutty Stepmum's Club (NSC) - Who Wants To Join Us? (Thread 3)

[Squirrel3]

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Sorry, but virtual champagne is compulsory!

It's the second one they've doen.
SS has cerebal palsey, and it's like a review of his needs from the prfessional carers.

DH was on a course and ciuldn't go this time. His mum was over from the states so she went.

I don't think I'm ever really invited.

Hello littlerach, it sounds about normal that the step-mother is slagged off. I know that doesn't help, sorry.

I does really get to me that we are all seen as the 'wicked Stepmum' when all we do it try our hardest to make it work out for all concerned.

I hope you bearing up.

Why are you not invited? If his Mum lives in the States you obviously have more to do with dss than she does at the moment.

How can a mother live in a different country from her ds (who obviously has special needs)?

I know I couldn't!

I know it's par for the course, but I've been with Dh for so long, I thought any issues would have come up before now.

They were also rather nasty about DH.

I suppose I feel terrible for him really.

It seems to get harder as they get older, rather than easier.
At the alst one, they decided that they didn't want to come and stay here as it's too long a journey, and they get bored. They also said that we had no ps2 or pc games so that was boring.

So now DH goes to visit them every other week, and goes out with them.

No, DH's mum!!
SS's granny.

I assume it's his mum who's slagged you off? I bet she doesn't even know you does she?

I know it's hard but please try to rise above it. You, your DH and your dss know it isn't true

How on earth can they have a 'family' conference without half of his family????

it was actually the kids, according to the report.

The conference is seen as a way for all the healthcare workers to get together and discuss his needs, whilst involving the family.

I'm not sure why it has upset me so much.

oops! got hold of the wrong end of the stick again.

My tyoing isn't that clear. Bit upset

Squirrel I thought the same as you

littlerach you're bound to be upset, I know I certainly would be. It's not nice being slagged off when all you've ever done is try your best, I do know how you feel, think most of us have been there as stepmums

Thanks.

Thanks.

Just been out for lunch, it's gorgeous out there. Wish I wasn't at work!!

littlerach I hope you're feeling better

Actually, i was v brave and phoned them to see what it was all about.
SS wouldn't speak to me (quite normal!!) but sd did and was v reasssuring. Then BM came on phone and basically said that ss was using me as a scapegoat a alot of the time, and that she was sorry if it had upset me. We've never really chatted before, as she was very very nasty when I met DH, and caused trouble when it was totally unnecessary, so it did mean quite a lot when she was polite!
So am feeling better. Thanks guys!!

thats good to hear LR Hope you are feeling a bit better now and glad that BM and you had a good chat.

That's fantastic littlerach, so glad you got it sorted and you're feeling better

It's Friday

Hope everyone's OK

dsd's evening with her mum was a total disaster, she was with her for less than an hour. Obviously we've only heard her side of the story but she said her mum was really nice to her until they got into the house then she 'started on her', saying that her problem was that she thinks that her mum thinks more of her half-sister than she does of her. She said that me and her dad are scum and she shouldn't be living with us. They had another massive row, lots of things were said and dsd ended up running out of the house. I don't doubt that she's probably exaggerating but DP and I both think there must be some truth in what she's saying

I really don't think she'll go back there now, and even if she does it's only a matter of time before it all kicks off again so I think it's best she stays with us

NAAM - sorry to hear it. You sound like you've got such a great attitude to your SD - just don't forget to take care of yourself as well (sorry to repeat this but I remember someone once asking me "who cares for the carers"). You need to keep that battery of yours charged! Roll on your holiday!

And while I'm in nagging role - have you booked that doctor's appointment Squirrel.

Blimey I may not be a BM but I'm beginning to sound like my own Mum - lol!

Hummm just read my post and contemplating changing my name to NagtheNag!

Hello all been too bloody busy today. Just been having a rant . sexist is a live and well still.

Thanks Loopy Yes I'll certainly second the 'roll on summer holiday'

We've got a bit of time to ourselves over the weekend though, it's DPs weekend off, he only gets 1 weekend off in every 4, so dsd is going to DPs mum and dad tomorrow afternoon, we're having a night in tomorrow then we're off to Manchester on Sunday for the football match (come on utd!! ) and we'll pick dsd up when we get back

DPs parents have been absolutely fantastic in all this, we don't know what we'd do without them. They're having dsd for the week when we go away, bless them

Hope everyone has a good weekend

Loopy you're not nagging, it's nice to know you care

Oooohhh dear - someone's upset the alligator, they must be brave!!

sexism that should read. Jsut had another phone call. Why is it soooooo busy today. Snot fair I wanna MN

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...Puts reminder in diary to nag Squirrel too.... knowing full well that I'd be jsut the same as I HATE doctors too.

Tell them Ms is medical - well some companies pay for counselling and it sounds like you need some stress relief!

Hope some sexist doesn't get on the wrong side of those alligator teeth (evil thought - hee hee).