do you ever feel so different that you just don't fit?

[special2shoes]

or is it just me, I think dd has changed me.
i just got told of for posting on a home birth thread, how dare I say that dd would have died if I had a home birth.
I just don't fit sometimes.

i dont fit at all anymore

ds the same. So I guess you fit in here.

I got a telling off the other day for daring to say what I do when one of mine has a meltdown or tantrum. Apparently it's irrelevant because they have autism.

we are outcasts

I know exactly how you feel.

I once got told off by a friend by saying DS2 done the same as her DS, because her DS didn't have ASD so was totally irrelivent

Not everything about our children are SN!!!!

I am feeling a bit pissed of tbh. why do people ignore the facts.
do they all live in cloud cuckoo land.
(wow imaging that loads of cuckoos)

Is that next to Planet Bubble?

yes on the planet zog

I want a cuckoo clock now(I alos want one of the dolls, you know there is on and inside a nother and so on)

I cannot believe how low I feel on here now. I feel villified.

Just logged on and this thread jumped out. Spent the day with a friend and her NT kids. They have been out and about all easter and have done piles of crafts together. My DS is refusing to leave the house and regressing as the holiday goes on - all he wants to do is watch the same DVD on a loop. I feel so guilty that I cannot handle being around other peoples NT kids because it makes me feel so crap.

BTW I had pre-eclampsia so home birth would have been very dangerous here too.

been told before now that my advice when was actually asked ofrr is irrelivent because of ds problems
, was like hello i do have 3 other children and ffs why did you ask if you did not want to listen feels like they just wanted to poke holes in and draw attention to fact my ds is differnt
he is is my only blonde blue eyed one

Since ds was big and the wrong way round (er, sideways), a home birth certainly would have had a drastic result for us both. Good job I hardly ever mention him being the Only One or me not breastfeeding, eh? (cos there's no letdown reflex at all - autism oxytocin error thing)

((slightly crumpled)) have some unmumsnetty hugs, I am concerned at how upset you have been by the termination threads.

totalchaos, I feel as though this is the first time the realities of my life have been questioned as not quite right and that if I say something I am being cruel to other women.

I think I need to walk away now because the truly ridiculous thing is that I don't encounter it in real life, (yet). Quite why I have felt so upset by words on a computer I don't know.

Fio I just cannot believe it. I feel totally sold out, I will cat you later if thats okay, thank you.x

yes, please feel free to CAT me if you want to offload offsite.

tclang - I think the years of trying out toddler groups and S being amongst the oldest there but least able/least willing to concentrate has been very isolating. I have very few friends with children locally - the vast majority of my "mummy" friends are internet peeps.

totalchaos most my friends are on here too its easier sometimes than having to explain away

also if id have ad home birth my ds and i would have died he split an artery ont he way out had huge blood loss then i was found to have had strep b but wasnt told until 12 hrs later could have been serious for ds but luckily for him unlucky for me i had terrible kidney infection so had my last lot of antibiotics iv 4 hrs before he was born and this is what kept him safe

you have to remember some people are self absorbed i was slated for not breast feeding i was highly medicated from severe blood loss etc all the work needed to be done on damaged artery had no choice not to breast feed

im slated for having uncontrollable child out in public

ive had to get a bit thicker skinned as my parenting techniques will never be classed as normal or acceptable but they work for us there fore they are right

and our advise sometimes is better left for sn thread not because were not accepted but we all have so much more that we have learnt and can understand each other fully

sorry killed thread i do that alot these days yes i feel like i dont fit in anywhere lol