do you ever feel so different that you just don't fit?

[special2shoes]

or is it just me, I think dd has changed me.
i just got told of for posting on a home birth thread, how dare I say that dd would have died if I had a home birth.
I just don't fit sometimes.

Personally, I think they should give a Nobel Prize to whoever invented the epidural. Had I had a homebirth, I think even before the blood pressure shooting up, the cord around the neck, the baby's heart-rate dropping etc., I would have tossed myself out of the window because I couldn't stand the pain. And what's wrong with not wanting to be in pain?? It's all about choice, isn't it. Some women want to have a homebirth - they can knock themselves out, but don't come and tell me that's better or that's what I should do. Same (obviously) with abortion.

Lol Riven "joss sticks chanting" kind of says it all!

PP sorry things have been so hard - easter eggs - lovely idea!!

DS1 wouldn't have survived a home birth - a lovely thing, I'm sure for some women who experience it positively; however, too many risks in our case.

I don't cross much out of special needs section, maybe telly addicts; I do try adult fiction but don't actually get reading any books, so don't know what they are talking about. I stay away from any birthing ones and even sometimes Am I being Unreasonable - sometimes it's a bit precious anyway.

Maybe we are..... or, maybe, of course, just saintly....

Riven, I have left you a message re keto on another thread here.

I totally 'get' the feeling different thing. Even amongst my own family, there is a lot of ignorance misunderstanding.
These days, when anyone asks how things are with dd, I say "fine". It just takes too much energy to explain why it might have been a bad day.

I have a couple of friends who have children with SN and they instantly know what I mean when I say dd has had an off-day.

Oh yes. Will come back to this later

dameturnip has a ring to it, and ladyfio

Can I be an 'honourable' (not really part of the elite, but still kind of part of it, in a lesser way?!) please?

ie The Honourable PheasantPlucker ??

Can I be an 'honourable' (not really part of the elite, but still kind of part of it, in a lesser way?!) please?

ie The Honourable PheasantPlucker ??

Can I be an 'honourable' (not really part of the elite, but still kind of part of it, in a lesser way?!) please?

ie The Honourable PheasantPlucker ??

Oh, I 'll say that one more time shall I?

oo me me i want to be countess phoenix

ok i done it where are the restof the ladys,dames princess, honourables lol that or we should all give ourselve s saint then out Mn names

lol tclanger hmm do you live in a village to

You know when you order things online and sometimes they let you choose crazy titles? I've had stuff sent to 'Reverend' SC and 'Wing Commander' SC. Next time I'll try 'Her Royal Highness' SC - why settle for second best

hurrah!

ROFL at the name changes.

The "all my friends have told me they wished they'd had an abortion" posts made me think of the poster that TotalChaos mentioned. It's probably the same one.

oh lots to comment on:

"I feel so guilty that I cannot handle being around other peoples NT kids because it makes me feel so crap."

Widemouth- this is entirely normal. Especially with children the same age as yours.

slightlycrumpled- I have been concerned about you too. Please don't feel bad- I saw and recognised the position you were in right from the first thread and felt how you would feel. Probably because of some shared experience of a child with a disability. The utter manipulation of what has been said on wannabe's thread is revolting. But the truth is people see what they want to see.

Which brings me onto pheasantplucker - yes I saw the post in question as well and wanted to scream at the computer. I have come across people who have said they would find two disabled children difficult (who wouldn't) so would terminate a future child found with a disability, but I think those who would keep a future child ime outnumber those who wouldn't. However, I haven't once met someone who says they would have terminated their child. Their living breathing child. Not once. And I mix with people who have some of the most disabled children in our rather large city. That sort of argument is just rhetoric - meaningless and empty and unable to be challenged on the thread in question.

One word of warning though the new antenatal choices section has been put in place by mumsnet as (a quote from HQ) "We hope that this will give people another place to discuss their concerns without feeling wary of others responses". So although it was requested in part as a way of posters of children with disabilities (& others) being able to hide the topic easily it is being seen primarily as a safe unquestioning place for people having testing- with the emphasis very much on testing to terminate. Which is fine, but worth being aware from the beginning that any suggestion (however mild) that disability doesn't always mean the end of the world and that there are other options out there which might suit some is going to be met very unfavourably. However, non judgmentally or kindly you do it. It's not going to be an option in that part of the board.

Will come back as a saint or a dame. Which do you think?

Oh blimeys, everyone's adopting different names again! I'll never keep track of who's who at this rate