You can all call me an old cow but I'm fed up with SN board being used as resource for general advice

[Davros]

We seem to have had a spate of threads started by parents who have worries about their child's behaviour and development. Most of these don't seem to have looked through the SN archive (although I have told Tech it only goes up to D it certainly covers Autism, Aspgergers, ASD). I don't want to be totally horrid but I wonder if people could have a little sensitvity into our situations and check the archive or simply post in B&D where I think most of these threads would be more appropriate.
I wasn't going to say anything as I thought it was just a phase and would stop but then two more appeared.
OK, call me an old cow.

I agree Thomcat but I maybe did not say it as well as you I hope it all ends soon XXXX

And fio I think Piffle felt like she couldn't applaud anymore with a comment like this :

"I know I hate it when people are so relieved, oh she walked, oh she talked etc"

That might have made her feel she can't be happy when good things happen with her dd's progress, maybe????

C&C my post was directed at Fio's comment not yours mate.
I hope it ends well too.

I don't think anyone has said that you have to have a certain level of SN- read through the crap earlier- I saiid that ds1's clinical psych finds that the parents who are completely at the end of their tether are the ones with kids with ADHD and HFA- because I guess they are so close to normal and have to fgunction in the normal world. I think the problems are different but just as painful (foor example I don't have to deal with ds1 wanting to fit in, or wanting friends-- as I know my friends with kids with AS do).

I think scummy got it- actually at the moment I don't have the time or energy to answer the questions. If I explain that's because of the number of things I am dealing with at the moment I'm accused of not giving a shit about others. It's not that at all - it's just that for once I am struggling to keep above water myself.

Anyway one thing this thread has made me realise is that mumsnet is bad for me at the moment and it is bad for the state of mind I have currently. So off to enjoy my new baby.

Jayzmum- do ring J - she's lovely - really lovely and she has really walked in your shoes so to speak- still is sometiimes- and she will be able to give you real hope that it can be sorted.

I have already said sorry, I am not going to keep apologising.

dont make me come on here and shake my stick at you lot now, would feel v strange

But that is the impression it is giving people JimJams, you only have to read people saying they feel bad for posting now, won't post again. People feeling bad for posting positive things about their children. That's just not on.

Anway, enjoy your new baby, and your older ones.

I'm echoing what Thomcat's said.I'm echoing what Thomcat's said at 1.10pm. The SN board is the reason why I joined MN and is fantastic. I've made friends through this board and from the other boards. And what's been nice about MN is that MNs, who would usually post on other boards, have been so welcoming on meet-ups.

I don't want anyone to fall out please.

Who asked you for an apology? Not me. I asked for the nastiness to stop and for people not to be made to feel they can post what they like, where they like, good and bad, trivial or serious.

Sorry for the duplication. Out of practice.

Jimjams I don't think anyone who knows you even slightly on mumsnet could ever accuse you of not giving a shit. Preposterous!

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Would you rather NT parents didn't read the SN threads? I really would rather know - I'd hate to think we're making things worse for you all.

I really am very aware now that my views are very different from everyone elses, but so is my daughters diagnosis and problems.

I am not justifying myself anymore. I said what I honestly thought. I was not speaking for anyone else.

I really should know better!

Oh blimey, when is this going to stop?!!!!!
To reiterate, we are a lovely lot on SN and it's always been so, so supportive with no nastiness. We celebrate the positive (large steps- walking and talking for the first time- and little ones, which are all too significant).
Enough, already...

Flashingnose, no not at all and I think I speak for the majority.

Sharing in the lows and celebrating in the highs is what SN is all about.

End of.

I like to think that sn is open to anyone who feels b&d doesn't seem quite right, and anyone is more than welcome to read and post. I am more than happy to give advice on subjects I know about (although there are less physically disabled children on here so that makes it not v likely i do post}, and delighted to hear when someones child, sn or not achevs a milestone. HOWEVER it doesn't stop me feeling sadness at the same time, because my child hasn't or may never reach that goal, and sometimes, catch me on an off day and i hate the whole world and how dare anyone mention anything about their kids about me. I avoid posting those days .

Sn has always been quite a calm and posiitive board, also v supportive, but that isnt to say we all feel like that, or that we have the energy everytime to reply. I hope noone gets put off posting on here, it's like rl really, some of us have different feelings and opinions to others, and irl they would be respected, no reason to do otherwise on mn. I can see all pov's on here tbh.

Group hug?

I can see why you're a mod lou .

MM's post on another thread the other day summed it up for me:

i didn't see that post before. I dont read it as condescending

I was only briefly on here before, and was sooo disapointed with what was being said that I asked the moderators to pull my posts ... does this have to continue, it is so damaging to anyone new who would want to post, I dont know any of you and I am sure you are all really great people in RL coping with probably very difficult situations as are all parents of children with SN (me included).

I felt afraid to post here, and still do, but enough is enough, please can this end.

Really, this is getting horrid, and personal, and I don't like it.

Agree with JakB - this has got out of hand and everyone seems to be interpreting comments the wrong way.

Lou33/Tech - I am wondering whether it might be an idea to just get this thread removed? can we do that? I just feel while it is still here people (including me right now ) are just going to keep posting on it.

This is not how I think of the SN boards and lets face it we all have enough stress in our lives already without having MN add to it.

Please please can someone pull this thread, I have already spoke to many of my friends who use MN and are sooo disapointed with what I told them was going on here, afterall they recommended me to come here ...

Please can someone make this go away

I vote for it to be deleted. Nothing on here of help to anyone and only making people feel bad and putting people off.
I'd like to see it deleted, hope the nasty taste in my mouth goes with it.

well you can email [email protected], but really mn only pull threads n v extreme cases, and I don't think it's quite got to that stage tbh. MN will pull threads if they are racist, offensive, deliberately inflammatory, etc, but i dont think this one is any of the above. If you want i will email them, but imo it would be better to just stop posting on the thread rather than removing it.