Surely at age 3 Co sleeping is fine ??

[Thesecretautistic]

Dd is just 3. We co sleep (always have) following guidelines . The HV wasn’t happy about it when dd was a baby but I explained it meant I slept better and we followed the rules.

Dd is still Co sleeping and it works well for us. She’s been unwell lately and we had been to the gp and i mentioned how she’s had a fever at night etc but I’d been able to keep a close eye as we cosleep. The gp has contacted the HV who has called me and wanted to talk about it as apparently it’s an issue and ‘3 year olds need their own bed to get proper rest each night’ she is saying this may be why dd isn’t meeting milestones (it’s not Co sleeping - dd has autism !)

I feel that it’s helping to create a strong bond and makes dd feel secure but I’m being told it’s the opposite.

I’ve reiterated that we co sleep safely but has anyone got any good information explaining the benefits so that I can counter what is being said ?

*when dd is ready

They aren’t offering support they are querying reasons for delays / criticism of parenting choices and twisting things (eg saying dd is tired from Co sleeping when I never said she has a sleep issue and in fact sleeps well)

When we were seeking diagnosis they were obstructive and we’ve had to go privately for diagnosis and SALT and OT.

I want to be listened to and supported not to feel like I’m being viewed as the cause of something

@Thesecretautistic i can totally see why you felt that way. When we are literally giving everything to our children with their best interests firmly at heart it can really wound when someone makes a passing comment like that whether or not it’s intended like that.
Sounds like a really good plan to me, ticks all the boxes and means you can carry on as you have been as it’s working perfectly for you and DD. And you’re absolutely not the cause for any delays due to your sleeping situation! That’s frankly appalling and to be honest, I would register your complaints and upset about that, it’s totally valid and shows a fundamental lack of understanding.

once again, apologies if my previous posts were harsh, I didn’t have a full understanding of the situation.

@Embelline It’s really fine I also am sorry for seeming so stubborn and unwilling to listen , I think i just get defensive. I appreciate your advice