I’m getting really fed up of my posts being deleted.

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I say nothing inflammatory. No rascism, no sexism, no xenophobia. Because that is not me, I would never.

So why are my posts being deleted? I’m adding to the discussion. Sometimes I may question if a pp is being deliberately stupid… is that a legitimate reason to be deleted?

How thin skinned are we supposed to be to use this website? It’s becoming pointless even bothering to make a post.

I made a genuine post about about how knife crime is a serious problem within major cities. Low & behold, it’s been deleted. I made some genuine points in the post, ones that could lead to a positive discussion. I’m starting to give up on MN, no other website is policed to this extent.

I agree that hate crimes should be deleted. Of course. But I have done nothing of the sort.

I absolutely would! Genuinely. And I’ve never been berated for it. Maybe they thought I was a twat after I’ve walked away but in the moment it’s all meant in jest of the conversation if you know what I mean?

I’m Irish. I can assure it’s not something ‘we’ throw around.

Asking are you stupid is rude though. It means you’re referring to them as someone who lacks common sense or has a low level of intelligence. Why can’t you rephrase your question that isn’t a personal attack? Know idea where you’re from but people don’t go round asking that just because they might not agree with them, it comes off quite immature and closed minded.

Hmm, on the rare occasion I’ve had a post deleted, I have probably deserved it. If you’re having posts deleted regularly, look at what you’re posting and be really careful to stick to the Talk guidelines?

Thank you ❤️ I also agree with a lot of your posts on that thread. Clearly mine were taken the wrong way (because of one flippant sentence). But I still stand by the important points I made.

Emotionally intelligent people don’t need others to reconsider their stances. They can challenge it but accept they will have a different opinion.

That’s not what stupid means. It means being unintelligent. Not bright. Incapable of understanding.

I know a lot of Irish people. None of them would ask "are you stupid?" unless they were trying to be rude.
Actually, the only person I know who used to say it regularly was my abusive ex. Who wasn't Irish.

Don’t think you know what stupid actually means if you think it’s a word for someone who isn’t getting what you mean. Maybe be clearer when you’re trying to explain?

Jesus. I made this post to have a chat with MN. Now I’m being berated. I never meant any harm.
Calm down. I’d honestly say most of you are much nastier than I am.

I never berated or insulted someone directly. I thought we were all adults on this site. Asking someone if they are stupid is not the worst thing I could say, believe me.

There is no need for all this. I’m a good person who has never harmed anyone.

I used to work in a call centre helping people with processes and forms. Sometimes they wouldn't understand my explanation. By op's logic I could have asked them 'are you stupid'? And it would have been perfectly acceptable 😂

In that case, it would be even more important to stop using insults.

I haven't seen any of your posts so I can't comment on them, but if you feel you have good points to make, just make them without using insulting language.

Perhaps you could just write something anodyne, like:

"I don't agree with you - I believe that............ because............."

It's actually very verbally aggressive to start a conversation with:

"Are you stupid? You're wrong because................"

I think this explain why you’re getting your posts/comments deleted.

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You're telling people they are an idiot, of course they will find that offensive. How is that hard to understand?

Ah, that seems very delicate and thin skinned of you 🤪

Just don't call them stupid...

You're a bit tedious OP.

Are you actually joking? Did you read the thread? There was absolutely nothing nasty in my reply, I said ‘fuck no’ don’t do what you are planning to?! What’s the problem there?

Why post it on the public forum then? Speak to them privately.

People aren't being nasty just truthful.

But is the word stupid so insulting? That’s what I’m struggling to grasp. It’s just a descriptive word for someone who isn’t getting what I mean?

OP I think that your problem is that you yourself don't actually understand what the word stupid means.

Or mental. 🤣

This is a huge, anonymous internet site. No one on here knows anything about you other than the words you put on a screen. When those are regularly aggressively insulting enough to continually break that site’s talk guidelines and result in deletions, maybe rethink how you come across.

There is no need for all this. I’m a good person who has never harmed anyone

Probably you don't realise how your words sting and hurt.
It's unfortunate (from your point of view) but you need to learn to be less combative.