The lady whose waters broke at 18 weeks ...

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She delivered her baby at 28 weeks-ish ... I can't find her thread to see how her and baby are doing :( I posted on it, but can't see it in 'im on' and when I do a search it looks like it might have been deleted?

Can't stop thinking about this lady bless her! Can anyone help?

All sounds a bit harsh. I was following that one too. Is it not more likely she felt she'd revealed too much personal information then got worried? I'd like to think so.
If it was genuine, hope all is ok there.

I wondered about it too, as I had posted as was going through similar at the same time

I wonder if mumsnet could shed light on this.

I learnt to crochet as a means to take my mind off the death of my DD and posted a blanket to the hospitalI made for Nobblys DS to brighten up his crib. I sincerely hope she wasn't a troll.

I didn't follow the thread but trolling about prem babies is a "favourite" sadly. Years ago I found my own experiences - written on MN as a coping mechanism C&P'd into someone else's sick fantasy.

herroyal I'm sorry for the loss of your baby -and I hope you are getting the support you need.

Pprom and prematurity have been used as by trolls several times over the years. Some people have no shame :(

Heartbreaking....

I could not go near that thread as I lost my first dd at 26 weeks for the same reason.y heart would break every time I saw the thread in active convos. Glad I didn't invest time and heart ache in that thread.

So the photos of the baby in SCBU were appropriated?
Sheesh.

What a shocking thing to do

I am really shocked by this one. I didn't post but read the thread and as I am currently sitting on a post natal ward with my own Prom and Prem baby I am sickened that anyone would lie about something like this. What is wrong with people?!

I posted on that thread. I can't imagine why someone would make something like that up. No one who has been through anything remotely similar would understand it. Shocking and very sad.

IME these memories and experiences remain incredibly raw for a very very long time. If Nobbly is indeed a troll she/he must have little regard for the feelings of others.

Perhaps Nobbly needs professional help.

There are 2 reasons a person would troll about a thing like that:

1. they are seriously mentally unwell
2. they are a nasty bastard who gets pleasure from hurting people.

Sadly I think most trolls fall in the second category. I posted on the thread too but didn't hang around as I've had 3 pprom pregnancies myself and it's all a bit raw and tbh I'm fed up of giving my story only to find out that it was a waste of my time. I'm going to ask for my Pprom thread to be removed I think, I worry about it being used for research.

A couple of years ago we had Dizzy Mare with a similar tale.

I won't tell you what I think trolls deserve.

EllisIsland I hope things are going as well as they can :)

How horrid that people would do this. There was so much support from those who had been through similar.

I just don't understand why people would do this for kicks. What sad lives they must lead.

People do often troll about pregnancy complications and stillbirth. Back in 2009 I was part of an 'expecting club' on another website. We were quite a small group and used to post daily about our pregnancies and seek support and advice. When we were all about 8 months pregnant, one of the other women posted that her baby had been stillborn. This was accompanied by pictures, her birth story and a request that we make donations in her sons name to SANDS. It turned out to all be a lie. She was never even pregnant. She was an attention junkie I think. Very upsetting at the time but an important lesson for me - never get over invested in the life of someone you only 'know' on the internet.

Thanks Methe we are doing very well and should be home soon

What upsets me as well is that in my case I posted here for advice about Prom as I knew so little about it and wasn't comfortable with what the medical staff were telling me. People on here were very helpful with their stories and advice which helped me a lot. However if trolls continue to post upsetting stories of lies then it's puts of genuine people seeking advice and others helping.

This will make it hard for me to believe anyone ever again sadly.

The lengths people go amazes me. I was on another parenting forum many years ago and there was a prolific poster who had twins (I think) then was pregnant shortly after with twins again had complications various friends her dh etc posted and it was all an elaborate troll.

What was up with the pictures?

I definitely think they fall into the latter category. Even if there is mental illness involved this kind of trolling is so calculated that I fail to have any sympathy for any of them.

I have posted about this before but I used to be a moderator on another site where a prolific and well known poster was discovered having invented multiple personas over the years, all of whom had serious disabilities/health problems. These posters befriended people and then ended up dying. Worst of it is that I know who she is in rl (small community) although I don't know her personally I know people who do.

It just seems like such an odd thing to do, I do feel sad for the people who make things up like this, their mindset must be so dysfunctional to get enjoyment out of creating such stories.

Has it actually been confirmed that troll was the reason it was pulled?