Mens’ reaction to breast implants

[em2001ily]

Just wondering if any men on here have ever been out with a woman with implants, or if she got implants whilst you were together, what you thought about it?

I have B cup breasts, I wouldn’t change them. Apparently I have very nice under boob according to DH 😂

@xpc316e I know that plastic surgery can't cure every emotional problem, you are right about that; but it isn't supposed to, and that's not why most people get it, it just "fixes" a physical feature that the person doesn't like....but that can have a huge impact on their confidence, because whatever anyone says, how we look externally does impact on how we feel about ourselves and how we feel in dating/relationships.

If there's a physical feature we just don't like, and we can change it, and we want to, then for some people it really is the way forward. Some features are more of a big deal than others to men; I'd say men hardly notice or focus on overall body shape, ie shoulders, waist, hips, leg shape, but do size up certain body parts (boobs, bum). Small breast size does cause a lot of insecurity about the physical and problems with intimacy for many women; why else are breast implants so popular?

Women want to feel desired, and they know that men have certain preferences visually - we'd rather meet those preferences and be desired than not. The thought of someone being intimate with you and being disappointed and not turned on by your body is just awful; I and probably most other women would just rather not be intimate when that's the case. Surely you can understand that?

What you essentially said was that you do prefer larger breasts, but you just overlooked them in your partner because she has other good physical and personal qualities..... You still had to overlook them. I'd rather a man just be completely happy with my body.

By the way, to the men on this thread do say they like small breasts - I do trust your word, I just think for me, surgery is the way forward.

I think to show underboob I'd have to wear a very tiny crop top 😂

@Gymbunny2025 Oddly, no - I haven't had any negative comments from exes or men I've dated. I haven't dated for a good few years because I've had a major career change and moved cities, and I wanted to just focus on that.

The thing is, I don't think most men with half a brain would make a negative comment about a woman they were dating's body, even if there was something they didn't like.

One comment I did get was years ago, in my early 20s, when I was even thinner than I am now (now I am healthy, BMI 19ish). I was underweight and had next to no boobs, but I also had very little fat elsewhere. I was wearing a fitted dress, braless, in summer, and a chubby teenage boy in a tracksuit shouted, 'pancakes! pancakes!', over to me. I actually walked over and said: 'you need to clean your mirror before you comment on women's appearances!'. He never replied. His friend next to him said, 'oh I never said that it was him, I think you're really pretty....' It was odd, but it stung, even though I didn't care what they specifically thought, I did wonder whether actual men my own age would think the same thing, but obviously be too polite to say it. But that instance has nothing to do with my overall hatred of my breasts!! It was just one thing that happened to me, and hit a nerve.

@em2001ily

“I'd say men hardly notice or focus on overall body shape, ie shoulders, waist, hips, leg shape” - I completely disagree with this. I would say, in my experience, that overall body shape is more important for physical attraction. Being a healthy weight is probably one of the most important factors for appearing healthy and therefore being considered attractive (a huge amount of attraction is rooted in markers of health).

“Women want to feel desired, and they know that men have certain preferences visually - we'd rather meet those preferences and be desired than not.” Can you actually say what you mean here? Not WOMEN, YOU. I don’t agree with this at all either. My raison d’etre is not to be attractive to men. Why don’t you unpick why you feel like this. Huge potential for growth.

“The thought of someone being intimate with you and being disappointed and not turned on by your body is just awful”. Yes BUT I wouldn’t consider this to be a me problem. If a man was (fuck me) disappointed with my body I’d be disgusted with HIM. I would never ever think that would mean that I need to change myself. Hopefully I would have figured out he was a disgusting twat before we ever got to this stage.

This is a self-esteem issue that isn’t solvable with surgery. I’m not saying don’t have surgery, in reality I don’t care. I just find it frustrating that you are unable to have the insight to understand that your logic model “men like big breasts, I need to change myself” is bollocks.

I have very small boobs and I am very happy like this, always have been. They are perky and my partner plays with them endlessly. I am in my fifties now, I am very happy in my own skin and feel desired. I have a friend whos boobs were bigger than mine (and a fabulous body) but wasn't happy with them and planned to have a boob job. I tried to persuade her she didn't need to, she was beautiful the way she was (which is completely true).
She went ahead and had it done and three years down the line she is so happy with her decision. She loves wearing clothes that show them off and she is never short of attention from men which she loves. She said its the best thing she's done in a long time and I'm very happy for her.

I get why you would want a boob job, I've toyed with the idea a lot over the past 20 years. So if you really want to get it done then get it done and be happy and confident in your choice.

What I would say though is that you sound like you're hanging a lot of your happiness and wanting to be desired on breast size. In my experience, as a small breasted woman, men generally are more attracted to confident, happy women, and don't base their entire attraction on a single body part. And I have to say that I have never ever had a problem attracting men, "despite" having small boobs. I have been told by the men I've been involved with how sexy I am and how gorgeous my figure is. You don't need big boobs to be sexy, as sexy is about more than one aspect of you.

So like I say, get the boob job if it's going to improve how you feel about yourself, but don't get it based on how you think other people are going to view you.

OP I think a lot of pp just aren’t getting where you’re coming from. I get that having bigger boobs will make you feel more attractive and therefore your confidence will naturally increase (whether it needed to or not). Changing a part of your body you think could be better is nothing to be shamed for, I’ve had cosmetic surgery twice (not a boob job) and don’t regret it for a second. I wouldn’t have any more surgery, but I’m happy with what I had.

The only thing I’d say is that you may be swapping what you perceive as the ‘negative’ of small boobs for the ‘negative’ of fake boobs. You seem to place a lot of emphasis on men finding you visually attractive, so this might not be worth the risk for you? I don’t think I’ve ever met a man who has expressed a liking for fake boobs. Do it for you, not how you think men will view you.

@ISpyNoPlumPie You know I actually agree with everything you're saying here, I think I should've just been more specific in my posts.

Not all women want to (or should) try to change themselves to look sexy to men. I just want to, because I personally would rather meet a preference, not because I should but because I want to..

I totally get it that she wants a boob job/bigger boobs. I doubt anyone cares if she gets one or not- we don't know her and it's hardly an extreme course of action!

What I and other posters HAVE disagreed with is that the ONLY way men will find her attractive is to have big boobs. Which is patently rubbish!

Men have commented over 2 posts. Some prefer small boobs. Some prefer big boobs. Most (I suspect) just like BOOBS and really aren't that fussy 😂 but she continue to insist ALL men secretly prefer big boobs. So without the addition of silicon in her chest she'll always be a disappointment. Which all of us know is nonsense (and I suspect fake boobs are far more likely to actively put a guy off!!)

@KhakiShaker Not all fake boobs look obviously fake nowadays. Done well, they can look very realistic. And some of them feel quite realistic too, like quite squishy.

Men don't always know straight away whether boobs are real or fake. Unless they are very badly done implants. Maybe they would notice if they saw any scarring....But for me, it isn't something I plan on lying about anyway.

If someone (partner or in the dating game) doesn't like your breaststroke they need changing, not your breasts. When I was single I didn't care what size boob's are it's the person carrying them that matters. Learn to love what mother nature gave you.

@em2001ily
Many people here have tried to tell you that bigger boobs does not necessarily equal sexy. As I've said before, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

However, to answer your original question, I dated a lady that had had a boob job. They looked and felt natural, so were obviously a good implant, BUT she had some health issues, and it was possible one was "leaking", and she went through a terrible time worrying about the outcome...

At the end of the day, you do you.

OP would you want a man to have pec implants or a penis extension to make sure he was sexy enough for you and that you weren't just putting up with his body when really you preferred something else? Wouldn't you think a man like that must be really insecure and prefer him just to be healthy and confident in himself?

You’re talking about personality though which is a different matter…. I want to be found attractive too.

obviously personality does matter in the long run but physical attraction is also important.

No, I wouldn’t. I don’t even like pecs…. I think they look like tiny boobs 😂

But most women don’t see men’s sexiness/attractiveness like that. Women don’t hone in and fixate on certain body parts in the same way men do. Penis size for women is not what breast size is for (most/many men). Same with height.

I love your attitude, it’s so refreshing - I just wish more people, male as well as female, shared it.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Don't they?

Some of my friends are absolutely fixated on certain physical qualities look how many won't date a short man (they are seriously missing out on that one but that's their call), I'm not being coy, they are all different, some love a big hairy man, others prefer a certain sized cock, but there is definitely physical attraction and preference on body shape and parts for women too. Personally I like a bit of muscle in the arms and chest, not too much, but some but it's only a small part of attraction.

Physical traits are almost never the sole reason any woman or man finds someone attractive. If you think it will make your more attractive, then that is your call.

Women are definitely waaaay more fussy than men (in terms of both physical attributes and overall quality). We have to be as we are the ones who get pregnant (potentially 😂)

Good point, one of my friends once told me all my partners had good hair and teeth. She was right they do but I'd not noticed until it was pointed out, it's obviously instinct trying to introduce those genes to my line😆

When you meet someone it's from mutual attraction so he's not seen you naked unless your on a nudest beach. We don't zone in on a women's tits when looking at someone dressed, we see your face/appearance, what's underneath is irrelevant, if we find someone we like, we instantly like every part of her.

Hmmmm @Anotherbloke1 I'd say most men at least try and imagine us naked before it gets to that stage!!

And saying it's only face that's important- I'm not sure that's true going by all the men complaining of being catfished from face only/flattering pics on OLD that you read about!

For once we agree!!!!!!😂👍

As a bisexual woman I have felt a lot of boobs.. The fake ones are always obvious, hard, weird shape.. don't give her as much pleasure.. I'll take saggy real soft ones ANY day.

Anyone man or women would complain if catfished on OLD. Face is pretty much all you have to go by, so arranging a meet up and see you have been catfished wouldn't be a nice experience, you chose someone because you liked the look of them and probably profile too so you expect that person to turn up.